kyta Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Why when i read all the topics, i see the same thing, we are all serching for the answers to why, does any of the answers make it better when we know? im back again, this time i made the biggest mistake, i fell for my best friend, yes, we were bast friends for a year, then we ende up together for 8 and a half months, it was bliss, perfect, (well not so perfect really) but it was good, the only time we argued was over her staling ex, he never stopped phoning her or txing her, he even went on heroin and blamed her, he used all the emotional guilt he could find, we ended up haviong a row over it 3 wks ago and broke up. Now hes back on the scene, there not together as such but spending loads of time together, but she still txing me asking me questions how i feel about her, i tell her truthfully i love her, i know the relationship is dead, i been through enough breakups to know, but cant understand why im looking for answers to questions that make no difference to us, she txed first thing this morning saying morning, and we been txing for the last hour, its doing me in, i thought i was fine with it, but now i know im not, i lost my best friend my love, my life, but more than anything my friend, why do we allways do what we know we shouldnt then feel the pain of our mistakes, and search for months the answer that will change nothing?
nobmagnet Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 No contact is the answer my fellow Brit. Block her number. dont answer the phone to her. All this contact is not helping you reach a place of peace and acceptance. She is stringing it out for some reason only known to her ,guilt,regret,wanting to know you are still there for her, cutting all contact will let you both move on and unfortunately for you the freindship will never be the same again. But hey!!!! There are plenty of lovely women in Blighty that deserve your love and freindship. hope that helps a little (just my thoughts) x
wendy37 Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 i did the same thing hun...i was good friends with my ex then took the risk and went out with him for 2 years...very on and off though due to me trying to deal with 2 deaths in 9months,and him being away wasnt suporting me,i was in horrific grief mode and totally lost who i was,then i found out he had been begging his wife back as well as flirting with internet women and he still does.it sent me lala for ages and i also have loads of questions of why why and why.... ive cut my sim up now so i dont contact him..hes been so nasty yet i think,this is the real him comming out.i did some reserch on him and was suprised what i found out,but i do know that gutting feeling your having.i wish my ex would contact me in a stable way just so i could ask the questions..stay strong and know your not alone x
Author kyta Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 I know nc is the best way, i did it with my x of 7yrs when i met my friend lisa, she helped me get over that, she was there for me when my brother died last yr, she been my rock through all last year. We allways agreed that we would stay friends if anything went wrong, she asked me today if i missed her, she asked me how she use to look at me, i told her i love her, she said she hasnt heard that in a while, i aske her if she missed it, she said maybe but trys not to think of it, i dont tx her first she always tx me first, then stops just as sudden for hours, then i get a random tx like the other nite, she was wrong and i was rite, just a saying we had, (you was wrong i was rite) when i asked what about she just said nothing, i was just rite, sometimes she puts kisses on the end then other times none. I miss my friend so much it killing me inside, its not so much the relationship, its the friendship that hurts, we did everything together, from getting up to everything in the day, to bed, we were inseparable, now i dont know what to do.
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