Teuto Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I have now gone for NC and mean to make this stick. I am going to change my cell phone number too. This woman is very subtle but it has a powerful effect. She knows how to get to me: for example when she is in town she texts me to comment on the surroundings of my apartment or "I saw you today". Ugh. Weirds me out. The nub of it is that I believe she thinks I used her (I think she used me actually) and I suspect she is determined to punish me. I think she is devious and insecure and always does things in such a way that you cannot prove what she was up to. She admitted meeting up with another guy on a date and then claimed it was not a date as such but was forced on her by girl friend who was present. I have reason to believe that she slept with this guy and was trying to provoke me into dumping her but I cannot prove it. There are plenty of clues but no proof. She tells me that she said something very insulting to a friend of hers but then said she claimed she sometimes says she claims to have said things to me that she did not actually say (!) She claims to be "a good Christian girl who does not want to hurt anyone" yet I strongly suspect an agenda of revenge towards me. She claims she wants friendship and then accuses me of not loving her. Worst of all when I have accused her of any of this she says I am paranoid and have an overactive imagination and should trust her. Is this what is known as "gaslighting"? Whatever her intentions she is doing me in. I feel this is her idea of punishment. Sometimes I see she has checked out my dating profile, she stalks me on Facebook and I think she has a big ego and can;t cope with the idea that I dumped her. She uses every setback (she's being made redundant) to guilt trip me and try to get sympathy. She is destroying me and my nerves are in tatters, and Xmas just gives her another excuse to guilt trip me. Resisting these assaults takes so much energy and I am cracking up and emotionally exhausted. I even saw a counsellor who was female and reminded me of her. She seemed to take her side and made me feel even worse. She has also accuse ME of wasting her time and accused me of having a disturbed mind (it's her fault!!) She even texts me to say she is sick of thinking of me and asks "how do I forget about you!" Excuse me? I have politely but firmly e-mailed her for a final time to say the way to do it is through NC. If she breaks it I will threaten to see the police. This is serious as it is ruining me.
betrayed2 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Wow, good for u, she sounds a lil crazy...
Author Teuto Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 I got a nice reply and she agrees with me and says she feels awful too! Bless her and thank the Lord.
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