Houtre Posted December 17, 2003 Posted December 17, 2003 Just don't know what to do My girlfriend recently broke up with me, but there are some questions that are were left unanswered and i really don't know how to go about getting the answers. First let me give you some of the history. I'm 27 my girlfriend is 33, we both have good jobs that keep us very busy. I was dating this girl for 11.3 months. I don't think that we ever had any problems, or big problems anyway. She thought that we didn't see each other enough and we had a small problem communicating. But everything was going along so well until a few weeks ago. The week before Thanksgiving I got the Flu and i was unable to see her for about 5 days. On Thanksgiving she invited me over to her house to meet her grandparents, who i have not met yet (I have had dinner with her and her parents on numerous occasions). Unfortunatly I was unable to attend because of family obligations. The next day she went to PA to visit other family for a week. The Monday she returned she called me at home. We talked for about an hour about stupid things. I tell that something was on her mind but it took awhile to get her to talk about it. She started crying and told me that she didn't think that she could date me anymore. We talked about it for about 5 minutes before she ended the phone conversation. She told me that she would call me later in the week so i could yell at her. Well later in the week came and went with no phone call. It was very hard because she was always on my mind. I didn't want to call her because she said she would be calling me. On thursday i sent her an email about the situation disagreeing with her. The next day she sent one back to me giving me a few examples about how we didn't communicate and she wanted to know how we could work everything out. I responded to hers the same day. About a week later she sent me an email basically saying that she did not have time to respond to my email at the moment and she didn't want me to think that she was ignoring me. I called her office the next day and left a message on the her machine just saying that i wanted to talk to her. It has been another week and I still have not heard from her. I'm angry and hurt that she has not responded to my email or phone call. I feel like all the time we spent together meant nothing to her. It has been almost two weeks with really no response from her at all. You should have seen us when we were together she was so loving. I just cant understand why she couldn't just give me a little closure because Istill don't know why she broke up with me. I have thought about calling and yelling at her. Letting her know exactly how she made me feel. But the only reason i want to do that is to make her feel bad and i still love this girl and i really don't want to make her feel bad. Should I call her, should i continue waiting for her to call me, or should I just try to forget her and move on with my life. What is wrong with this girl. There is also the fact that my mother and grandmother got her a few Christmas presents that they insist i give her, I have to give her some of her stuff she left at my apartment, and I would like my stuff back as well.
dlb311 Posted December 17, 2003 Posted December 17, 2003 maybe she doesn't understand yet why she left but just needed to. Time will help you both figure it out. Maybe in a couple days if she doesn't return your call or e-mail her you can e-mail her to tell her your family got her some gifts they would really want her to have. I would other wise try to just keep living your life. Don't let her get your life all in a rut I know its real hard but sometimes we have to be real strong to survive. Just remember nothing went wrong. I was in a similar situation. My ex broke up with me 4 months ago we were together for two years. we were great no big problems talked about getting married in a few years and he was moving in with me. But a month before he was to move in he got all weird I started to freak out because It was unsualy for him He was so loving and into our relationship. And I finally confronted it and he was like I miss the pasion. I said well sometimes life gets in the way. And he begged me to give him another chance he would not be so negative and ignore us as a couple. But a week later he left. It was real hard for me. I tried to get in contact with him because I just didn't get it. He went to dinner with me. Said he stil had feelings for me and in time wanted to be with me again but didn't want me to wait for him. Now how confusing can you get. So for a while I held on. But it hurt so much to not have a real reason why our great love had to end. I found someone else recently. Not saying he is forever but for some reason when I think of my ex those loving feelings the want for him the desire to marry him isn't there. I could careless if I ever talk to him again. I am moving on with or without this new guy. And i feel great. I think you should just keep on living and life will take you where you are suppose to go. Just dont let it interfer with your life.
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