USMCHokie Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Today's thought and question comes while on a 14 hour flight from Japan. For those of you who daydream, do you usually think about "good" or "bad"...? "Good" meaning the whole finding the dream guy/girl and white picket fence deal, and "bad" meaning the whole "I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life." Everytime I sat back on the plane trying to fall asleep, and really anytime I'm daydreaming in general, all I thought about was how I never dated again or got married...that I was ok on my own well into my older years. In a strange way, 20 years from now, I feel like I want to say "I told you so" to everyone who thought I'd eventually meet someone who was willing to love me. I want to show the world that even with all I've got going on, no girl would be interested in that. I know it's not a good way to think, but some habits are hard to kick. Any thoughts...? Do you daydream hopeful thoughts to pick yourself up or wallow in a puddle of self-pity?
Pyro Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I do daydream frequently but just good thoughts:love: Life is too short to think about negative stuff.
duskandsummer Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I know how you feel..but I personally day dream good things, usually about a specific someone..never a general happy day dream. I picture like the good things that could happen when I am with that person. I hate day dreaming about a guy i might have a crush on..or who I really like because I just end up getting disappointed because things don't turn out that way.
DenverBachelor Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Any thoughts...? Do you daydream hopeful thoughts to pick yourself up or wallow in a puddle of self-pity? Even though she cheated on me, told her dad that I tried to break into her apartment -- I will always love her. It may sound idiotic or insane, but I have too much compassion in my heart to hang onto anger and regrets. That being said, every relationship we share with another is a growing experience for our own lives. We choose our own lives and futures, and those who would rather hold onto anger and regret will forever push people away. At some point, you have to let go of the anger and regrets. You have to let go of the past -- but that doesn't mean letting go of the love. Love is a dimension outside of time -- and even if they leave, cheat, steal or try to destroy our reputations with their family, as a man, you have a duty and obligation to hold on to some remnant in the past because that's what teaches us to press forward. Regardless of what a woman may think, a man's heart is deeper than they realize and it takes a true man to let go, press forward while still realizing there was SOMETHING worth holding onto and integrating into his soul / heart. Men take bullets for those they love -- friends, family, lovers, etc. Men fight wars. A man would jump onto a grenade to save his best friends from harm. There is a certain character and attribute to a man's heart that a woman will never understand. It doesn't make us better than them -- but it does make us what we are and as a man, you have to wrap that old love up and keep advancing towards the front lines. That's what men do.
White Flower Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Today's thought and question comes while on a 14 hour flight from Japan. For those of you who daydream, do you usually think about "good" or "bad"...? "Good" meaning the whole finding the dream guy/girl and white picket fence deal, and "bad" meaning the whole "I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life." Everytime I sat back on the plane trying to fall asleep, and really anytime I'm daydreaming in general, all I thought about was how I never dated again or got married...that I was ok on my own well into my older years. In a strange way, 20 years from now, I feel like I want to say "I told you so" to everyone who thought I'd eventually meet someone who was willing to love me. I want to show the world that even with all I've got going on, no girl would be interested in that. I know it's not a good way to think, but some habits are hard to kick. Any thoughts...? Do you daydream hopeful thoughts to pick yourself up or wallow in a puddle of self-pity? What an interesting topic! I always day dream about the way I want things to be whether it is my love-life, the way my kids will turn out, or world peace. I guess that makes me a pretty positive person. I find it interesting how others catch themselves daydreaming, so thanks for this thread!
DenverBachelor Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 There is a quote or old saying that I think sums up a true man ... "The true measure of man is not doing the right and noble thing when everyone is watching -- it is doing the right and noble thing when no one is around to observe it."
Author USMCHokie Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 What an interesting topic! I always day dream about the way I want things to be whether it is my love-life, the way my kids will turn out, or world peace. I guess that makes me a pretty positive person. I find it interesting how others catch themselves daydreaming, so thanks for this thread! Heh, yep...I had plenty of time today to do it and think about it...let me tell you...14 hours in a seat is a long time...
White Flower Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Heh, yep...I had plenty of time today to do it and think about it...let me tell you...14 hours in a seat is a long time... It sure is! I used to daydream about dancing on stage during road trips. I still catch myself doing it when others drive but since my D I'm usually doing the driving.
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