green apples Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I'm so tired of attending events, birthday parties and what-nots and not meeting anyone. I've even reached a stage I don't even bother going for these anymore. I just feel bummed after each outing. I know I should just go out without expectations. But I just don't know how to go about it. Sometimes I don't even think I go with expectations. But I still get bummed after that. Some of you may suggest maybe it's because I'm picky but it's not even that. It seems like the whole city is filled with people who have found someone. I don't know where the single men within my age group are. How do you do the "no-expectations?"
TaraMaiden Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 You think enough of yourself to know that nobody deserves you, and that you are your own best company. You develop self-esteem, self-assuredness, confidence, flair, style, poise, repartee and sensuality. You ooze sexual allure and then sit back and watch those puppy-dogs pant..... In other words, if you're looking for it - give it out, first.
espec10001 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Learn how to sing/dance/play a musical instrument and this will no longer be a problem. After all love and music are closely related!
temple Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I agree, concentrate on being yourself and the rest will come! As paradoxical as it sounds, remember that you are not alone in thinking you are alone There are plenty of like-minded people out there and the right person is waiting for you
CaliGuy Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I'm so tired of attending events, birthday parties and what-nots and not meeting anyone. I've even reached a stage I don't even bother going for these anymore. I just feel bummed after each outing. I know I should just go out without expectations. But I just don't know how to go about it. Sometimes I don't even think I go with expectations. But I still get bummed after that. Some of you may suggest maybe it's because I'm picky but it's not even that. It seems like the whole city is filled with people who have found someone. I don't know where the single men within my age group are. How do you do the "no-expectations?" The sure-fire way to create disappointment is to set "expectations" on anything. If you don't want to be disappointed, start going to these events NOT to meet someone, but to have fun. Then if you meet someone, it's a bonus. And if not, you still had fun!
alphamale Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 How do you do the "no-expectations?" you can't, there are ALWAYS expectations in everything we do on a daily basis. you should try meetup.com or try joining some singles groups. most mid to large size cities have singles groups. either that or you can try hooking up with someone off loveshack that lives near you.
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