Josh87 Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I've been to hell and back in the past 2 weeks a few times and I'm just starting to come back again. A couple of weeks ago my fiance of 4 years (we are 22) went out on a date with a man that works near her. They made out after it and claimed nothing happen. I made a thread here, talked about it and eventually broke up with her in hopes I would hurt her bad enough that she wouldn't do it again and would apologize. Well turns out she thought I was serious about not loving her anymore and went on a date with him a few days later and spent the night at his house but she swears to god nothing sexual happened. We got back together about thanksgiving then she decided we should take a 1 week break so she could change back to a good human being. Turns out the only reason she took a 1 week break was to see him once during the week and she went to a movie and spent the night at his house again claiming no sex. After the week we talked about everything and she says she loves me and wants to be with me but she has fun with that man. There was so many bad things surrounding this that I won't go into in this thread but please don't automatically be against her here. Then monday she told me she was going to a club and I said ok even though I knew she was going out with the man. I got 0 sleep and it was the worsed night of my entire life. The next day she kept telling me she was at the club (on a monday night) and i eventually coerced the truth out of her and told her I wouldn't be mad if she told me the truth. She told me she went out with him to dinner, a movie, and back to his place and they went to sleep with no sex. She then told me she also told him they couldn't see each other anymore. We both want to do couples therapy. What do you guys think?
NopeNah Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I don't think you should get back with her right now. She still sounds "confused" about what/who she wants. It's(she) like a rubber bouncy ball in a small room bouncing from wall to wall with no control where it goes. You need her to be 100% with you for this to work long run and she's not there yet. Two days ago she was in another mans bed. Where do you think she'll be if you tell her to take it slow with you?...in his bed again.
GorillaTheater Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 What do you guys think? I think: 1) She's lying her ass off about not sleeping with this guy, 2) Your relationship is screwed up to the point where I think it's crazy to talk about giving each other "second chances", and 3) You'd be far better off, certainly in the long run, to simply break things off completely and go NC. You two may decide to get back together later, hey, who knows, right? But right now things are too unhealthy to continue.
McGrupp Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 (edited) walk away man. take your dignity and walk away. she just doesnt want to hurt you/is trying to appease her guilt. itll hurt but be a man (something i didnt do and regret) and walk the **** away. Edited December 9, 2009 by McGrupp
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