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Trying to be friends but this is strange


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Broke up with this guy 2 months ago. Long story but basically it was a classic breakup- I wanted more from the relationship but he wasn't sure he could give that much yadda yadda. We didn't speak at first, but after a few weeks we started talking again. Both of us really missed each other, even just hanging out, so we agreed on being friends.

 

I guess now we are hanging out as friends, because there is no kissing or sex....but it's often just us two hanging out alone and he does subtle things like briefly rubbing my lower back and being suuuper attentive (almost moreso now). He's not the overly flirtatious guy at all, in fact he is a really laid back guy. However, despite his behavior, it has been a few weeks and he has made no move to start the relationship again so I'm assuming he wants to remain friends.

 

Guys, do you really treat girls who are 'just friends' this way? Could he still be wondering if he wants to give it another try? Part of me wants that, but rationally I don't think it would be the right thing.

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Sometimes when you're used to having casual PDA contact with someone, it's almost awkward to stop. I don't think he's intentionally being a pig or anything - he's just used to being with you that way.

 

You're probably going to have to tell him to chill out eventually, because if another guy of interest sees this "friend" pawing at you (or hears from others that he still is), he'll assume you're taken.

 

It will also likely piss you off if he starts seeing another girl, and continues the casual PDA. You gotta set boundaries.

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