bbasher75 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Whenever women play head games with guys, we hear justification for it like "oh they can't help it...it's just how they are pre-wired. Women are pre-wired to act like this from evolution BLAH BLAH BLAH..." If that's true, then how come fat girls never play head games? Are they not to be considered women? Fat girls are basically men with boobs. Straight foward, no-nonsense. No head games. No bull. At least that's how they'd act with a handsome guy who was crushing on them. Now you're gonna say "well, the fat girl has no options. So she has to act this way"...but wait a minute. I thought women "had no control" over how they act, right? I thought women were "pre-wired" to play head games with men, right? So why are fat girls different? To say a fat girl "has no options so she must act that way" implies that she has control over how she acts. That she KNOWS what she's doing! So if the fat girl "knows what she's doing" and has control over how she acts, how do attractive women get a pass for the way THEY act? Or are fat girls just a different species? I'm curious. Thanks.
BookerT Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I think when it comes to the no control part, it's more like GENERALLY if either men or women know they are attractive and have options they are more likely to abuse their power. So girls that are chased by a lot of men may lead a lot of guys on. Guys that are attractive often turn into players. No everyone goes down this path, but there's a natural inclination to abuse power, it's human nature.
norajane Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 how do attractive women get a pass for the way THEY act?Because the guys they play let them get away with it, that's why. They don't walk away; they stick around and ask for more. The amount of b.s. a woman gets away with is directly proportional to the strength of her hold on a guy's balls. If his little head is doing all his thinking for him because she's just sooo very hot, then he's going to let her get away with everything.
bean1 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 So if the fat girl "knows what she's doing" and has control over how she acts, how do attractive women get a pass for the way THEY act? . Well, the answer to that is quite simple. Attractive women don't get any consequences from it - guys still call them, want to be with them, yadda yadda. A man would drop a fat chick like a hot potato.
paddington bear Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Whenever women play head games with guys, we hear justification for it like "oh they can't help it...it's just how they are pre-wired. Women are pre-wired to act like this from evolution BLAH BLAH BLAH..." If that's true, then how come fat girls never play head games? Are they not to be considered women? Fat girls are basically men with boobs. Straight foward, no-nonsense. No head games. No bull. At least that's how they'd act with a handsome guy who was crushing on them. Now you're gonna say "well, the fat girl has no options. So she has to act this way"...but wait a minute. I thought women "had no control" over how they act, right? I thought women were "pre-wired" to play head games with men, right? So why are fat girls different? To say a fat girl "has no options so she must act that way" implies that she has control over how she acts. That she KNOWS what she's doing! So if the fat girl "knows what she's doing" and has control over how she acts, how do attractive women get a pass for the way THEY act? Or are fat girls just a different species? I'm curious. Thanks. "fat girls" in general, have no confidence in themselves and their looks, therefore they simply go along with everything the man wants, are so grateful that a man, any man, wants them that they wouldn't dare rock the boat. Their behaviour is nothing to do with head games it is a lack of confidence issue...head games are played by some women, but others simply are confident, or won't put up with any BS, which might be perceived as head games, whereas so-called fat girls may be too afraid to stand up for themselves and their own needs that they seem much easier to deal with (I am a former fat girl by the way ) On a similar vein of thought, why do guys always complain about women playing head games, being demanding, yet for all their complaints go running after them with their tongues lolling out and ignore women who aren't such drama queens?
bean1 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 And you sort of answered that question with your own behaviour in your own thread! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t213027/ You know the animal in the cage bites cause they've done it before, whose fault is it when you keep sticking your arm inside the cage?
kizik Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Waiting for the masses to murder you for your liberal use of the phrase Fat Girl
sand26 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I don't know dude, I honestly date a lot of attractive girls and most of them do not play head games. Maybe you are just attracted to girls who play head games. You just haven't stayed with the fat ones long enough to see their "head games".
Dark_of_the_Moon Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 (edited) All women have control over their behavior. All men have control over their behavior. Some chose not to exersize control. Handsome, ugly, thin or fat. Some people are spoiled, some people are troubled, some people are mean, hurt or just don't give a ****. Some people are actually full of integrity and kindness. They come in all shapes and sizes. Edited December 10, 2009 by Dark_of_the_Moon
Ruby Slippers Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Same reason shorter, thinner guys are usually great at oral and will go down on you for hours.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 And you sort of answered that question with your own behaviour in your own thread! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t213027/ You know the animal in the cage bites cause they've done it before, whose fault is it when you keep sticking your arm inside the cage? See the thing you and the poster above you don't seem to realize is this: What other options do we have? You say "don't put up with it". That's nice, but what you don't say is where to meet attractive women who don't play head games. You act as though me going after a chick who plays head games is my fault when they ALL do! I have YET to meet an attractive woman who doesn't play head games, have you? If you have, please tell me where to find them. See, women can't say this. Because there are plenty of great, single guys out there. THEY are the ones who choose to put their arms in the animals cage. Men, on the other hand, have little choice in the matter. Unless you're saying I should be single for life?
BookerT Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Same reason shorter, thinner guys are usually great at oral and will go down on you for hours. hahahahaha
Author bbasher75 Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 I don't know dude, I honestly date a lot of attractive girls and most of them do not play head games. Maybe you are just attracted to girls who play head games. You just haven't stayed with the fat ones long enough to see their "head games". I don't mean to insult you, but are you rich? There are of course, exceptions to every rule. If you have money, of course an attractive girl won't play games. No offense. I'm sure you're a great guy and all, but cmon. Mind telling me where to meet these "down to Earth" women who are nice looking and happen to have sweet personalities? I can't find any. And I'm no slouch in the looks deptartment. I also think my personality is pretty normal. Yet they all play head games with me.
sand26 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 See the thing you and the poster above you don't seem to realize is this: What other options do we have? You say "don't put up with it". That's nice, but what you don't say is where to meet attractive women who don't play head games. Dude, right now you are obviously not attracting the type of women that you find normal, or not crazy, or valuable. Maybe it is something you have to change in yourself? Ya know? just saying
BookerT Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I don't mean to insult you, but are you rich? There are of course, exceptions to every rule. If you have money, of course an attractive girl won't play games. No offense. I'm sure you're a great guy and all, but cmon. Mind telling me where to meet these "down to Earth" women who are nice looking and happen to have sweet personalities? I can't find any. And I'm no slouch in the looks deptartment. I also think my personality is pretty normal. Yet they all play head games with me. I think he's scale for attractive is very different from our scale for attractive. Like his 10 is probably our 8. On my thread he also says he ALWAYS dates smart and interesting girls as well. He's either full of crap or is so good he ALWAYS dates attractive, smart and interesting girls. Just guessing.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 Dude, right now you are obviously not attracting the type of women that you find normal, or not crazy, or valuable. Maybe it is something you have to change in yourself? Ya know? just saying Yes, its my fault the last girl I met treated me like a piece of sh*t. I apologize. It's my fault when an attractive woman leads me on then spits on me. I guess I was "too nice". Know what I mean? You mind telling me now, where you meet these so-called "gorgeous women" who don't play head games? I'm still waiting to hear this one.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 I think he's scale for attractive is very different from our scale for attractive. Like his 10 is probably our 8. On my thread he also says he ALWAYS dates smart and interesting girls as well. He's either full of crap or is so good he ALWAYS dates attractive, smart and interesting girls. Just guessing. I was thinking the same thing. What he considers "attractive" is probably what I'd consider a 6 or 7, tops. That's cool, to each their own. Mabye my standards are too high. But I just refuse to date a pig.
bean1 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 See the thing you and the poster above you don't seem to realize is this: What other options do we have? You say "don't put up with it". That's nice, but what you don't say is where to meet attractive women who don't play head games. You act as though me going after a chick who plays head games is my fault when they ALL do! I have YET to meet an attractive woman who doesn't play head games, have you? If you have, please tell me where to find them. See, women can't say this. Because there are plenty of great, single guys out there. THEY are the ones who choose to put their arms in the animals cage. Men, on the other hand, have little choice in the matter. Unless you're saying I should be single for life? I don't know where you can meet that kind of woman. I am a woman. My idea of head games is not the same as yours (here is where it gets confusing). Our idea of head games is when men date us and still sleep with other women. Our idea is when you don't call back the next day. Or my personal favourite... Our idea of head games is when men want us to be the perfect wife and mother, which involves NOT working full-time or pursuing a career, yet we are considered gold-diggers if we expect a man to be financially secure? Perhaps you should consider that a "head game" to you is not a "head game" to us. As they say, "Women are from Omicron Persei 7, men are from Omicron Persei 9" (NOTE: only true nerds will know this one). I consider myself fairly attractive (now I'm no shooter girl working at a night club or anything, but I go to the gym and stay in shape), I met my H on Lavalife.
bean1 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Maybe you should give a "non gorgeous girl" a chance.
sand26 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I don't mean to insult you, but are you rich? There are of course, exceptions to every rule. If you have money, of course an attractive girl won't play games. No offense. I'm sure you're a great guy and all, but cmon. Mind telling me where to meet these "down to Earth" women who are nice looking and happen to have sweet personalities? I can't find any. And I'm no slouch in the looks deptartment. I also think my personality is pretty normal. Yet they all play head games with me. Yeah dude. I am not rich, though I make an OK living. I am not ugly, but certainly no Fabio. I meet these girls in shopping malls in Los Angeles, Restaurants in NYC, Clubs in London... all sorts of places. I have no problem paying for dinner, but have never spent money on a girl beyond the simple things. I guess I have gone through spells in my life where everyone I meet seems to be a bit crazy, but for the last few years I have just been attracting a really cool breed of person. I think I just did a lot of work on myself and realized that I was going to approach every situation in the most sensitive and compassionate way possible. I have been with my girl for over a year without ever fighting and I attribute that to both of our maturity but also because I have dictated the tone of the relationship by listening to her and respecting her. I met her through friends. This is the best way, if your friends like them and vouch for them, then you probably will too. I am super tired now as it is late in London and I need to sleep, but I am sure things will change for you. Just nip any crazys off before they make you bitter. Approach things positively and your run of good girls will come.... KARMA bro, not that I believe but..... maybe i dooo. ok, good luck man.:laugh::laugh:
paddington bear Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 But I just refuse to date a pig. lol lol lol....I think we might be getting to the kernel of the issue here... Babe was kind of cute though, no? Only a 6? Guess not good enough.
bean1 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 OP, out of curiousity, is there a picture of anyone (celebrity or whatever) that you consider to be not attractive enough for you?? What sort of girls are you going after?? What do you consider to be a "pig"???
sand26 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 oops..one last one before I get a few hours of sleep. Maybe your idea of attractive is different, why shouldn't it be different. I'm not going to get into a dick measuring contest over the internet because it is kind of silly. Maybe yall date women who wouldn't touch me so my opinion is not valid to you. But I will say that you are on a site asking for advice or at least answers to questions (like we all are), I am quite happy with the ladies I date and they make me happy. Just trying to help you all out. I have to sleep though, the British Fashion Awards kept me up late last night and I had a really long day at work today... good luck basher.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 OP, out of curiousity, is there a picture of anyone (celebrity or whatever) that you consider to be not attractive enough for you?? What sort of girls are you going after?? What do you consider to be a "pig"??? Anything below an 8 is a pig. No seriously, I would say 8 and up I would go out with. Its not so much about being picky, I just dont see why so many guys set the bar so low for themselves. What is the friggin point of "banging" a girl who is, lets say, a 5 or 6? You think I'm going to risk STD's and all the other crap out there for that? I just fail to see the point of banging an ugly, or even average looking chick. I'd rather have nothing, which is what I currently have lol. To me, it defeats the purpose. But I guess a lot of guys think to themselves "Gosh its been 3 or 4 months since I got action...I just HAVE to bang SOMETHING. Never understood that ego thing. Whats the point dude?
bean1 Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Well, as a "normal" woman, I think your problem is fairly obvious now. "Normal women" don't go out to meet men that are good enough to sleep with. We look for men who are suitable mates (ie. no obvious red flags) with the prospect of a relationship or marriage. If there is ANY indication of your attitude that anything below an 8 is a pig, then that right there will kill any interest that a normal, attractive woman will have in you. Doesn't matter if she's a 9 or 10, she knows she isn't getting any younger and isn't going to consider you a prospect if you think only "hot girls" are worthy of you. So, you really need to make your decision - you can keep being strung along by hot girls who aren't serious (and therefore have many prospects and arent' really concerned about keeping you around), or you can just try and approach a "hot girl" and treat her like a person, rather than a physical being.
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