cognac Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Because you are probably a doormat who babies these women more than they deserve. Be the man, your way or the highway! And magically the games disappear. It's exactly WHY women play games, to challenge men and test their dominance.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Because you are probably a doormat who babies these women more than they deserve. Be the man, your way or the highway! And magically the games disappear. It's exactly WHY women play games, to challenge men and test their dominance. Not really dude, I ignored her texts and basically said we're done after she blew me off. She came back begging to go out and I foolishly did. I should have said no, but I dont think I was a doormat. What is it with this "dominance" sh*t anyway? Should I start grunting and stop shaving. Is that it? lol I stand up for myself and others when I have to. I dont think I need or should be required to be any more dominant than that. If I do, then I think the woman needs a bodyguard, not a mate.
cognac Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Not really dude, I ignored her texts and basically said we're done after she blew me off. She came back begging to go out and I foolishly did. I should have said no, but I dont think I was a doormat. What is it with this "dominance" sh*t anyway? Should I start grunting and stop shaving. Is that it? lol I stand up for myself and others when I have to. I dont think I need or should be required to be any more dominant than that. If I do, then I think the woman needs a bodyguard, not a mate. Contrary to what your mom told you women wanted, yes, they do want a brute or barbarian in some shape or form. It's the reason why all guys are always harping on and on about how they're nice guys and don't get any play, but the truth is you can be nice but only on YOUR terms as a man, not on theirs. That is the NATURAL LAW, and regardless of what they say, what women want. Women want, biologically speaking, someone to take charge of them and tell them what to do. Just try it out. You'll be shocked at just how well it works and how natural it feels.
Jaytb Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Well, as a "normal" woman, I think your problem is fairly obvious now. "Normal women" don't go out to meet men that are good enough to sleep with. We look for men who are suitable mates (ie. no obvious red flags) with the prospect of a relationship or marriage. If there is ANY indication of your attitude that anything below an 8 is a pig, then that right there will kill any interest that a normal, attractive woman will have in you. Doesn't matter if she's a 9 or 10, she knows she isn't getting any younger and isn't going to consider you a prospect if you think only "hot girls" are worthy of you. So, you really need to make your decision - you can keep being strung along by hot girls who aren't serious (and therefore have many prospects and arent' really concerned about keeping you around), or you can just try and approach a "hot girl" and treat her like a person, rather than a physical being. yeah I agree with this. OP, your view on relationships is going to be a turn-off for all those who won't "play mind games" and all those who want a fulfilling relationship. If you want 9's or 10's go for it, but don't think that won't lead to problems later on (or early on).
threebyfate Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 If you want 9's or 10's go for it, but don't think that won't lead to problems later on (or early on).Actually, I don't think it will lead anywhere.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Yeh but did you read what I just posted? I dont deny what you said. No woman likes a wuss. I dont think I fit in that category though, mabye you disagree? I told this last girl who blew me off that I dont think its going to work then I ignored her and she came back to me. I stood up for myself but it still didnt work out in the end. I guess I still need to improve? And basically I just told another chick recently after she blew me off for a 1st date to call me if you wanna chill, but I'm not calling you anymore. I'm done. And she basically told me to f*ck myself LOL. I did feel pretty good to tell her off, though. She was playing games. So cognac, lets say you tell a woman you dont like how shes treating you if she blows you off, and she tells you "I dont know you that well, you dont talk to me like that. You need to change or I'm not going to se you" what would you say to that?
norajane Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Anything below an 8 is a pig. No seriously, I would say 8 and up I would go out with. Its not so much about being picky, I just dont see why so many guys set the bar so low for themselves. What is the friggin point of "banging" a girl who is, lets say, a 5 or 6? You think I'm going to risk STD's and all the other crap out there for that? I just fail to see the point of banging an ugly, or even average looking chick. I'd rather have nothing, which is what I currently have lol. To me, it defeats the purpose. But I guess a lot of guys think to themselves "Gosh its been 3 or 4 months since I got action...I just HAVE to bang SOMETHING. Never understood that ego thing. Whats the point dude? Have you considered that these women may be playing games with you because it's obvious to them you only care about banging them, and aren't remotely interested in anything but whether they are high on your bang-able scale?
Jaytb Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Actually, I don't think it will lead anywhere. well it may lead to a purely superficial relationship. at least that's something
threebyfate Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 well it may lead to a purely superficial relationship. at least that's something If a girl is looking for a purely superficial relationship, she'll be shooting for an equal match, in looks.
Jaytb Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 If a girl is looking for a purely superficial relationship, she'll be shooting for an equal match, in looks. wouldn't you say if a girl was looking for money, it would be superficial as well?
threebyfate Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I don't mean to insult you, but are you rich? There are of course, exceptions to every rule. If you have money, of course an attractive girl won't play games. No offense. I'm sure you're a great guy and all, but cmon. Mind telling me where to meet these "down to Earth" women who are nice looking and happen to have sweet personalities? I can't find any. And I'm no slouch in the looks deptartment. I also think my personality is pretty normal. Yet they all play head games with me. wouldn't you say if a girl was looking for money, it would be superficial as well? As per above, this isn't an attribute the OP possesses but yes, money is a superficial requirement, especially if she has none, rather than looking for an equal partner.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Have you considered that these women may be playing games with you because it's obvious to them you only care about banging them, and aren't remotely interested in anything but whether they are high on your bang-able scale? Have you considered you don't know what you're even talking about? It always amuses me when people come up with theories that are a thousand miles off-base. I'm interested in a long term relationship. If I wanted pure sex, I'd hire a hooker buddy.
dark1san Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 hate to toot my own horn ruby slippers, but being a tall heavyset man, i have a great reputation on how good I am down there on a woman
norajane Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Have you considered you don't know what you're even talking about? It always amuses me when people come up with theories that are a thousand miles off-base. I'm interested in a long term relationship. If I wanted pure sex, I'd hire a hooker buddy. If you come across to people here that you're shallow and only interested in banging and nothing else, then how do you think you come across to women you meet?
TheLoneSock Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Whenever women play head games with guys, we hear justification for it like "oh they can't help it...it's just how they are pre-wired. Women are pre-wired to act like this from evolution BLAH BLAH BLAH..." If that's true, then how come fat girls never play head games? Are they not to be considered women? Fat girls are basically men with boobs. Straight foward, no-nonsense. No head games. No bull. At least that's how they'd act with a handsome guy who was crushing on them. Now you're gonna say "well, the fat girl has no options. So she has to act this way"...but wait a minute. I thought women "had no control" over how they act, right? I thought women were "pre-wired" to play head games with men, right? So why are fat girls different? To say a fat girl "has no options so she must act that way" implies that she has control over how she acts. That she KNOWS what she's doing! So if the fat girl "knows what she's doing" and has control over how she acts, how do attractive women get a pass for the way THEY act? Or are fat girls just a different species? I'm curious. Thanks. Because they can't afford that luxury, or else they probably would. If a guy is going to put up with any bullsh*t, it's probably only going to be for an attractive girl.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 If you come across to people here that you're shallow and only interested in banging and nothing else, then how do you think you come across to women you meet? Looks are only one attribute, but its an important one. Its not the only one though. Sorry if I came across that way to you. But your assumption is false. I dont recall "people" thinking I am like this, only you so far. If anything, I probably do not convey ENOUGH sexuality when out on dates. And lets face it, you women love guys who want to use and abuse them. So dont act like if I came across like I wanted to bang a woman it'd be a turn-off for her. Not if the guy is handsome anyway.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I detect head games, and i play them back. I schedule dates and then flake. I tell them how much I care, but don't show it. It's fun.
cognac Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Looks are only one attribute, but its an important one. Its not the only one though. Sorry if I came across that way to you. But your assumption is false. I dont recall "people" thinking I am like this, only you so far. If anything, I probably do not convey ENOUGH sexuality when out on dates. And lets face it, you women love guys who want to use and abuse them. So dont act like if I came across like I wanted to bang a woman it'd be a turn-off for her. Not if the guy is handsome anyway. Don't listen to these women. I think it's ridiculous that you won't date a girl whose a 6 or a 7 if she's a good person or easy to get along with, but then again most women are like you anyway (won't date anyone under an 8) so don't listen to them nag at your own personal standards. But unlike women ,you're a guy so dating is a lot harder. Maybe you should set your standards a little lower, most women who are very attractive (and in general actually) have nothing but dog**** in their peabrains anyway.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Don't listen to these women. I think it's ridiculous that you won't date a girl whose a 6 or a 7 if she's a good person or easy to get along with, but then again most women are like you anyway (won't date anyone under an 8) so don't listen to them nag at your own personal standards. But unlike women ,you're a guy so dating is a lot harder. Maybe you should set your standards a little lower, most women who are very attractive (and in general actually) have nothing but dog**** in their peabrains anyway. See I'm not sure what your rating system is. I'm not looking for a Cindy Crawford, just a "pretty" girl. If thats a 6 or 7 then thats fine with me. I'm not sure what these numbers mean lol. I rate pretty girls like a 7 or 8 I guess. Not looking for physical perfection. And sometimes I might find a girl attractive that my friend doesnt find attractive. Sometimes its about sex appeal too, which is subjective.
jw90063 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 So OP, what are you on a scale of 1-10? Do you have a picture. Would be interesting to see.
Jersey Shortie Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 So much wrong here, so little time. It's all good though. Posts like these are good lessons for women to remind themselves and learn what to look out for within in the heart of a man.
donnamaybe Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 I just refuse to date a pig. Maybe the women you know feel the same way.
threebyfate Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Here's a thought. Maybe heavier girls don't play head games, since you don't play games with them.
bean1 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Well BBasher, good luck to you in finding that attractive normal woman. You seem to only listen to one person - cognac - who if I recall, has a pretty crap history with women to begin with. No sense in listening to the women in good relationships or the man in a good relationship. You say you want a relationship, but you come off as the kind of guy that is only looking for someone to sleep with. No "normal" attractive woman would be interested in that. So good luck and keep spinning your wheels, let us know how that works out.
alphamale Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Or are fat girls just a different species? I'm curious. Thanks. comparing fat girls to attractive skinny girls is like comparing apples to oranges
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