tigressA Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 So, RG and I are effectively done. Nothing was said--literally, nothing. He went all but completely AWOL on me for awhile, not even going to the class we have together. I haven't bothered trying to be in contact with him during this time, knowing that with the way he was acting he's certainly not worth my time--not then, not now, and not ever again. I thought about it and, far from mourning what never was, I'm happy it ended like this because it confirmed some things for me. --If you have to wonder, if you have to ask yourself, "Are they interested? Do they want to see me/talk to me?" then just assume they're not, that they don't want to, and don't bother with them from there on out. --If they say they're "confused" but they "really like you", bail. No questions, just bail. Period. --If you meet someone and automatically have this "insane" connection with them and you can't help but wonder if it's too good to be true--most likely it is, so you should bail. --Most of all, don't go for someone who's on the rebound. Ever. Hope this helps someone.
northstar1 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 So, RG and I are effectively done. Nothing was said--literally, nothing. He went all but completely AWOL on me for awhile, not even going to the class we have together. I haven't bothered trying to be in contact with him during this time, knowing that with the way he was acting he's certainly not worth my time--not then, not now, and not ever again. I thought about it and, far from mourning what never was, I'm happy it ended like this because it confirmed some things for me. --If you have to wonder, if you have to ask yourself, "Are they interested? Do they want to see me/talk to me?" then just assume they're not, that they don't want to, and don't bother with them from there on out. --If they say they're "confused" but they "really like you", bail. No questions, just bail. Period. --If you meet someone and automatically have this "insane" connection with them and you can't help but wonder if it's too good to be true--most likely it is, so you should bail. --Most of all, don't go for someone who's on the rebound. Ever. Hope this helps someone. All true. There was no way RG was ready for anything else that soon and was compensating. Oh well, lots more out there.
Boundary Problem Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I'm sorry tigressA. Too bad. So did you end up facebooking the brother?
Author tigressA Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 I'm sorry tigressA. Too bad. So did you end up facebooking the brother? Oh don't be. I'm not! And no, I didn't facebook his brother. I figured there was no point in it, since when it happened it was like the middle of the time in which RG and I weren't even speaking or seeing each other, and nothing changed. I probably wouldn't have done it until we would've been in an established relationship, anyway.
Boundary Problem Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 I probably wouldn't have done it until we would've been in an established relationship, anyway. Of course you are right. You have to wait for the right opportunity to balance the interests of the family etc. Sounds like you handled it perfectly.
Author tigressA Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 Thanks, it means a lot. I know quite a few people here on LS were warning me about this, and I truly did take all of it to heart. So much so that I'm pretty sure it's one reason why I never felt upset about what happened. It wasn't a surprise in the least. It was an adventure--abrupt, but fun.
New Again Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Thanks, it means a lot. I know quite a few people here on LS were warning me about this, and I truly did take all of it to heart. So much so that I'm pretty sure it's one reason why I never felt upset about what happened. It wasn't a surprise in the least. It was an adventure--abrupt, but fun. And regardless of what any of us tells/told you...lessons are best learnt on your own, from experience Happy dating (when you're ready...)!
Author tigressA Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 Thanks, New & Awesome I actually have a date on Saturday; I met a guy on campus at one of the shuttle stops. He found me on Facebook, we started talking on AIM, he asked me out for the weekend, I thought "Hey, why not?" I'm just having fun going with the flow, not too concerned with where it takes me. I still have plenty of work to do; I have 4 sit-down finals I've started studying for as well as a 4-5 page paper due next week. My month-long semester break starts at the end of next week; it'll be nice to spend some time with my family, do nothing but re-read my favorite books, stuff my face with really good food that I don't have to cook, and creep around on LS...
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