innocenttears Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Basically we only broke up yesterday, due to the fact he had no 'motivation' to want to see me anymore; as we had been together for 2 years i think we just needed a bit of space. We had been arguing for a while and there was a lack of trust. Now, the promising signs that he might want to get back together are: 1)I said 'do you think we will be apart forever?' to which he replied 'I don't know ' So i mean, he didn't say no i'm sorry we wont be. 2)He still wants to go ice skating on our 2 year anniversary as 'friends.' 3)He still wants to exchange christmas gifts, even if i don't give him his. 4)He said he didn't want to definately tell me we'd get back together incase we didn't, but you never know what we might decide later on. 5)Last time we broke up for the same reason, and 2/3 days later he rang me saying he made a huge mistake and just needed space, so do you think he just needs the same this time? I've decided i won't contact him untill he contacts me, and when he does i'll act as if i'm fine; i'm just scared he might realise he does want to be without me and i'm giving myself false hope. Is hoping we'll be back together before christmas disillusioning myself? Or might it happen? Thanks
deebeechrisyo Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Sorry, but all those "promising signs" are actually him stringing you along. He's basically saying "maybe if my next relationship doesn't work out, I'll get back together with you until I find my next girl". The question is, why do you want to get back together with him? He's already done this to you before, it will just happen again. I would move on, make him regret leaving you.
loveblues Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 sorry but its kinda true to what deebee.. says. If he wants to stick to "friends" typa deal, No. dont allow it! I mean you still got a lot of feelings for him. its just not fair to yourself. tell him no friends, and see what he says... If he didn't really care he would just leave anyway.
Author innocenttears Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 Guess who rang me up last night wanting me back, after only 1 day. GUESS YOU WERE ALL WRONG
NopeNah Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 GUESS YOU WERE ALL WRONGGuess who this is going to continue to happen to
BigTenInchRecord Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Unless you get to the root of your breakup this is never going to last. He will leave again, whether a day, a week, a month, you can count on it happening, unless of course you talk our your issues and really get the roof of them. If you really care about making this relationship work that's what you gotta do. I'm sure you've already cursed this site and ran back to him already though, so you probably won't read this...good luck though.
temple Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 I think that whatever happens, you need space. You've accepted that you've both had certain doubts.. this isn't about proving deebee and loveblues wrong, this is about making sure you're in a healthy, happy relationship. (Which is what both of them are telling you - we're not against you, just giving you advice). Take care of yourself and think about whether this relationship really is what you want.
Kantor Posted December 15, 2009 Posted December 15, 2009 Good luck, be careful. We've all been there, and we'll all be here for you if it doesn't work out.
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