1cowbell Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. The past few months have been rocky. She has been pushing the marrige issue with me and I tell her that before we take that next step we have to work on our communication skills with eachother. She don't take that well and gets angry with me and ignores me or will walk out. I talked to her and said that by her not talking to me i will have to draw my own conclussions. I have talked to her about weding her early on but red flags would come up for me like she likes to get her way, wont look for a job, will get mad easly when I want to talk about relationship issues, etc... At times she will say hurtfull things to me like I am "strange" or "ocd". I have done allot for her over the years but feel that i get no respect. I know she has problems expressing her "good" felings and always got this attitude going on. She resently left to spens some time with family and we don't talk much just some text back and forth. I asked her if she was happy to be away from me and she said sometimes yes and sometimes no, then I will get a text a day later aying that she loves me. I am very emotionly attatched to her and it hurts like hell to here that or to think that she may be thinking of being with someone else. Thank for viewing this post and any input would be appriciated.
GorillaTheater Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 She has been pushing the marrige issue with me and I tell her that before we take that next step we have to work on our communication skills with eachother. She don't take that well and gets angry with me and ignores me or will walk out. I think you may well have a point ... How old are you guys?
deebeechrisyo Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 It sounds like you are going about this the mature way, and she is just too stubborn to try and work out any communication problems. She is also pretty young still. I definitely would not consider marrying this girl anytime soon, if at all. If she can't respect your wishes about working on the current relationship problems without walking out, then she is basically telling you she is very immature and doesn't respect you. I know it hurts, but you may want to rethink whether this girl is right for you or not.
MSUE Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 sounds like she lacks the level of maturity needed...if this is the R now...I would really think twice...well more than twice if this is really the right move for you and what you really want bfore you make a mistake that you will regret
Author 1cowbell Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 I know she is immature but all i want her to do is have a conversation with me that has substance. she has always been vauge with her answers like if I would as her if she wants to get together she would reply with a I dont know or maybe. Why is it so hard for her to give a straight answer i dont think Im asking for much.
MSUE Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 it comes down to level of maturity...I really think thats the case...or thats just the way she is...not just w u but mayb w everyone...if its just w u...then that to me its a red flag
Author 1cowbell Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 I have thought about it allot MSUE and know I do deserve to be treated better. Some of her actions I would consider manipulative to get her way with no thought of how I feel
Author 1cowbell Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 She is not one to just help me with something. At one point she was at my place way morre than hers and the type of person i am, if I was spending allot of time at someones place I would do the dishes, sweep the floor or some action that would say "hey im here to help" It got to the point where I asked her to help out and she got a little attitude with me but she finaly did something. After that she spends more time at ehr place lol
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