XKatieX Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 So tonight he sent me a message bascially telling me he knew things weren't the same anymore. And how even if he wanted it to work out it wouldn't because he got a new job as a manger and now works everyday all day pretty much so he couldn't see me because its a LDR. He also said it wasn't goodbye that he'd probably see me again ( he means online) but he did not want to know if I ever found someone else. I just don't know what to do, I mean I can't tell you how bad this hurts me...wanting something so bad that you just can't have. But should I continue talking to him, even though it will really hurt me? He said he didn't think there was anything left and he thought I felt that way too, but the truth is I don't..I will always feel for him.
LovelyDaze Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Stop talking to him. Quick "joke": Patient to his Doctor: Oh, Dr. Smith! It hurts when I do this! Doctor to his Patient: Well, then stop doing that! If it hurts, do things that won't make it hurt. You have to NC your ex because he is extremely indecisive and you will never heal if you keep him in your life.
lilbelle Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 my dear katie, he is not good for you. you must realize this. believe me i am going through the same feelings althugh the circumstances are clearly different. he is trying to control you emotionally. you must break off all ties. the sooner you do this the sooner you can heal and love yourself more than anyone and that will bring love into your life again. please be kind to yourself. block his number, his email, his fb, his im. you must do this for yourself. he has made it clear he is not coming back. i wish mine would be that honest, i could certainly move on quicker. be happy he has been honest with you. you will get over this and shine brighter and stronger than ever. just remember some people are only in your life for moments and seasons, they had a purpose and you will eventually know what that was.
Angel1111 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 He said that to you in a message? Wow. Couldn't even tell you over the phone. That's pretty bad. I'm sorry you're going through this. Hugs.
EricaH329 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 but the truth is I don't..I will always feel for him. It's alright to feel for him and move on at the same time. I love my ex, and always will, but that doesn't mean that I shouldn't move on and heal. I believe people were placed into our lives for reasons. You've found out that you can truly love someone as deeply as you have, and now it's time to use that love with someone who can love you just as much back. For awhile I thought that moving on meant that the love we had for eachother wasn't real. I was wrong. I still feel it. I love him now just as much as I did when we were together. But that's ok. I can live my life knowing that I am capable of loving that much, and that I do still love him... without feeling the need to actually do anything about it. NC is the quickest and best way to get over someone. Get them out of your life completely. Start making new memories. Just know that the pain you are going through now will lessen over time. It might not seem like it, but once you allow yourself to begin the healing process, you'll see what I mean.
gaudi Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 All of the above are right, it's healing that's required. But there's only you can make that happen. Sure with the help of those around you, I'm starting to realise this myself now, good luck hun, guarantee it will be better soon.
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