gaura Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I am trying very hard to get over an incredibly difficult break up. I am looking for suggestions of books that have been helpful to others. Any suggestions??? Thank you!
GrayClouds Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 This one is a good one: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life - Susan Anderson
norajane Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I like mystery novels. Those always help me get through a break-up because they focus my mind OFF me me me, my ex, and my broken heart and ON the characters...none of whom are falling in love and having romances, ha! Sara Paretsky writes a series of novels about a woman detective; they're very smart and require you to think. Self-help books are fine, but only if they make you laugh. Otherwise, they're just prolonging you thinking about the relationship and your ex.
madrugada Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 If you like poetry, I would recommend "The Insistence of Beauty," by Stephen Dunn. It's a collection of poems about loving and losing and what it is to be human and breakable. If that's too heavy, I'd say read anything that takes your mind off your pain. Norajane is right about reading anything that takes your mind off your ex. It's difficult to say. I'm a reading addict, but in the last six weeks I haven't been able to focus enough to read more than five minutes at a time. The only books I've been able to read are really terrible detective novels. But hey, it passes the time.
GrayClouds Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I also like "How Proust Can Change Your Life" I learned a little more about myself and a little more about Proust...but to be honest neither subject has been helpful getting dates at a bar.
soheartbroken Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Journey From Abandonment to healing, which I see GrayClouds has also recommended. I would really go for it. Best thing I've read. Funny that Nora Jane should recommend mystery novels. I've done a lot of those since the split, because they can keep you somewhat distracted if you try to figure out the mystery. Also funny that she mentioned Paretsky because I read one of those for the first time after my breakup. I actually didn't like it so much because the lady detective had a boyfriend and it made me sad. I would recommend Sue Grafton instead. Try an audio book if you get a chance. Keep rewinding until you pay attention!
Author gaura Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 thank you so much for your suggestions. i'm going to the bookstore tomorrow so this will be very helpful. thanks again!
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