fallendisguise Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I apologize if this is the wrong place to post this, but since this is the dating page and I'm sure most of us talk about it with friends it seemed somewhat appropriate. How do you handle a friend who doesn't want to talk about your dating life? I have been really good friends with this woman for about 3 years now. We have been there for each other through difficult times. We consider each other family. However, we work together so sometimes our personal lives are shared during work hours (I know shame on me, slacker!) Anywho, in fairness to her I was someone who in the past had a hard time letting go and would keep overanalyzing the same situation over and over again. It was draining to her I'm sure. Since my last guy I have learned to not do that. I was in an unhappy situation at the time (for me) so I think that is why I wasted so much thinking and talking on it. BUT, I have gone through the same thing with her. She was in a bad relationship and even though I would tell her to leave and she didn't want to, I would sit and talk to her and support her for hours even though I didn't agree. Since she is in a great relationship and it almost seems like she thinks my dating life now is nonsense. So now, she doesn't think I should continue to date the guy I'm dating. I appreciate her advice and I do listen and consider where she is coming from. Her BF's friend is interested in me. I have told her from the start that I didn't want to date anyone who is friends of her BFs. I think if it doesn't work out it could be messy and awkward for all parties involved. But, she kept pushing the issue. Well tonight she said that she was telling her BF to tell his friend to stay away from me and that he doesn't want to get involved with my "mess." That hurt. I had planned on telling the guy I was dating someone and didn't really want to get involved in something close to home anyway, but coming from someone who is a friend just really bothered me. I don't want to grow distant because I don't want to burden her with my "messy, obsessive, commitmentphobic, neurotic" love life, but I can't help but feel like doing that. Has anyone had this problem with a best friend and how did you deal with it? I try to only run things by her when I'm really not sure.. but apparentely that is still "too" much. She now has a great relationship and I now feel like I am on a lower level in her eyes since I don't. She is about 3 years older than I am.. so maybe it's maturity? Thanks! (Sorry for the long post)
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