lilbelle Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I just can't do this. I love him to pieces but the feeling is not mutual. i don't even know if he feels anything for me. how do i do this without being a bitch and making him understand that his treatment is unfair and uncalled for. i'm sick of it all and just want me back, without him. then maybe i can remember what the hell i am really striving for in life. this breaks my heart but i clearly cannot get heartbroke again by this man. the breadcrumbs the love one second aloof the next its a roller coaster.
Kantor Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I'm sorry. Like you said, sounds like its time to move on and heal. Everyone here at LS has been a huge support to me, and as you know, will be a huge support to you. We've all tried our luck a second time, you wanted it, it didn't work, you have to move on for you now.
puppydog Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Start doing NC by yourself. You don't need to TALK to him to break up with him because what you guys have right now is not a "real relationship" When or if he starts trying to pound down the door at some point because you are ignoring him and not contacting him, kindly say (but not required) goodbye. You will feel SO PROUD of yourself when you find the strength and courage to do that. You deserve better and you will find someone who respects your feelings and cares enough to put you first. I myself thought I wanted my ex back, even went so far as begging at one point (so lame I know) but when I stepped back emotionally, I realized he wasn't what I wanted. He put me through so much crap that I just felt at one point (a little more than a year before our breakup) it's just better to cut him loose but I loved him to bits so I just stayed. At some point I lost sight of who I was. Do what's best for you. You don't need a relationship to be happy and if you're in a relationship that is not fulfilling your expectations, you have every right to leave it.
stayingstrong12 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 well i think maybe you should break it off with him and dont talk to him for awhile when you do so he can miss you and stuff and if he is ready to start acting like a boyfriend and showing you love and stuff then give me him another chance, but if he doesnt come around then forget him.
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