knime32 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 My ex boyfriend and I started dating when were were 16 and have been dating for 6 years. I thought we had this amazing relationship and were headed down the road towards marriage. Over the 6 years, we had a few rough points and even broke up a few short times, but always managed to find our way back to one another. Last week, he approached me and said that we needed to talk. He said that he felt like we'd grown apart and that we were just best friends. As the conversation progressed he revealed that "he loved me to death" but needed time to himself and to find himself. I haven't really heard from him since. Every other time we've parted, just like this one, he was really hesitant to do it...but non-the-less its happend. A few months earlier he was talking with some of our mutual couple friends and told them that he was ready to propose to me and that he would be doing it on a trip that we were going to be taking in September, but then he never did. Now, we're not even together. How does a guy go from being ready to propose to you to not want to even be with you in such a short amount of time? Is my guy a committment phobe and wants to make the committment to me but can't or does he want to make it, just not with me and is looking for something better? If he comes back, should I take him back and how long does a guy need to search to know that he did indeed have everything he was looking for already but just was afraid he was going to miss out on something else? I'm confused by the events that have transpired and I'm left thinking what happend to us and where and what do i do now!
Torn_apart Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Sounds like hes unsure of what he wants, usually this means he sees other girls and is thinking what it would be like to be with them. This is why first love usually don't last. At this point, I can't say theres anything you can do besides NC.
Author knime32 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 I'm afraid I don't know what NC means. I know what you're saying, but how can someone make that transition so fast. If you're happy and in love and there are no warning signs that something is wrong with your partner, how does it happen and how do you know for sure that that's what's going on?
Torn_apart Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 People usually get cold feet when they are faced with an important decision, especially when its a life long commitment. This is an internal struggle and there won't be any obvious signs. Read this link for info about NC. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81399/
Author knime32 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 I've been having NC with him since the break up last week. Generally, he takes some time to think and then he comes back and the time between our previous breakups has been years. Any suggestions on why this keeps happening and why he keeps coming back, and I honeslty don't know how to handle the situation anymore. What should I do?
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