Renesis13B Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 It seriously sucks posting here.. It does. I hope I never have again about any other girl.. It's pretty long but it's really how everything started. Well, me and my gf broke up like 3 and half weeks ago. We've been dating for 4 months (I know not that long) but damn, she was everything to me.. Why? She was my first serious relationship that lasted more than a week, and she was the girl who I lost my virginity to.. We were close, she would text me 24/7, non-stop. I never did mind. We would go out almost every night when we could.. God, everything was perfect until one night at my house her and my best friend were getting along too well. He would tickle her and she wouldn't mind they would stay talking outside for hours while I was inside.. We went out to the movies that night.. My brother, his friends, me and my gf, and my best friend. My gf and my buddy decide to go to the bathroom so they tell me buy the tix, I find out they went to a bar next to the movie theater to drink. I didn't like that since she just left w/o telling me and crap. Anyways, the next day my dad and my family (uncle, grandmother) who were home that night told me they didn't like how my gf acted towards my friend and that she wasn't sincere or w/e. I tell her we needed to talk the next day and she goes crazy. I don't tell her anything and I ignore her calls. She leaves me messages crying that she loves me. I go to her house like 5 days later and I realize nothing never happened so I decide to forgive her and we kiss, hug, and whatnot. She gets mad that I believed my family over her and left it at that. I leave, she texts me "I love you" and in an hour she says we need to talk. The next day she tells me this isn't going to work out since you believe other people instead of me and since I ignored her after that. Now I feel like crap and try to keep saying I'm sorry. I made a damn huge mistake. She finally says it's over and I go crazy.. This is all text btw. I ask her for a second chance begging and she says she needs time to think. Like 3 days pass and she says right now we can't be together. I keep texting her.. She then says after a couple of days that she still loves me but needs time. She says she is stressed since her ex keeps slashing her tires (which has been happening for a month) and she wants to file a restraining order against him. I say fine.. The next day we keep texting and I decide I want to help her out and pay for her tires since she is broke so I go to her house and we talk, hold hands, we kissed.. She said she needed to sort everything out with the ex and needed time. We text ourselves good night that day and the next morning its back to silence.. I would ask to see her again but she would be busy in her car club which she models for. And would say she has to work late or something. I would say I miss her and love her and she would also say the same but needs time. So today, I talk to one of my buddies who is in the car club and he tells me my ex and some guy in the club have hit it off.. She is always with him and whatnot, my buddy tells me she is playing you and I get pissed.. I decide to text her I can't wait anymore. She says she loves me and needs time still.. I pretty much say no and ask her if it's another guy, she ignores the other guy part and says I can't have a bf right now in my life. And she brought up the believing family part. And she said she was sorry after I tried to beg again she said maybe we can try again in the future. I asked her why she pretty much played with my emotions for like 2 weeks and she said she didn't. That was her last text. Now I'm thinking she was talking to some guy trying to get with him and tried to keep me as a backup plan if it failed. I know I messed up when I pretty much accused her of doing something with my friend but damn, does it really lead to this? She pretty much killed me. And to think we talked this Saturday and she kissed me like nothing was going on, only the needs time part. Now I've decided to start NC. She just removed me from FB as well so no more stalking (lol).. It sucks. Waking up in the morning.. It hurts, and what hurts is that I blame myself for this.. And I always will. For believing my family.. Oh btw, I gave her $150 on Saturday for the tires.. And the person taking her to work since she has no ride is that new guy. I guess it's done for me. After me being an idiot. I hope NC helps. I'm seriously hurt right now.. And I think she seems fine. We're both 21.
Author Renesis13B Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 I know my story is crap but damn, mornings suck. I can't get her off my mind.. I want her to call or text or something.. I'm so stressed..
sean1970 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I know my story is crap but damn, mornings suck. I can't get her off my mind.. I want her to call or text or something.. I'm so stressed.. We know. Not many things hurt worse. Just know that it will get better. All part of the process.
Author Renesis13B Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 I was reading somewhere that trying to agree with the breakup would make them come back? Because I'm guessing now she thinks she still can get me easily.. And people want what they can't have..
Author Renesis13B Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 ^ True.. I'm still deciding whether to agree with the breakup..
northstar1 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 ^ True.. I'm still deciding whether to agree with the breakup.. Very nice car. 6sp I hope.
Author Renesis13B Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 Very nice car. 6sp I hope. Indeed. Do you drive one? Heh, damn now the topic is changing..
kimmi Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Ok, First off you have every right to be mad about them going to the bar then they were taking a potty break. I would be so pist at that. This girl reminds me of my ex, When we got together he met my best friend of over 20 years and my frend lived with me. Well under my roof and the place that we worked at (friend and I worked at the same place) they were having a affair. Now if I was not so head over heals for this guy I would have seen it or believed it . No I did not want to for reasons. I did not want to believe that my best friend could do this to me after knowing I just got over a long relationship. If I could go back in time I would have ended it right then and there without looking back but I did not, I continued with him and bashed my best friend while I love him. I regret doing this because today over 8 years later I am still dealing with that break up. All through this relationship I did not want to see that he was using me and walked on me ( I let him though). Letting go of him and the thought is the hardest thing I have had to do but I am and I have my bad days. I want to call him I want ot text him and email him and want ot be his "friend" but I can not do this for he will continue to use/walk on me. Go NC and stand by it. No one is worth the pain because in the end you will see that she has strung you along . Her contacting you after you stay away will get weird. If this person is anything like my ex , he goes nutz when I do not contact him, he texts and calls my house non stop, he will call my family and brother in law. He will do everything he can to get a hold of me and that's when it is hard. I stay strong though and get myself busy... Tell her that your not her doormatt anymore and that you do not want her to contact you.. Trust me you will lie through this.. and come out alot stronger ten you know. Hugs and good luck to you
northstar1 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Indeed. Do you drive one? Heh, damn now the topic is changing.. I do indeed.
kimmi Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Sorry I did a spelling mistake and with both words it would have fit but I have to correct myself Trust me you will lie through this.. The word lie should have been a LIKE. Sorry
Author Renesis13B Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 Sorry I did a spelling mistake and with both words it would have fit but I have to correct myself Trust me you will lie through this.. The word lie should have been a LIKE. Sorry Hmm.. So you're saying to stay pretty much NC forever? My last text message to her was "I still want to talk in person so let me know when we can hang out and talk" She said "ok" .. I don't know.. Should I of ended that differently? That was yesterday.
mark982 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 why even waste your time contacting her? just disappear,go nc.
Author Renesis13B Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 Damn.. I broke NC this morning. She text me after 2 days of me going NC. She asked how I was doing and if I hated her. I just calmly said I agree with the breakup and that it needed to happen and apologized for everything. She didn't reply back. Here's to starting NC over again.. This sux..
Author Renesis13B Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 ^ Damn I'm not that messed up. She text me again this morning to say thank you for the money.. And she said she misses me..
Author Renesis13B Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 Decided to update.. Why not? I actually started the NC after new years. I kept breaking it with small texts. I found out she and that guy stayed together. I haven't called or talked to her since last December. She contacted me for the first time in like 3 months. I received a text from her 2 weeks ago in the morning greeting me, wanting to know how I was doing and to have a good day. I ignored it. She text me 2 days ago at midnight asking how I was doing. Hoping I'm doing good. I ignored that one to. I don't know.. Do you guys think I should reply? I don't have an intentions in getting back with her anyways.. I hope I don't. Plus, she has a bf. I'm wondering why she would text me now? Feels sorry? lol.. I'm all good now though.
skydiveaddict Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 Decided to update.. Why not? I actually started the NC after new years. I kept breaking it with small texts. I found out she and that guy stayed together. I haven't called or talked to her since last December. She contacted me for the first time in like 3 months. I received a text from her 2 weeks ago in the morning greeting me, wanting to know how I was doing and to have a good day. I ignored it. She text me 2 days ago at midnight asking how I was doing. Hoping I'm doing good. I ignored that one to. I don't know.. Do you guys think I should reply? I don't have an intentions in getting back with her anyways.. I hope I don't. Plus, she has a bf. I'm wondering why she would text me now? Feels sorry? lol.. I'm all good now though. NO NO NO dont reply. I don't know why you havent blocked her #!!!
MrsPeaSoup Posted March 29, 2010 Posted March 29, 2010 If you still love her as much as you describe: Let her be. Let her feel the consequences of being without you. That is what all this talk about "agreeing with the break up to get your ex back" is all about. Let her know that you agree with it, so you turn the situation to your hand; as if it is your 'freedom' and it let her think twice before acting so f***** up again. NC is IMO the best way. I'm trying to do the same, let's see if it works!
Author Renesis13B Posted March 29, 2010 Author Posted March 29, 2010 NO NO NO dont reply. I don't know why you havent blocked her #!!! lol, I don't know.. This is what everyone tells me to do but that seems messed up. It's always cool finding out if she would actually contact you after awhile. If you still love her as much as you describe: Let her be. Let her feel the consequences of being without you. That is what all this talk about "agreeing with the break up to get your ex back" is all about. Let her know that you agree with it, so you turn the situation to your hand; as if it is your 'freedom' and it let her think twice before acting so f***** up again. NC is IMO the best way. I'm trying to do the same, let's see if it works! True. And I think that's happening here.. But it's going to be tough for her to get me back. Not texting me every week with the little "hey" and "how are you?"
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