I think I need some tough love from the LS crew...

[Oxo]

I don't know if this is part of grieving or something but everyday when I wake up I just don't want to be here. I'm always on the verge of tears and rarely laugh anymore.

 

I hate my job and don't want to be in my house. I'm in debt and have no spare cash to do little fun things really, also I wanted to see a counsellor but right now I can't afford it.

 

I know this sounds like a total pity party for myself and I've been trying to pull myself out of this slump but I'm finding it really difficult.

 

I just need any advice anybody can throw my way - be it HTFU, coddling or just hopefulness, I'll take it.

 

Also, I am currently NC with my ex who was as close as my best friend so I'm struggling a bit without him as a confidante

[xerofate]

I am right there with you.

 

For the first time in my life, I woke up, and just didn't want to get out of bed. I didn't want to move. I didn't want to do anything.

 

I'm scared to go to bed now, because I don't want to feel that way again.

 

It's like I'm scared if I lay down to go to sleep, I will never get up again.

 

I have always had a feeling that no matter what, everythign will be ok. I don't have that feeling, and that is very scary to me.

 

It sounds like we are both suffering from depression. In the states, some employers have something called the employee assitance program. It got me a therapist, fast. I have my first appointment tommorrow.

 

One of the things that has caused me to cry the most, is when people tell me "you will get through this." because it feel so helpless, and that is a message filled with such hope.

 

So let me be the first to tell you.

 

YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS.

[puppydog]

Classic signs of depression. I also used to cry for no reason/at the drop of a hat and panic the moment I opened my eyes in the morning...not want to get out of bed. Walk around and feel like my face just felt like a mask. We all go through it when we break up with our ex's. Unfortunately, it will take some time for those wounds to heal.

 

GIVE IT TIME. YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS.

 

Go out and do something that you used to enjoy. Go take a walk, write/journal, listen to music and dance your unhappiness away...just ANYTHING but sitting at home doing nothing.

Edited December 9, 2009 by puppydog

[xerofate]

You mean don't sit around the house and play in the internet?

[Oxo]

Thanks guys

 

Haha well the internet can be dangerous. I'm at work right now so I don't know if I count hahaha

[puppydog]

You mean don't sit around the house and play in the internet?

 

Touche. Haha.

 

You know what I realized also? When you start helping other people out with their problems, just even sharing your own experiences and hearing other people out, it speeds it up the healing process. I only found this place a couple days after my breakup and omg i feel like i'm flying light speed ahead.

 

My previous ex before this one: 3 month dating. It took me 1 yr to get over him. (I didn't love him) My current ex: 3.5 years dating. 1.5 months broken up so far. (I loved him and let him/his dad walk all over me. stupid i know)

[xerofate]

I agree. I'm addicted to this site. Just reading some of the storys, sharing what I have been through. Really helps.

 

Ahd a rough day, came home, and jumped on here. It does help.

 

Really looking forward to my therapy appointment today though. Kinda nervous.

[Zeegagge]

Yah getting on here really does help. Much love to whoever runs this thing. Been helping me a lot! You're not alone in this. Not at all. Ive been so far down from previous break ups that I was crying on the floor, unable to get up at all. Not sleeping for days, unable to eat for days at a time. Yah, I got over it. I was happy again. Really happy. I realized that if I could do that I could do anything. Now I've been broken up with again, and yah, Im sad, but I'm dealing with it much, much better. Been a month and a half after a 3 1/2 year relationship and I'm already starting to realize that this is for the best.

 

And someone mentioned about writing in a journal. Do that, really. Write down all these feelings of depression in one long sequence. Don't stop, don't edit yourself, just write and write and write. It helps!

 

Hang in there! You might not beleive me but you're going to come out stronger in the end.

[Hannah86]

Serious question: is your room clean?

 

If not, CLEAN IT. Then do your laundry. Then, everything else will follow. Get those two things out of the way NOW and your stress level will decrease dramatically.