dudesweet Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Ill start off and say im new here. Ive been using every friend possible lately to vent to and get advice from but in the late night hours I find myself alone and wondering. Im gonna explain what has happened in the past 2 months for venting purposes but would also appreciate any help or thoughts on this. Note: we've been together for about 2 years. I would say a week after halloween my ex decided she wasn't into the relationship 100% anymore and she wasn't sure if she wanted to continue with the relationship. She had a lot of stress going on in her life such as a new job, a class that determined if she graduated or not, and a 4 year old son to take care of every other day, along with recent arguments before halloween that were kind of bad but nothing we havent been through before. She sounded as if she just didn't have time for a relationship and needed to focus on other things. We both agreed it was unfair to drag me along and wait for her to make up her mind so we decided to "just be friends". I was heart broken, I didn't understand why she felt differently but she said she just had to go off her feelings and it didnt feel right. I would say after a week or two we decided to hangout as friends. It was a little awkward at first and didnt feel the same but I feel we slowly became comfortable with the idea and it seemed like it was going okay. I felt if we continue to hangout as friends that I could slowly win her back if I played my cards right. During this time I couldn't help but be overly nice. I did favors for her, paid for dinners, lent her money which she still owes, and all of these things just to ease her stress, make her happy and try to get her back. This went on for about 2 maybe 3 weeks until one day I mentioned something about a old friend and how I thought she was gorgeous. She got a little mad at first but brushed it off since we were at a mall, but then later called me that night and said shes going through my facebook friends and wants to know the name of the girl. I simply said its not important and it dosent matter and we hungup on a bad note. After the phone convo she leaves these texts saying that shes done, have fun with my downgrade, accused me of hiding someone and said shes ashamed I would compare this girl to her? She basically blew it out of proportion and didnt contact me for a week. I tried calling her, left a few texts, and was completely ignored. So I left a voicemail telling her the real deal and how I wasnt hiding anyone and left it at that. A few days later she responds and says that I have fcked her emotionally, she feels dead inside and that shes found someone else that shes happy with and to respect her and leave her alone. I kind of played it cool and said im glad that youve found someone and I hope he/she can make you happy. So, its been almost another week now since then and everyday I get up shes on my mind and I can't get her out. Im sick to my stomach and the only cure is to talk to my friends and try to block her out and ignore the pain but theres constant reminders everywhere. Anyway, thats my situation. It seems like some kind of sick game and I dont really believe shes found someone, but I dont know for sure. When she broke up with me she made it out as if she was too busy for a relationship and said she was "emotionally unavailable" yet she says shes found someone now? Its all very confusing to me and I dont really know what to do with myself these days. If anyone has any thoughts on this or advice I would really appreciate it. Im trying my best to leave her alone as I dont want to seem desperate although I made one last text a few days ago and said "Call me sometime.. im still here as a friend.. just know that". Is this completely over or is there hope later down the road? Right now im just trying to let the water settle down and hopefully she'll realize she misses me at least as a friend? Anyway, your opinions are greatly appreciated.
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