What should be amazing is baffling!

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After a long absence from needing some love advice, I now find myself as confused as one can be. I apologize in advance for the length; please bear with me and I'll try to be concise.

 

Six months ago I met Joe through work. He works for a construction company, I work at an architecture firm and his company is building our latest project. Within a few weeks of working with each other, I became absolutely smitten. Any opportunity he had, he made me laugh. It's fantastic! Coupled with the fact he's smart, handsome and kind, I kept falling and falling. As we continued to work with each other, we got closer, talking about our hobbies, weekends, etc. In the past few months, we've went to a couple of baseball games together (not alone) and out to lunch (alone). We've continued to get closer. When either of us would drop off something for work, what should have been a few minute exchange ended up being us chatting for an hour or more.

 

A week ago Sunday, Joe met me at the bar I watch football games at to drop off something for work. We had some beers, chatted and watched the game. After the game, the conversation turned more serious and personal. After awhile, the flirting began and suddenly, we shared a kiss. And then a few more. After leaving the bar, we decided to go back to his place to continue the smooching and talk about what was happening. We talked about why we like each other and I said the biggest reason for me was I loved that he made me laugh and he told me he loves to make me laugh. After a bit more discussion, we made the decision to start dating. We both stated we didn't want us dating to affect our work relationship and that at work, for all intents and purposes, we weren't dating. He told me he was seeing someone else and I let him know I was as well. And then he asked me if I was going to get all freaked out if he went skiing or hunting on Saturdays. I asked him if he was going to get freaked out if I went to watch football. To me, his last question certainly enforced that we were in agreement on dating. I spent the night snuggled in his arms and when we woke in the morning, there was no awkwardness; it was just like the night before. And to be clear, we did not have sex.

 

Since then, we have not spoken to or seen each other outside of work. Except for a brief mention of that day, we have not spoken about it at work. We spent a half an hour on the phone tonight and he had me in stitches. I can't help but feel like part of the reason he did so was because he knows how much I like it. Our relationship at work is exactly as it was before. If it had become strained or awkward, then maybe I would have a clue but it's really not. I do not understand how we went from making the decision to start dating to having no contact outside the office. What am I missing? And I do understand that one phone call would answer my question but I'm petrified. So I'll start here and maybe get an idea of what could be going on.