sfsassy Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 So I just found out a close male friend is probably getting a divorce.. Some background. They have been married almost 6 years, together 12. I have at times, had a low level crush on him, but before they married. She always acted like she was settling for him, and tended to be very sarcastic . He commutes between their town and his hometown, where I live for work. It worried me when she told him that she liked him away when he first got this job. She is close to her parents who have never been fond of my friend. In short I never thought they were a good match. So now they are divorcing, and not quite sure what to say. My mom said I should just be supportive of them staying together, annd so far this is what I'm doing. However, what should I do if he asks my opinion? I don''t want to lie, but don't want to trash the woman. (Plus as people might point out, I only know one side.) Any advice? For those divorced or divorcing, what did you want your friends to say?
mem11363 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 First questions for him: - Do you still want to stay married to her? - Do you think she is open to the idea of trying to make it work? So I just found out a close male friend is probably getting a divorce.. Some background. They have been married almost 6 years, together 12. I have at times, had a low level crush on him, but before they married. She always acted like she was settling for him, and tended to be very sarcastic . He commutes between their town and his hometown, where I live for work. It worried me when she told him that she liked him away when he first got this job. She is close to her parents who have never been fond of my friend. In short I never thought they were a good match. So now they are divorcing, and not quite sure what to say. My mom said I should just be supportive of them staying together, annd so far this is what I'm doing. However, what should I do if he asks my opinion? I don''t want to lie, but don't want to trash the woman. (Plus as people might point out, I only know one side.) Any advice? For those divorced or divorcing, what did you want your friends to say?
Stardust82 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 If I were divorcing, I wouldn't want my friends really talking about it. I know that they probably would, but that doesn't mean I'd like it. If asked, I'd probably stay mum on the subject since they could either break up or try to work it out.
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