1life8love1trust Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Hey guys new to this forum group. Anyways wanted to share what I am going through. Its been about three months now and it still hurts. I am learning to get over her now but a part of me still miss her. My story is very similar to all these post, I know cause I read everyone of them. Its been three months, that was one of the ways that kept me sane knowing that everybody has and will go through it. If you don't lucky for you. Anyways really short cause I don't want to reminisce about it. Been together for 3 years, I loved her with all my heart, all of it(my mistake here), she loved me too, until cupid hit her with another arrow to fall for another guy. Just like in most relationships there was fights. More through words than physical. No physical. More on the topic of finance. I went through jobs after jobs during our relationship and eventually landed an awesome high paying job right before she left me. She love going out, and thats fine. She had the money, but I am old fashion and I picked up the tab. Most of the time when I had money left after mpnthly bills. Anyways other than that it was more the money issue. There was something that I did that could also cause her to change... I was a jealous boyfriend. To a degree, at least I thin. She like liked to make guy friends, kinda like big brother friends, but we are in America not the Philippines. She would be doing brother sister things that annoyed me. I can understand with her old friends from way back when but the new ones I didn't understand. So anyways her break up was cut throat. Not missing a beat she said we should cool off at first then she gave me a week and a half, me acting desperate like people who get dumped, then she broke up with me. And believe me I did everything! Eventually about a week or two in, I realized how desperate I was so I stoped. I went online seeking for help. I found alot of break up tips and forums and I got all the e books and read all the forums. At the same time keeping a good fit athletic body. I did everything it told me to do. Didn't contact her for a month, eventually did told her that I was ok with her decision. She tells me shes in a new relationship now.(See this is where I am confused, 3 years and your already commited to this one dude? That mind you, you met what 2-3 months?) Anyways no big deal right? Well not really, I really hurt me. Anyways I have really talk to her more after that intial contact, I told her I was happy for her and that I wish her the best. She told me, when she was breaking up with me that she wanted to be friends. I said no, cause am I suppose to watch you with aother dude? THe tips I learned is its ok to be friends, but I called her out on this but I guess she is in lockdown with her new dude. New dude is not the same race as us btw. We are both from traditional family backgrounds so this hurt twice as much. Anyways here I am Living a nice healthy and fit life with new stuff. At first it was dine to get her back, but now I am learning to live my life for me, not for her. I have gone on a couple of dates but I still think of her. I don;t need her. I might still want her, but I know what she did was wrong and I am trying the best I can to not love her anymore. Still there is that 12% left in my heart thats hopping to reconcile. Things would be easier to understand had I made a mistake and she called me out on it, but she didn't. I know its more a sub conscience thing from what I have read and well. Time will only tell I guess...... I didnt proof read this so sorry if at some parts I don't make any sense. Wanted to keep it as short as possible.
bluestraps Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Try to still be her friend , she may talk to you if the new guy and her are having problems. you dont have to see this other guy and her much .But keep the communication open. At least shes willing to do this . My ex and I were ok until august of this year. By spetember she left me for my best friend . She didnt want to be friends , I dont see how we could but I can take alot. Maybe the new relationship wont work out.
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