Beeotch Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 People can be friends and have romance grow out of a friendship and realize, once in the romance, that friendship was a more compatible path. To me, romance is only one path of a person's life experience and one can share different paths with certain people. Just because one particular path doesn't work out, there are others which may be fulfilling and valuable. Once the romance is over, love can evolve to a different place. When I hear comments like 'I hate my ex. He/she's a bast@ard/biotch', I'm thinking to myself 'Did you not have any positive experiences with this person? Did you not share tender and loving moments? Just because it ended, does that mean it was a lie or did not happen?' Food for thought. I so agree! I hate when people demonize their exes as though breaking up is a crime. NOT everyone you date is meant to be your lifelong partner- FACT! Most of us date and had love for many people before perhaps marrying or settling down with one person. That's life. Some people come in to our lives for a season, some for a lifetime.
Beeotch Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I would not advise being friends with someone whom you had a relationship with and that they rejected,or have broken up with you. That to me is a waste of time,speaking of experience. A wise person said once i if they decided that you were not good enough for a relationship hhowever you are good enough for casual friendship? I dont think so. Some can do it,thats great, but most wind up fustrated and keep posting in sites lsuch as this because nothing is happening. In a job yes i would take a part time position if the boss didnt want to hire me full time,thats because i need the job,but i dont need the ex that bad in order to be a part time anything. Waste of time I say. Hope this helps That person is not that wise....that makes no sense. A friendship is something other than a romantic relationship and romantic relationships should have friendship as their foundation. So the person should have been able to find you as a friend first before dating you, they should like you as a person outside of the romance. The romance should be secondary or an accessory. Even that language "not good enough"...like who assumes they aren't good enough because a relationship ended? I never think that...I think "We're not meant to be". Yes it may take time to be over the hurt, but if you have healthy self esteem and are realistic you move forward and realize "Oh it just wasn't meant to be...nothing personal"....I think people who take it upon themselves to degrade their worth and assume they are not "good enough" have other issues.
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