DenverBachelor Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 (edited) In my heart, I felt it coming. I was served with a civil injunction by my ex. It is a temporary restraining order until the court date in mid-late December. Amazingly, many of her allegations are complete exaggerations or outright fabrications. This means I have to hire a lawyer to clear my name and get this expunged or sealed. What amazes me most is that her current boyfriend outright lied saying that I tried to break into her apartment by trying an old key and then banging on the door. I've been completely railroaled. I've been ditched under a bus, had it back up over me and then park. I can't even walk into my own apartment complex and go up to my floor without violating the restraining order, so I had to file a motion for amendment because I cannot physically adhere to the restrictions of the restraining order (common areas, ingress / egress areas, elevators, parking garage, etc.) A part of me wants to file civil suits against her and her boyfriend, but it is ultimately a losing proposition. I need to just move on and put this chapter of my life behind me. Who cares what she or her family thinks of me from the present to the future -- the truth is an absolute outside any one person's opinion. What amazes me the most is how seven years of solid friendship and sharing so much has come to this. I'm beside myself in despair. It is if she has shot a cannon right into a building and the building collapsed. So now I am the only one left to know the truth and to move on. I'm the only one to carry the memories that weren't corrupted by false accusations, paranoia and outright lies. And I thought getting detention in high school was a tough lesson. This is definitely a blow straight through the heart -- as if every piece was reduced to small atoms that just spread out through the soul and ricocheted through the boundaries of time. Too many people's opinions tainted -- too many memories destroyed. What an interesting reality -- and what an oh so sad and misfortunate outcome. The past year and a half will definitely be the most ... the most ... I'm not sure the word exists? I can't believe she decided to have me served at work. Even my lawyer said that's one of the most ****ed up things he's seen in his career. Edited December 11, 2009 by DenverBachelor
McGrupp Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 so weird if u didnt do anything. they are just sitting in their apt talking about you all the time probably. so weird...
Ronni_W Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 DB, I'm so sorry that happened to you! I really don't have any other words to say. Sending hugs, and wishes for much brighter tomorrows.
McGrupp Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 what did it say you did besides coming to the apt.? harassment? so weird..
Kic Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Outrageous. Stay strong and see this through. One day you'll look back on this, shake your head and smile.
Author DenverBachelor Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Outrageous. Stay strong and see this through. One day you'll look back on this, shake your head and smile. Well I guess I'm halfway there -- i'm already shaking my head.
Boundary Problem Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 No one can take your memories away from you. But in time, this will fade. I'm sorry it has come to this. It is their last little power game. But they don't realize that the game is already over.
Author DenverBachelor Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 No one can take your memories away from you. But in time, this will fade. I'm sorry it has come to this. It is their last little power game. But they don't realize that the game is already over. Thanks Boundary -- as they say, this too, shall pass.
nobmagnet Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 why do people kick us when we are down?? I feelfor you I really do..........you dodged a bullet xxxxxxxx hugs
Art_Critic Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 (edited) Accept your responsibility in this.. take whatever maneuvers you have to to protect yourself and MOVE ON. Now that you have no choice in the matter you need to make the necessary adjustments in your life to check out of this and learn from your part or participation in all this mess. Make sure you do things such as save receipts to where you are going so you have a record on your future whereabouts.. Make sure if you are on camera anywhere that you look into the camera so that if you had to prove where you were at a time in the future that you could. You are legally really vulnerable at this point and she holds all the power.. With one phone call she could make up a story and boom.. you are not in compliance with the TPO. When all this is over.. take your licks for your part in it and move on... but regardless make sure you protect yourself from this escalating from her point. Edited December 12, 2009 by Art_Critic
You'reasian Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 In my heart, I felt it coming. I was served with a civil injunction by my ex. It is a temporary restraining order until the court date in mid-late December. Amazingly, many of her allegations are complete exaggerations or outright fabrications. This means I have to hire a lawyer to clear my name and get this expunged or sealed. What amazes me most is that her current boyfriend outright lied saying that I tried to break into her apartment by trying an old key and then banging on the door. I've been completely railroaled. I've been ditched under a bus, had it back up over me and then park. I can't even walk into my own apartment complex and go up to my floor without violating the restraining order, so I had to file a motion for amendment because I cannot physically adhere to the restrictions of the restraining order (common areas, ingress / egress areas, elevators, parking garage, etc.) A part of me wants to file civil suits against her and her boyfriend, but it is ultimately a losing proposition. I need to just move on and put this chapter of my life behind me. Who cares what she or her family thinks of me from the present to the future -- the truth is an absolute outside any one person's opinion. What amazes me the most is how seven years of solid friendship and sharing so much has come to this. I'm beside myself in despair. It is if she has shot a cannon right into a building and the building collapsed. So now I am the only one left to know the truth and to move on. I'm the only one to carry the memories that weren't corrupted by false accusations, paranoia and outright lies. And I thought getting detention in high school was a tough lesson. This is definitely a blow straight through the heart -- as if every piece was reduced to small atoms that just spread out through the soul and ricocheted through the boundaries of time. Too many people's opinions tainted -- too many memories destroyed. What an interesting reality -- and what an oh so sad and misfortunate outcome. The past year and a half will definitely be the most ... the most ... I'm not sure the word exists? I can't believe she decided to have me served at work. Even my lawyer said that's one of the most ****ed up things he's seen in his career. Definitely. Look at how fast she got a new boyfriend. Nuff said. Enjoy your life, bro. Live it through action - not someone elses words.
carhill Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 You need to get out of that apartment . Yeah, it's not like you own the thing. Get out of there and far away from that insanity. Let her rant away in court. It'll just make her look like the idiot, trust me.
WiseOne1 Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 So she let her new BF talk her into taking out a restraining order on you, or did she choose to do it herself for no reason. I've read through some of your past threads and to me she acted no diffrent than the rest of out ex's, she waved, texted back and now this????
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