kyta Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 i wish i knew the answer, i built a pedastal that is so high i need a crain to get to it, its the same answer as allways time, i hate that saying time heals everything, yes it does, but takes so long to pass.
Ronni_W Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 now how do i get you off it. Pull a chainsaw massacre on the pedestal! Or use a blowtorch, depending on what material you used to construct your infernal contraption Just start at the bottom and keep hacking away until there isn't anything on which she can be perched. It's YOUR pedestal, so you can do with it whatever you want and choose, yes? Now get at it...and have fun with the demolition!
kyta Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 lol i cant get to mine,its built of concrete, steel, titanium, brick, plastic,acrylic, moonstone, diamonds, surronded by land mines, magnetic mines, swamps, croadiles, oceans, montains, wild beast, gaurd towers with 50call mechanical sentrys, the fantastic 4, superman, batman,spiderman, ailens, the president, the prime minster,and every known force there is, are gaurding it, im fooked, looks like its staying high in the clouds. She was my friend first and foremost.
LovelyDaze Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Sit on it yourself and just look at her on the dusty ground from it.
Ronni_W Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Hhmmm...well, hopefully McG didn't go THAT crazy! (Did you, McG?) I'd suggest, kyta, that you start working on a cloaking device / invisible shield-thingy, after which you'll have to develop a tool that can take out all the currently-known forces using materials as yet UNknown (but you'll still need that cloaking device, of course ) It's your ONLY way...you gotta do it, and you can do it!!! Point to both of you is that you built these freakin' pedestals so you DO have the power to decommission them. You TOTALLY do. It's just conscious choices that you're making now, to not do it. But that's not serving yourselves, or the world in general.
kyta Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I wish i could be bitter about it all, but do you know what, im not, how can i b, she was a friend, is a friend, what ever the reason she doesn't want to b with me, is her reason, she has her life to live as she chooses to, what rite do i have to to be bitter with her decision! she can stay up there and look at me, i just have to put myself up on my own pedastal so we can look each other in the eye again, we are two individuals we shared time together now just memories, fond ones, , i just love her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kimmi Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 lol i cant get to mine,its built of concrete, steel, titanium, brick, plastic,acrylic, moonstone, diamonds, surronded by land mines, magnetic mines, swamps, croadiles, oceans, montains, wild beast, gaurd towers with 50call mechanical sentrys, the fantastic 4, superman, batman,spiderman, ailens, the president, the prime minster,and every known force there is, are gaurding it, im fooked, looks like its staying high in the clouds. She was my friend first and foremost. get a heavy machine operator and pay them to tear it down... They have to tools to get trough anything that is built . Close your eyes and break it down mentally... another way is when you take a shower watch the water drain down and when washing your hair say i am washing you out of my system and watch it go down the drian ... I did that before I broke up with my ex ... It helped a lot ... Now I am having a issue on not contacting him .. 3 days yeah me!!
silic0ntoad Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I built you this pedastal, Of grief and ill remorse, I'll watch it crash to the floor, Smoldering in the remains of us, I built you this pedastal, cornerstoned of love and trust, I'll watch you walk from the top, And carry on with your life, I built you this pedastal, For our love was always enough, Now you've left that pedastal, And alone now here I sit, Atop the pedastal you once owned, I have clawed my way out of the pit, I built myself this pedastal, That once I gave to you, Now you're gone and I am left, The future is a brighter view.
DustySaltus Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 now how do i get you off it. Got a better idea, just walk away from it. Pedestals are easy to find, there are pedestal stores everywhere....buy one for yourself.
puppydog Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Got a better idea, just walk away from it. Pedestals are easy to find, there are pedestal stores everywhere....buy one for yourself. Haha. that cracks me up. Just build a higher stronger one for yourself.
Template Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 It's your pedstal man. Just because you built it for her, doesn't make it hers. Own it... take it back... tell her to get off... it's all within YOUR control...
XKatieX Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 (edited) Shove her off of it. For god sakes she cheated on you more than once, thus breaking your trust. Edited December 9, 2009 by XKatieX
Author McGrupp Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 only once...but who cares, the pedestal is breaking
soheartbroken Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I wish i could be bitter about it all, but do you know what, im not, how can i b, she was a friend, is a friend, what ever the reason she doesn't want to b with me, is her reason, she has her life to live as she chooses to, what rite do i have to to be bitter with her decision! she can stay up there and look at me, i just have to put myself up on my own pedastal so we can look each other in the eye again, we are two individuals we shared time together now just memories, fond ones, , i just love her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I kinda like this idea of putting yourself on your own pedestal of equal height... But anyway, do we really need to knock them off? I mean, I'm not going to fool myself into thinking that my ex wasn't really, really good to me...and fit, and attractive, and smart. She was all of these things. For argument's sake, if your spouse dies, or your parent, do you need to think about all the bad things about that person in order to feel whole again and ready to love? Doesn't this make it possible to heal from heartbreak and find love again without knocking down your ex? Just wondering. I don't want to have to lie to myself about my ex just to recover from this. I know she contributed to the poor dynamic of the relationship, and she did some ****ty things at the end. But that's about it. She was great otherwise. Thoughts appreciated if anyone reads this.
Justburself Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 It's tough bud I know. In my case, I have been able to focus on all she did both in the end and in the past. All the hurt, disrespect, and lies. I even kept one picture of her on my phone that I took during one of her rants. Not knowing in the future it would be invaluable to my recovery. I sometimes look at the picture and it reminds me who she really was in the end. I don't know how it ended for you.. But even if she was as sweet as cherry pie, I'm sure she has given you something to channel the loving feelings into resent. I almost think that's what it takes.. Time is the only answer.
mickleb Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 shb If a spouse or parent dies, they haven't rejected your love. We built them pedestals of our devotion and they weren't bothered. So f*ck 'em. I don't care how pretty, funny, lovely, talented.. they don't want us so why worship that? x
LovelyDaze Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 shb If a spouse or parent dies, they haven't rejected your love. We built them pedestals of our devotion and they weren't bothered. So f*ck 'em. I don't care how pretty, funny, lovely, talented.. they don't want us so why worship that? x Love that, mickleb. A loved one who dies 9x out of 10 wouldn't have wanted to leave your life that way or anyway for that matter. A person you loved who basically says, "F*ck you. I WANT out of your life." is different. Let us all scoot our exes off that pedestal and into the mud where they belong.
kyta Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 (edited) why knock them down, we all went in to it knowing the chances, if it goes wrong why be bitter? it is there rite as is ours, to change there minds on what they think they want, if they chose not to be with us then surly we must respect them? i don't say agree with there choice, but respect them as you di when you was with them. Edited December 10, 2009 by kyta
gaudi Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 why knock them down, we all went in to it knowing the chances, if it goes wrong why be bitter? it is there rite as is ours, to change there minds on what they think they want, if they chose not to be with us then surly we must respect them? i don't say agree with there choice, but respect them as you di when you was with them. gotta go with kyta on this one, we loved and respected them enough to end up feeling like this in the first place, being bitter is just gonna make you.....well.............bitter
mickleb Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I'm not bitter. I'm being practical. Gotta move on. Onwards and upwards. I'm being optimistic!
HeavenOrHell Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 No, we don't need to knock them off it, my ex is a lovely person too. Although we should never put someone on a pedestal, we are all equal after all. But it's hard to pretend they're not wonderful people when they are. It's very different if someone dies, they haven't abandoned us or left us broken hearted/hurt us. When someone close to us dies we wouldn't need to knock them off a pedestal so that we could cope with the grief, I think the good memories and remembering how much they meant to us and how wonderful they were (to us) helps with the grief. I kinda like this idea of putting yourself on your own pedestal of equal height... But anyway, do we really need to knock them off? I mean, I'm not going to fool myself into thinking that my ex wasn't really, really good to me...and fit, and attractive, and smart. She was all of these things. For argument's sake, if your spouse dies, or your parent, do you need to think about all the bad things about that person in order to feel whole again and ready to love? Doesn't this make it possible to heal from heartbreak and find love again without knocking down your ex? Just wondering. I don't want to have to lie to myself about my ex just to recover from this. I know she contributed to the poor dynamic of the relationship, and she did some ****ty things at the end. But that's about it. She was great otherwise. Thoughts appreciated if anyone reads this.
Trinitron Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 only once Good God man, how many times would it take for you to actually be pissed at her........2.......3............57? You need to find a way to generated some white hot scalding hate. It may not fix you but it feels pretty good. That is all. Trinitron
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