adamt Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I broke up back in may, found it hard to move on even with NC. 2 months ago I pushed myself to join a dating website to see how i would do and out of interest what these website are all about. So been on a couple of dates, but no one really hit the button. you know the thing when you see them they dont seem to look as good as in their profile. So anyway yesterday i went on another date, again i was nervous wondering what they would really look like.(as you do, waiting in a bar for them to turn up) But bingo, this girl looked better than in the pictures. I had a big grin on my face. So we had a drink and some food and chatted for a few hours got on really well. I wasnt pushy but we should be meeting up in the new year. unfortunately she is going home overseas for a few weeks in a few days. I know Its very early days, but the feeling of meeting someone new who you feel you could go out is fantastic. for those 3 hours i forgot all about the ex. then afterwards i felt i had moved onto a little more and it gave me a lift to get me through new year. something to look forward to. It just feels so good that there might be light at the end of the tunnel and you can meet someone better than the ex. At the moment I truely dont care what my ex is doing. fingers crossed things work out with this new date. but it doesnt half feel good afte such a shyte 6 months. feels like i've had a shot of adrenalin and woken up
USMCHokie Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Good post Adam. It's stories like these that give hope to everyone here that life really does go on and GET BETTER...good luck with this one!
Author adamt Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 well 24 hours on i've calmed down a little:cool: but its something positive to look to in the future, i know i will get a 2nd date out of it but apparently it is the 3rd date that is the crucial one to get so i am told. at least it will get me through the xmas holidays. in the last 24 hours i am thinking about this new girl more than my ex. which is brilliant. she is definately a babe and far too good for me but who knows what is ahead in 2010! if it doesnt work out then so be it, but it will have helped me move on and feel better in myself. all those months of working out in the gym and sorting my head out seems to be paying off. i'm in the best shape i've been for about 15 years! i get comments from many friends that i am looking well since i have got into shape and lost 22lbs. i've got a smile back on my face, i am probably a fun person to be with again. it does show that the priority is to just work on yourself and other things will happen or fall into place as you get better and better. just keep on the path of recovery and look after yourself.
Kic Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 There is a phrase, "**** ten other women." I'm not saying to do that, especially to/for the ladies here, but your renewed optimism after meeting this new woman is probably why people say that phrase. You're moving on with your life! You're getting positive reinforcement! Make sure to keep it slow and don't reek of desperation or "reboundiness." 3rd date, 5th date, 100th date - it doesn't even matter. You're out to just have a good time, anytime, all the time.
Template Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 far too good for me You have to quit this line of thinking right now friend. Women can see very clearly. I'm not saying you should go around thinking, "I'm better than everyone.", rather "I'm perfect the way I am>" Besides who determines is too good or not? Does she have the genetic makeup of the 5th element or something? Let me guess, you have the IQ of a deep dish pizza? Of course not to both!! Once you firmly plant these thoughts of "too good for me" in your head, you are not going to be yourself. You are just going to prove to her, and YOURSELF that you are good enough for her, or worse, just quit, and not even try. When you get that 2nd date, it means you already have proven you are good enough. Just be yourself, and take her in, conversely let her take you in. Enjoy... don't ruin it for yourself..
Author adamt Posted December 11, 2009 Author Posted December 11, 2009 good post template thanks, I'll remain confident and be myself infront of her. i dont want to come on too stong though. i'll probably drop her a text on sunday saying hi and hope you are having a good weekend then maybe send one on thursday wishing her a good flight and trip. bit tricky with these dating websites as you never know if there are other blokes in the picture too. time i searched the forum for 2nd and 3rd date advice!haha!
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