Would you rather be by yourself or with somebody your not physically attracted to?

[PJKino]

I dont have much sucess with women kinda shy self consience about my looks,i dont have extremely high standards but i have to be somewhat physically attracted to a women to be with her.

 

 

If the level of women i can get im not attracted to id rather be alone the rest of my life then with a person i cant imagine having sex with

 

So while yes i get lonely and yearn for effection and companionship at times its nto enough for me to be wiht soembody i dont find physically attratcive

 

If some of u were in this situation would you settle for companionship or wait till soemobdy you found attractive was into you no matter how long it took and maybe never be with somebody it that doesnt happen?

[kizik]

Seriously?

 

I would never date someone that did not turn me on. What's the point? Plus dating way below your number is humiliating.

[AD1980]

Seriously?

 

I would never date someone that did not turn me on. .

 

same here.....Doesnt have to be great looking but something about her physically has to turn me on..

[PJKino]

Seriously?

 

I would never date someone that did not turn me on. What's the point? Plus dating way below your number is humiliating.

 

But what if the level you were on you werent able to get somebody you were attracted to?

 

Would you rather be lonely?

[mem11363]

- Learn to be confident - yes you can learn how - not cocky - confident

- Find some job skill you have real aptitude for and work your azz off getting very very good at it

- SAVE money

 

If at that point you cannot find a suitable domestic partner, go international and find a pretty - don't be fooled by the uber beautiful women who will date you - they will break your bank quickly - find a pretty girl from a foreign land and bring her back with you.

 

Just be careful not to go crazy with it. Find someone you think does have some chemistry with you. After 2 years they will get a green card and you will discover how they really feel.

 

Prenup is a necessity with foreign brides.

 

 

I dont have much sucess with women kinda shy self consience about my looks,i dont have extremely high standards but i have to be somewhat physically attracted to a women to be with her.

 

 

If the level of women i can get im not attracted to id rather be alone the rest of my life then with a person i cant imagine having sex with

 

So while yes i get lonely and yearn for effection and companionship at times its nto enough for me to be wiht soembody i dont find physically attratcive

 

If some of u were in this situation would you settle for companionship or wait till soemobdy you found attractive was into you no matter how long it took and maybe never be with somebody it that doesnt happen?

[2sunny]

But what if the level you were on you werent able to get somebody you were attracted to?

 

Would you rather be lonely?

 

just because i'm alone doesn't mean i'm lonely.

 

i wouldn't date someone if i wasn't attracted.

[kizik]

Look, I'm alone and lonely, and I still wouldn't date any girl who wasn't a slender, cute-faced sweetie who was at least a 7.5.

[sand26]

I have met girls who I didn't find attractive at all and months later found them really sexy because of things other than their looks. Try not being so close minded, get to know girls before you decide weather they are attractive. They may not look like Megan Fox but I bet if you had a ton of fun on a consistent basis with a chick you would eventually find her super hot, I know I have.

 

Just remember, for every hot chick, there is a guy who is tired of screwing them.

[PJKino]

I have met girls who I didn't find attractive at all and months later found them really sexy because of things other than their looks. Try not being so close minded, get to know girls before you decide weather they are attractive. They may not look like Megan Fox but I bet if you had a ton of fun on a consistent basis with a chick you would eventually find her super hot, I know I have.

 

Just remember, for every hot chick, there is a guy who is tired of screwing them.

 

I am,not expectign a model or a 9 or 10 at all i just need to be with a somewhat cute girl i can imagine havign sex with at some point

 

If theyres no physicla attraction i cant do it

[kizik]

Just remember, for every hot chick, there is a guy who is tired of listening to her bullsh*t.

 

Fixed your post.

[samspade]

Go after the type of woman you want and are attracted to. Don't settle for anything else.

 

You should have no fear of being alone. There will be times when you'll need to walk away from a beautiful woman, because she is not right for you. This is where real men are separated from henpecked boys. Rid yourself of your fear of loneliness, and you'll have taken a huge step toward attracting women. The less you need them, the more the want you.

[D-Lish]

Geez, I'd rather be single forever than be in a relationship with someone I had no physical attraction to.

 

I know plenty of people that aren't alone, but still lonley.

[Pyro]

Geez, I'd rather be single forever than be in a relationship with someone I had no physical attraction to.

 

Agree completely.

[threebyfate]

IMO, you're settling if you don't have all three emotional, physical and intellectual cylinders firing, with the same person.

 

If you enjoy a person emotionally and intellectually, they're a close friend, rather than a romantic interest.

 

If you enjoy someone emotionally and physically, expect to be bored, in short order.

 

If you enjoy someone intellectually and physically, this person should be an eff buddy.

 

And worse yet, if you only enjoy someone with one of those traits, what a train wreck, looking for somewhere to happen, if you commit to them due to loneliness.

[conehead]

IMO, you're settling if you don't have all three emotional, physical and intellectual cylinders firing, with the same person.

 

If you enjoy a person emotionally and intellectually, they're a close friend, rather than a romantic interest.

 

If you enjoy someone emotionally and physically, expect to be bored, in short order.

 

If you enjoy someone intellectually and physically, this person should be an eff buddy.

 

And worse yet, if you only enjoy someone with one of those traits, what a train wreck, looking for somewhere to happen, if you commit to them due to loneliness.

 

What's the difference between emotional connection and intellectual connection?

[USMCHokie]

By myself. But this foreign bride thing is sounding quite appealing...

[kizik]

By myself. But this foreign bride thing is sounding quite appealing...

 

Just watch Birthday Girl. Doesn't end well.

[threebyfate]

What's the difference between emotional connection and intellectual connection?

You can care about someone who doesn't stimulate you, intellectually.

[kizik]

What's the difference between emotional connection and intellectual connection?

 

What is the meaning of life?

[GoodOnPaper]

If some of u were in this situation would you settle for companionship or wait till soemobdy you found attractive was into you no matter how long it took and maybe never be with somebody it that doesnt happen?

 

Definitely wait. I was terrible at attracting women and felt like an absolute loser for it, so at a low point in graduate school, I reluctantly latched onto the first woman who showed a legitimate interest in an LTR and thought satisfaction would just naturally happen with marriage and family. It doesn't work that way. If things aren't working out with women right now, use the internet to take the edge off of the physical frustration and pour your energy into your career and hobby aspirations. Later on, things will probably work out better with women, but if not, you will be in a much better position to truly enjoy your independence -- not being tied down to a family that you are lukewarm about.

[threebyfate]

not being tied down to a family that you are lukewarm about.

I hope to god, you're only talking about your wife and not your children.

[aerogurl87]

Well this is an easy question to answer. I'd definitely rather be by myself than be with someone I didn't find attractive. Physical attraction isn't everything but it goes a long way, believe me. I don't think I could even fathom being intimate with someone who I couldn't stand to look at. I mean they have to bring something to the table in the looks department, even if it's just their body and not their face. (As was the case with one of my ex boyfriends )

[Unsuccessful]

Most of my relationships have involved guys that I had no attraction (physical or mental) towards.

 

In the end, being in a relationship like this is really just a sham. Without attraction, all you really have is a friendship that you are trying to pretend is a romance.

 

You can't fool yourself.

[AD1980]

Well this is an easy question to answer. I'd definitely rather be by myself than be with someone I didn't find attractive. Physical attraction isn't everything but it goes a long way, believe me. I don't think I could even fathom being intimate with someone who I couldn't stand to look at. I mean they have to bring something to the table in the looks department, even if it's just their body and not their face. (As was the case with one of my ex boyfriends )

 

Do you know right away if theyres a shot or no shot if youd ever be with a guy or are theyre people looks wise who are on the fence to where he may not really be your exact type but you could fall for him if the chemitsry is there??

[AD1980]

Most of my relationships have involved guys that I had no attraction (physical or mental) towards.

 

In the end, being in a relationship like this is really just a sham. Without attraction, all you really have is a friendship that you are trying to pretend is a romance.

 

You can't fool yourself.

 

How do you get in a relationship like that in the first place?