bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Women for some reason love taken men. If I ask a girl out, and she asks "do you have a girlfriend?" what should I say? If I say "no" I look like a loser that girls dont want to date (partially true but we dont need them knowing that, now do we? lol). If I say "yes" they may be intrigued, but may think I'm a player, or just not want to date a guy with a girlfriend. What do I say? Should I just say "I'm seeing someone on and off" or something? Something in the middle? Any advice? And if you say "no" and they ask "why dont you have a girlfriend" what do you say to that?
Ophelia Rue Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Ugh. Not me! If a guy says he's taken I back right off. Nevertheless, I would never ask a guy if he had a girlfriend. I don't hit on guys. Not my job. Girls who want taken men are desperate and not worthy of your attention. Just say "NO". The worthy ones will respect you.
D-Lish Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I don't ask either- but if a guy was hitting on me and told me he was seeing someone, I'd think he was a scumbag. What you might be overlooking is that if you tell a girl you are hitting on that you are taken- she will at the very least envision you hitting on another woman behind her back as well. That's what I would think- this guy is a cheater, and if I get involved with him, he'll hit on other girls behind my back too.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Just tell the truth. I would have zero interest in a guy that's "taken." Or even "seeing someone." But then - I'm into monogamy. Or is that not the type of woman you're trying to attract?
BUENG1 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Women for some reason love taken men. If I ask a girl out, and she asks "do you have a girlfriend?" what should I say? If I say "no" I look like a loser that girls dont want to date (partially true but we dont need them knowing that, now do we? lol). If I say "yes" they may be intrigued, but may think I'm a player, or just not want to date a guy with a girlfriend. What do I say? Should I just say "I'm seeing someone on and off" or something? Something in the middle? Any advice? And if you say "no" and they ask "why dont you have a girlfriend" what do you say to that? You could say your not exclusively dating anybody? That seems to imply you have options and is not technically dishonest. But I would think a simple no would do.
jw90063 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Why not just be honest and tell them you don't have a GF because you have issues. Then when the girls asked why, just give them all the links to the stupid threads you have come up with on here. They will then understand.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Why not just be honest and tell them you don't have a GF because you have issues. Then when the girls asked why, just give them all the links to the stupid threads you have come up with on here. They will then understand. Awwww, my first stalker. What should my pet name for you be?
Yukikazi Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Tell them you have many girlfriends If she asks if there is someone special/specific.. With a smile of course "I'm accepting applications"
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Tell them you have many girlfriends If she asks if there is someone special/specific.. With a smile of course "I'm accepting applications" Are you serious? lol
ZeGuitarist Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Single doesn't necessarily equate to being a loser (obviously you're not that big a loser if girls are asking you this question, haha). "Do you have a girlfriend" is secret girl code that equates to her essentially asking you out by seeing if you're actually available. You should say "No," if you're interested in her. Saying "Yes" can, at best, land you the kind of girl you probably don't really want, and at worst, cause you to miss out on an opportunity with a genuinely awesome girl. Saying something in between is pretty bad as well, since a lot of girls have this quirky habit of what I refer to as "selective hearing." Chances are, if you say something like "I'm seeing someone on and off," they will hear only the "I'm seeing someone" part of it, which is pretty much the same as saying "Yes." And if you say "no" and they ask "why dont you have a girlfriend" what do you say to that? You can say a lot of things in response to this. In my experience, when a girl asks this question, she's being playful and probably wants to solve your "problem" of not having a girlfriend. I usually respond with something along the lines of "I haven't found a girl who's worth the trouble, but I'm keeping my eyes peeled," which displays a certain level of confidence and lack of desperation/neediness that girls seem to go for. Though, as with all "lines" like the one above, it's more in the delivery and how you sell it than what you actually say. Individual results may vary. Hope that helps some. - Z
threebyfate Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 You guys are creeping me out badly. Many of those responses will also creep out other women. If you're looking for women with a semblance of self-esteem, be honest, since they're looking for single men. If you're looking for women with no self-esteem, carry on. And you wonder why you keep striking out?
D-Lish Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 If you're looking for women with a semblance of self-esteem, be honest, since they're looking for single men. If you're looking for women with no self-esteem, carry on. That's what I was thinking- but you said it so eloquently. If you're looking to set up some competition scenario, believing that women like to compete with one another- I concur, carry on. The same women that thrive on that, thrive on attention and drama. So ~ good luck with what you end up with. You'll be on here within 3 months posting about your gf flirting with your best friend. Very few women with self worth will want to engage a man who intimates he is otherwise engaged with others.
TheLoneSock Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Women for some reason love taken men. If I ask a girl out, and she asks "do you have a girlfriend?" what should I say? If I say "no" I look like a loser that girls dont want to date (partially true but we dont need them knowing that, now do we? lol). If I say "yes" they may be intrigued, but may think I'm a player, or just not want to date a guy with a girlfriend. What do I say? Should I just say "I'm seeing someone on and off" or something? Something in the middle? Any advice? And if you say "no" and they ask "why dont you have a girlfriend" what do you say to that? You just answer her, this is a yes or not question. If she's interested, she's interested - having a girlfriend or not having one aren't going to alter that by much, if at all.
TheLoneSock Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Ugh. Not me! If a guy says he's taken I back right off. Nevertheless, I would never ask a guy if he had a girlfriend. I don't hit on guys. Not my job. Girls who want taken men are desperate and not worthy of your attention. Just say "NO". The worthy ones will respect you. I wouldn't call Lizzie60 desperate. I'd call her hot as f*ck.
jw90063 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 More like girls who want taken men are desperately seeking attention.
Rudderless Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 This is seriously dumb. Women on the whole don't ask questions like that unless they're very interested or they're your aunty's friend or something. In which case saying yes is either going to drive them off or not going to lead them to setting them up with their daughter, depending on which scenario it is.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Uh you should tell them if you got a girlfriend or not. Is it that hard?
Rudderless Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Uh you should tell them if you got a girlfriend or not. Is it that hard? Well I mean it might be if you're asking them out.. Odd really, I suspect the guy that has a girlfriend would say no, whereas the OP is considering saying yes It's a pretty odd question to be asked by someone who you're asking out anyway...
jw90063 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Well I mean it might be if you're asking them out.. Odd really, I suspect the guy that has a girlfriend would say no, whereas the OP is considering saying yes It's a pretty odd question to be asked by someone who you're asking out anyway... Trolls ask odd questions.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Trolls ask odd questions. I guess you'd know.
jw90063 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I guess you'd know. Like its obvious because you are flooding the dating section of LS with any question you can think of.
D-Lish Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Trolls ask odd questions. Oh no- is this "shirtless online dater" troll...again?
Rudderless Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Trolls ask odd questions. Or maybe he has a new insight into success with women, the double reverse logic angle or something
jw90063 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Oh no- is this "shirtless online dater" troll...again? Are you asking if I am?
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