Kiowa Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I met a guy off the internet close to two months ago. We have been seeing each other since then. For the first couple of times, it was mostly just meeting to eat somewhere. We have also gone to see a movie and most recently, I went to his house to hang out. He seems to like me, but I can't tell if he is just really shy or just thinks of me as a friend. The whole time we have been seeing each other, he hasn't made a single move. Not even to hold my hand or a peck on the cheek. He is always available when I ask if he wants to do something, even if it's the middle of the week. He even let me use drive truck when I needed one to haul my horse to the vet. I'm really starting to like this guy and figured I might have to make a move if he is too shy to do it. But what if I'm completely misreading him? Any ideas? Thanks in advance.
boogieboy Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Make the move. If he doesnt like you, so what, you dont talk anymore. What do you have to lose?
trueluV Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Hey, I'm in your same shoes! I've posted on my thread too, about the same stuff I've gone out 5 dates with my guy, been to his place and no holding hands and no peck in the cheeks like you. I'm starting to like my guy too, and I have the same questions you have! I guess your guy (and my guy) is pretty shy, and if i were you, I'd try to touch his arm or something to let him know I'm comfortable & attracted to him. and then see how he responds to that. I don't expect him to hold my hand or something, but if he allows me and doesn't resist and keep wanting to talk or be with me, then I'll take it as a green light. what do you think?
Author Kiowa Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 Sounds like a plan. I will definitely try it next time. We are supposed to watch some movies at his place so it will be a perfect place to try it. Good luck to you.
RobM Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Sounds like a plan. I will definitely try it next time. We are supposed to watch some movies at his place so it will be a perfect place to try it. Good luck to you. Sounds like a really good plan, I read in another thread that movie nights almost always end in sex.
Yukikazi Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Just curl up against him during the movie. Has he ever touched you at all? arm? shoulder? accidental bump? Does he apologize for bumping you even when its a mundane little bump. Does he flirt at all? Have you gotten him into a sexual conversation about anything? You can verbally raise the tension w/o having to physically move first.
trueluV Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Has he ever touched you at all? arm? shoulder? accidental bump? Does he apologize for bumping you even when its a mundane little bump. Do these mean something? I'm curious! what if the guy touched me in the arm or a shoulder? and what if he apologize for bumping me?
Yukikazi Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Do these mean something? I'm curious! what if the guy touched me in the arm or a shoulder? and what if he apologize for bumping me? I wouldn't have asked if they didn't possibly mean something. Its body language and whats called kino. Kino is flirtatious touching. If he apologizes for bumping you then he is shy and lacks confidence as he believes that touching you.. even accidentally may annoy you or turn you off. He may feel like he could offend you by touching you even accidentally if you don't actually touch him yourself.
BobSacamento Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Sometimes guys are shy. I would try to initiate touch with him to break the ice. One suggestion is if your hands are cold, like from snow or getting ice, say "Wow feel how cold my hands are." then grab his hands. A girl did this to me once and I did not mind it at all
trueluV Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 One suggestion is if your hands are cold, like from snow or getting ice, say "Wow feel how cold my hands are." then grab his hands. This sounds like a very good idea. However one need guts to do it.
boogieboy Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 This sounds like a very good idea. However one need guts to do it. You dont need guts, dont overthink it. Its just a touch, just do it. He will like it. You think he will recoil from you or somethin?
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