how do i get over him???

[jessicasilver]

its been 3 months now that my ex boyfriend has ended our 1 and a half year relationship, i was always the one making the effort and it just seemed like he didnt care anymore. we ended up arguing all the time and he ended it out the blue which hurt me alot. i refused to ask him to come back to me even though i still loved him with all my heart and we remained friends which was hard for me! i done everything for him, brought him gifts just before he went on holiday, if he needed me i would put my own priorities second to be there for him and i feel like there was nothing left for me to fight for apart from the fact that i loved him dearly. even though we wernt together i went to his birthday even when his own friends let him down but he couldnt come to mine. 3 weeks ago i saw pictures of him and a girl, i automatically assumed he had a new girlfriend which hurt lke hell so i deleted him from my life. i havent heard from him since apart from him calling my brother a few times, but i assumed he didnt care like always so again im the one left hurt and his probably happy he doesnt have to hear from me again. i have met another guy and we are growing very close, his gorgeous compared to my ex (my ex wasnt much of a looker) but that doesnt stop me from caring about him ! how can i get over him after the way he treated me?????

[sugarmomma]

Time is the only way to heal the wounds of a broken heart. Stay away from him and never chase a man when he wants to leave. You shouldn't have to fight for someone to love you. Love is a gift. It should be freely given and freely received. I wish you the best with the new guy.

[bluestraps]

I know that there was a time I needed somebody to bring me hapiness for a short while, and they did. And I know they did too.Many of us are hoping to get our exes back . We are going thru NC, We are waiting, some are still in communication with the other person. We are in some cases maybe scheming, praying , begging or just plain going crazy.We must let others make mistakes... If you believe in a God or not does not matter. We have freewill it is plain to see, we can't controll others and others can't controll us.We as people should constantly grow and become better individuals. We learn from our mistakes and mature and go on. If we could get the other person to see it our way and just come back, we would not allow them to make mistakes and learn from them. In many cases maybe we are to blame for relationships failing, and it is better that we dont get what we want.We must let the other person find out if they have made a mistake by leaving us. Maybe in time they will. The point is we cant mess with the past or the future. If we could change what has happened, all the better things in the future will not come.For thoes of you who know what Presentism is, the concept that the past and future does not really exist, only the present. Then we cannot even efect either if we tried. we should not worry about the past or the future because it simply does not exist anymoreWe should not mess with the "space-time continum". We should have learned valuable lessons from our "Present" situation.Also we should allow the ones we love to do the same. And come back if they are wise enough to see it.