Would you rather be by yourself or with somebody your not physically attracted to?

[Datingnoob]

Stop being a boy and try being a man. I've seen plenty of average-looking guys with hot chicks. If you aren't confident, you will have nothing...you will be nothing...you will die with nothing.

[cognac]

Stop being a boy and try being a man. I've seen plenty of average-looking guys with hot chicks. If you aren't confident, you will have nothing...you will be nothing...you will die with nothing.

 

This is dumb. It's ridiculous to measure a man by his success with women, by that definition then vain metro fags who get their eyebrows waxed and put a lot of gel in their hair are the most manly.

 

I rarely see average looking guys with hot chicks, unless he has a lot of money. Confidence is key in life, but trust me, it can only get you so far with women.

[AD1980]

This is dumb. It's ridiculous to measure a man by his success with women, by that definition then vain metro fags who get their eyebrows waxed and put a lot of gel in their hair are the most manly.

 

I rarely see average looking guys with hot chicks, unless he has a lot of money. Confidence is key in life, but trust me, it can only get you so far with women.

 

Confidence only works with women if your good looking if youre a confident ugly dude youre a creep

[cognac]

Confidence only works with women if your good looking if youre a confident ugly dude youre a creep

 

I know. Confidence comes from knowing things will go your way. And how do you know if things will go your way? By constantly having things go your way! Just like a heart surgeon is confident in his abilities, a very good looking guy is confident in picking up women. Only guys I know who are confident and not great looking but still get girls are extremely violent criminal types and rich guys. I have yet to see an example of to the contrary .

[aerogurl87]

Do you know right away if theyres a shot or no shot if youd ever be with a guy or are theyre people looks wise who are on the fence to where he may not really be your exact type but you could fall for him if the chemitsry is there??

 

Both, there are guys I look at and I go "wow, he's hot!" And then there are guys like my ex who I look at and say "eh, if the chemistry is there I can make it work". My ex boyfriend was not easy on the eyes when it came to his face, but he had the body of a Greek god, plus a super fun personality so it worked for awhile between us.

 

As for guys who are not my type at all, well they don't get a chance period except to maybe be a friend, but that's about it.

[SadandConfusedWA]

Sigh. I truly feel like I live in an alternate universe.

 

I have never met a single person in my life that I felt all 3 (physical, emotional and mental connection) for. The closest I have come is 2 out of 3 and that's with only couple of people in my entire life.

 

I would consider myself very lucky to meet someone who I have one of the 3 connections TBF mentioned and if I want family and kids I will most likely have to settle for 0 out of 3.

[harmfulsweetz]

It would never work with someone you weren't physically attracted to. Trust me, I've just got out of that. As TBF said, you need things to be firing on all three cylinders for it to work.

 

You may be able to mask over it for some time, but soon, the sex will dwindle, until you never have it, and you will start looking elsewhere. It wouldn't be fair on anyone, if you enter and stay in an R simply because you don't want to be alone. Being alone is sometimes fulfilling, sometimes satisfying, but being in an R where there's no sexual spark, is degrading, demeaning and unfulfilling. It's as simple as that.

 

Would you want someone to date you simply because they couldn't face being alone? I agree with many posters, you can grow to be attracted to someone, I've met many men whom I didn't at first like, but once I got to know them, I was completely infatuated. And I've met men whom I was infatuated instantly with, but lost it later on. It just depends.

 

Dating below your number? I don't believe there's numbers when it comes to attractiveness. Each person finds different things attractive, and sometimes you can find odd things, quirks (maybe even flaws) attractive, on the right person, but you definitely shouldn't date someone you don't find attractive.

[SadandConfusedWA]

You don't really need all 3 for a relationship to work, it's a luxury and not a necessity.

 

My mum and dad have been married for 30+ years (happily) and I can guarantee you that their intellectual connection is basically zero. They also have almost no common interests. However, they have a very strong emotional and (I assume) physical connection.

[SoulSearch_CO]

Learning from experience of dating somebody I was VERY attracted to vs somebody I wasn't that into....I'd rather be alone if I don't have that fire. Just forget it.

[MadDriver]

What's the difference between emotional connection and intellectual connection?

 

Intellectual connection is not really part of the "universal" list, but the original poster's own quirkiness. Most people are looking for mates they are physically and emotionally attracted to -- given these qualities they can fall in love.

 

Then you have the list makers, the women who must have 6' tall guys, etc. etc. "intellectual connection" is part of that never-ending list of requirements.

 

Physical connection requires no explanation.

Emotional connection requires no explanation.

When someone's made-up requirement ("intellectual connection") demands an explanation, it's a fairly certain it is part of that mythical laundry list.

[SadandConfusedWA]

Intellectual connection is not really part of the "universal" list, but the original poster's own quirkiness. Most people are looking for mates they are physically and emotionally attracted to -- given these qualities they can fall in love.

 

Then you have the list makers, the women who must have 6' tall guys, etc. etc. "intellectual connection" is part of that never-ending list of requirements.

 

Physical connection requires no explanation.

Emotional connection requires no explanation.

When someone's made-up requirement ("intellectual connection") demands an explanation, it's a fairly certain it is part of that mythical laundry list.

 

 

Exactly my thoughts MadDriver.

[sedgwick]

by that definition then vain metro fags who get their eyebrows waxed and put a lot of gel in their hair are the most manly.

 

Would you be willing not to use the word "fags?" In case you haven't heard, it's derogatory.

[Ariadne]

Would you rather be by yourself or with somebody your not physically attracted to?

 

If I loved this guy, I'd be physically attracted.

 

But then, I tend to find any random people cute, even if they are old, fat, etc.

 

I think that if I loved a guy, no matter what he looked like, I'd find him the most beautiful.

[Rudderless]

You don't really need all 3 for a relationship to work, it's a luxury and not a necessity.

 

It's neither a luxury or a necessity, it's a given and relatively easy to find. If you're finding it difficult you're not being open or sociable enough.