My wife doesnt like a letter I wrote to another girl, here it is.

[dan91387]

I wrote this to a friend girl of mine that i was not respectfull to my wife with. I told my wife i would no longer see her. I admitted to my wife I fooled around with her once. My wife told her she knew.

 

My friend would text me and I would ignore them to respect my wife. I felt like I needed to send her a message since I never got to say some of the things i needed to say.

 

My wife read it and said she cant belive how bad i bad mouthed her and that i basically let her know that I dont want to be home and that I dont want to be with my wife "right now", I tried telling her that no, it was the letter you wrote her that i was telling her back then I wasnt trying to get you back, and that it didnt suggest that I was speaking about wether or not I wanted to be with her currently.

 

My question is, can anyone else tell that I was speaking "past tense" in regards to the i wasnt trying to get, be with ect.. with my wife.

 

And any other comments or opinions on this letter would be appreciated.

 

here is the letter:

p.s this is a girl that i've known for many years, one of my very best friends, I got too close and crossed the line with her.

 

hey, I gotta keep this short.

I just wanted to let you know I went through jessicas phone

last night and I couldnt belive what i saw, she saved the messages

she sent you. OH MY GOD, what I fricken liar, she lied out her ass

she told you I was trying to get her or trying to be with her ect.. that was so

crazy I cant belive she lied, and the expect a message from him telling you

that he wants to not talk to you anymore and concentrate on our relationship!

that is so funny while ive been here not going out cause while i was going out ****

was getting so bad, shes tried making me send a message like that to you

and i've absolutely refused, oh oh oh and she said I wanted to come clean

with her about what me and you did, I got tricked into it, i read a message on her phone

that totally sounded like she cheated, and since i thought we definitely didnt

want to be with eachother it wouldnt hurt anything if she knew, i in recent times

accused her of doing somethng with someone else and she always says "i havent done anything

but if i did i wouldnt tell you cause i know youve cheated, you tell me what youve done

and then if i have i'll tell you" so i told her i saw what was on her phone and said so why not

admit it, and she refused, so i was like ok jess, i blah blah blah with rose, ok so now tell me

and she showed me the entire email that was on her computer and it had nothing to do with

cheating, i was like shiiiit, but she didnt care she sat there laying in the bed with a straight

face so it was obviouse there was no feelings there, and she was getting up like 2 minutes after

i told her and i was like what you doing and she didnt say anything and she got to the middle of

the room and fell straight to the ground crying like crazy, i was like what the ****, to make a long story

short thats why i told her, i wasnt "trying to get her and coming clean ect".

but anyways, she checks my phone logs online since its under her account daily, goes through

all my stuff thats why i havent messaged you, it ****ing killed me thinking you thought

i was ignoring you. But yea her whole thing to you was sooo full of **** i just had to wrote this.

anyways, miss you, love you.

-daneye

[mem11363]

This is your basic nightmare. It is hostile, abusive and very very confusing. It does seem that you are slamming your wife very very hard.

 

Maybe that was not what you meant, but you need to learn to write in a way that is clear because this is NOT.

 

 

 

 

I wrote this to a friend girl of mine that i was not respectfull to my wife with. I told my wife i would no longer see her. I admitted to my wife I fooled around with her once. My wife told her she knew.

 

My friend would text me and I would ignore them to respect my wife. I felt like I needed to send her a message since I never got to say some of the things i needed to say.

 

My wife read it and said she cant belive how bad i bad mouthed her and that i basically let her know that I dont want to be home and that I dont want to be with my wife "right now", I tried telling her that no, it was the letter you wrote her that i was telling her back then I wasnt trying to get you back, and that it didnt suggest that I was speaking about wether or not I wanted to be with her currently.

 

My question is, can anyone else tell that I was speaking "past tense" in regards to the i wasnt trying to get, be with ect.. with my wife.

 

And any other comments or opinions on this letter would be appreciated.

 

here is the letter:

p.s this is a girl that i've known for many years, one of my very best friends, I got too close and crossed the line with her.

 

hey, I gotta keep this short.

I just wanted to let you know I went through jessicas phone

last night and I couldnt belive what i saw, she saved the messages

she sent you. OH MY GOD, what I fricken liar, she lied out her ass

she told you I was trying to get her or trying to be with her ect.. that was so

crazy I cant belive she lied, and the expect a message from him telling you

that he wants to not talk to you anymore and concentrate on our relationship!

that is so funny while ive been here not going out cause while i was going out ****

was getting so bad, shes tried making me send a message like that to you

and i've absolutely refused, oh oh oh and she said I wanted to come clean

with her about what me and you did, I got tricked into it, i read a message on her phone

that totally sounded like she cheated, and since i thought we definitely didnt

want to be with eachother it wouldnt hurt anything if she knew, i in recent times

accused her of doing somethng with someone else and she always says "i havent done anything

but if i did i wouldnt tell you cause i know youve cheated, you tell me what youve done

and then if i have i'll tell you" so i told her i saw what was on her phone and said so why not

admit it, and she refused, so i was like ok jess, i blah blah blah with rose, ok so now tell me

and she showed me the entire email that was on her computer and it had nothing to do with

cheating, i was like shiiiit, but she didnt care she sat there laying in the bed with a straight

face so it was obviouse there was no feelings there, and she was getting up like 2 minutes after

i told her and i was like what you doing and she didnt say anything and she got to the middle of

the room and fell straight to the ground crying like crazy, i was like what the ****, to make a long story

short thats why i told her, i wasnt "trying to get her and coming clean ect".

but anyways, she checks my phone logs online since its under her account daily, goes through

all my stuff thats why i havent messaged you, it ****ing killed me thinking you thought

i was ignoring you. But yea her whole thing to you was sooo full of **** i just had to wrote this.

anyways, miss you, love you.

-daneye

[Midnight Rider]

No offense, but I find the way you communicate/write overall to be VERY confusing. Just skimming through the letter you wrote, it comes off as confrontational, and it's also not clear if you are bashing your own wife. Not sure what else to say, you just don't seem to be very good at written english. Sounds like it was written by a 13 year old high school dropout (sorry).

[EnigmaXOXO]

My question is, can anyone else tell that I was speaking "past tense" in regards to the i wasnt trying to get, be with ect.. with my wife.

 

No.

 

The “I miss you” and the “I love you”... in addition to calling your wife a liar; claiming that you were “tricked” into confessing your affair (rather than wanting to do right by your marriage); and then basically telling this gal that the only reason you haven’t been in contact is because your wife was keeping close tabs on you... has pretty much summed it all up.

 

You should have exercised a little common sense in regard to your own self-preservation and maintained no contact. If your wife has read this, then you’ve only succeeded in trading in your marital leash for a noose.

[alphamale]

how odd....

[GorillaTheater]

Your wife didn't like that letter? Weird, man.

[2sure]

Thats not just cheating, thats hateful.

 

And to answer your question...no, it doesnt sound like this is a past tense thing. Besides, whether you said these things a month ago or today...whats the difference?

[JackJack]

So did your wife wise up and leave you?

[norajane]

No.

 

The “I miss you” and the “I love you”... in addition to calling your wife a liar; claiming that you were “tricked” into confessing your affair (rather than wanting to do right by your marriage); and then basically telling this gal that the only reason you haven’t been in contact is because your wife was keeping close tabs on you... has pretty much summed it all up.

 

I'm amazed you managed to translate that much of it. I couldn't make heads or tails out of who was who and who did what.

 

But, after reading your translation, it made much more sense, and I agree with your assessment.

 

Dan, I'd be kicking you out on your ass if I were your wife.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

 

hey, I gotta keep this short.

 

 

 

You should have remained true to your word.

[Sparkling]

My friend would text me and I would ignore them to respect my wife

.

 

 
but anyways, she checks my phone logs online since its under her account daily, goes through
all my stuff thats why i havent messaged you, it ****ing killed me thinking you thought
i was ignoring you.

 

What is it with you? Do you think your wife is stupid or we are? RIGHT here is just one of your lies. You told us you ignored your lovers messages to show respect for your wife. But, you told your lover you didn't text her because your wife might see it and it was killing you. You made it abundantly clear to your lover you wanted to text her...it was killing you in fact... so you did text her. That is NOT showing respect for your wife, you tattled on her like a grade school kid and you trashed her.

 

You only wanted to text your lover because you were SCARED she might be mad at you and you were trying to weasel your way out of it. Geez! Grow up! ....You ran whining to another woman about your wife. It isn't cute, and it isn't funny.

 

Now you are scared because your wife is upset. You are treating her as if she is ignorant and again you are trying to weasel your way out of what you wrote to your lover. There is no mistaking you told your lover you loved her and missed her AFTER you had told your wife you wouldn't accept her texts out of respect for her. You clearly want to continue your affair, you just don't want to be caught in the act.

 

You are one very scared little man who hasn't shown any respect to anyone...and you lied to us.