that's_me Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Hello, Been w my bf for 4 months and we get along well. Anyway, his company Christmas party is today and I wasn't invited? Is being invited too much to expect? Am I being unnecessarily paranoid?
Boundary Problem Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 sometimes the xmas parties are just for employees, no significant others. Did you ask him?
CarrieT Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Are other employees bringing their loved ones? Because, in this economy, many companies are putting on company parties for the EMPLOYEES only. It is not unlike a company to not want to put out money to extended friends, lovers, or families. It is simply too expensive.
Author that's_me Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 No, but I saw the invitation. It only said that bc alcohol would be served, no children were allowed.
Boundary Problem Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Well if he desperately wanted you to go, he would have asked you - 3 weeks ago. Or did he think you would just say 'no' to attending in any event? Do you have the right outfit to weat? It is just a party. Before you make a big deal - really ask yourself if you want to go. Most of these parties are super boring. If you think you are interested in going, then just casually ask him if you can come. communication.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I don't think you should be offended over not being asked to go to a party. It isn't worth a fight over. I think you should be more worried if he doesn't introduce you to his family in the long run. THAT will really say something about him.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Ya our company holiday party says "Significant others or spouses" only.
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Maybe he just isn't ready to introduce you to his co-workers? Have you met other people in his life?
dazzle22 Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 there are so many possible answers. First, I personally am 99% sure that people are allowed to bring dates. Only the co. of Scrooge et all would not. Every major work party allows for this. So given that, these are the questions.. -have you had the discussion yet as to whether you are a "couple", and are "exclusive"? We women can assume this, and guys often aren't on the same page with this at all. -if he takes you to the party, then you definitely are the "girlfriend", everyone will then after ask about how the two of you are doing, and maybe he doesn't want to open himself to that scrutiny yet. -did he tell you about the party or did you find out from someone else?
BobSacamento Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Have you ever been to a company XMas party? He has spared you, be happy.
Boundary Problem Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Have you ever been to a company XMas party? He has spared you, be happy. I agree. Those events are usually awful. But it is kind of fun to see how everyone reacts to the "new couple".
New Again Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Just ask him. And also, I don't think (?) anyone suggested this yet. Maybe he got the invite months ago and needed to RSVP if he's bringing a date or not, or buy tickets and only bought one...I've definitely seen both scenarios before.
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