Is this normal?

[Nikki88]

Ok, so just for a little background I have never really dated. I have always been a relationship person and for some reason everyone I have been with in the past has been the same...it's just kinda been assumed that we were together, we talked every day and saw each other often.

 

I have been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. We were both very busy the first week due to traveling for Thanksgiving, etc. So we had a date last Thursday, dinner and movie...it went really well. He sent me a text that night thanking me for going and that he would like to see me again. We talked a bit, but not very much on Friday and Saturday. Sunday he asked me when he could see me again....and we set a date for Tuesday. Again we had a great night...out for dinner and a movie at his place...we have great conversation and get along well. I sent him a text the following morning saying good morning and thanking him for another great night...and he responded the same. He said Wednesday that he would like to see me this weekend if he didn't end up going away for a tournament in PA. I haven't heard from him since.

 

Now I really like this guy, and don't want to come on too strong so I'm trying to wait for him to contact me....but do things sound normal so far, like he is interested? I just don't know how to read these things....how often should we see each other, how often should we talk, etc. Any advice?

 

Thanks,

Nikki

[DustySaltus]

He said Wednesday that he would like to see me this weekend if he didn't end up going away for a tournament in PA. I haven't heard from him since.

 

Hmmmmmmmmmm, something is fishy here. I don't know what typ of tournament it is, but you usually know about these things a few weeks, even months in advance. He might be a smooth operator and you could be a backup plan (i hate to say it but i'm just being honest).

 

Maybe i'm just being a bit skeptical (It's only been two days since you talked) but I would give him a call this evening just to say hi and set something up for next week. I bet you $1 he does not pick up the phone. I hope i'm wrong, but my instincts are usually pretty good. If he does pick up, set something up and keep doing what you are doing. At the 5-7 date mark you can start to broach the subject of where you think this is heading so you don't waste anymore time....let us know what happens.

[Nikki88]

Hmmmmmmmmmm, something is fishy here. I don't know what typ of tournament it is, but you usually know about these things a few weeks, even months in advance. He might be a smooth operator and you could be a backup plan (i hate to say it but i'm just being honest).

 

Maybe i'm just being a bit skeptical (It's only been two days since you talked) but I would give him a call this evening just to say hi and set something up for next week. I bet you $1 he does not pick up the phone. I hope i'm wrong, but my instincts are usually pretty good. If he does pick up, set something up and keep doing what you are doing. At the 5-7 date mark you can start to broach the subject of where you think this is heading so you don't waste anymore time....let us know what happens.

 

Thanks for your reply. I am not worried about the tournament thing. He plays the game "Magic" and there is a tournament this weekend in PA. He was planning to go with a group of guys and 3 of them have backed out. He and his roommate were trying to figure out if they were still going to go. He told me all about it on our date Tuesday.

 

But, I think I will drop him a line tonight and see what he's up to.

 

Nikki

[Yukikazi]

Did you actually respond when he said he wanted to see you this weekend if he wasn't going OOT?

If not then yea its your turn to say something to him. Remember you have to know so you can make other plans cause you got your own life also.

[phineas]

he may just not know if he's going yet.

 

But if you didn't get back to him to say you wanted to get together if he wasn't going he might not think you want to & wouldn't feel a need to keep you posted.