LikeABirdWhoFlew Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 It's been 3 months since my EX and I broke up. She text messaged me today and told me she was finally ready to give me the closure I wanted. She just called and told me that she met someone on E-Harmony weeks after our breakup (we were engaged). She then moved in with this guy a few weeks after that. Then she tells me she cheated on this new guy with some band member guy she knew for a while and now her and the e-harmony guy are "just" roomates because he found out she cheated on him. What the f*ck has my life come to?!?! From engaged one minute with my EX to my EX moving in with this guy after knowing him 2 weeks and then cheating on him with another. Well, even after she told me all this, I told her I still loved her and wanted to work things out. Even she was suprised. But she did say she was not ready to be with anyone. I guess the e-harmony guy she is living with doesn't count as anyone. Yeah right! I feel so dumb.
McGrupp Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 why would u want her back? she sounds like a mess. cest la vie...
dashing daisy Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Not to sound harsh, but what is there to work out? Think about why you really want to be with this person. Does she honestly have qualities that could possibly compensate for her lying, cheating, breaking promises, and basically throwing you away after accepting your proposal? I cannot imagine anything that would make this okay, but you should go ahead and try to name them anyway. And to make things worse, she is "finally ready" to tell you these things, as though it is a favor to you. Please. She's calling the shots, they're bullets to your heart, and you are running towards them. Do yourself a favor and run in the other direction. No one is worth this. No one. You aren't dumb, but you need to open your eyes and see this for what it is. And stop talking to her!
kimmi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 It's been 3 months since my EX and I broke up. She text messaged me today and told me she was finally ready to give me the closure I wanted. She just called and told me that she met someone on E-Harmony weeks after our breakup (we were engaged). She then moved in with this guy a few weeks after that. Then she tells me she cheated on this new guy with some band member guy she knew for a while and now her and the e-harmony guy are "just" roomates because he found out she cheated on him. What the f*ck has my life come to?!?! From engaged one minute with my EX to my EX moving in with this guy after knowing him 2 weeks and then cheating on him with another. Well, even after she told me all this, I told her I still loved her and wanted to work things out. Even she was suprised. But she did say she was not ready to be with anyone. I guess the e-harmony guy she is living with doesn't count as anyone. Yeah right! I feel so dumb. I don't get how you feel any of this mess is for you to own ??? This is her mess , she is the one that is making herself do the things she is doing. I full agree with the above poster ... Move on and forget her , the pain of a possible 2nd chance with someone like this should not even be considered. Your going to end up always wondering what she is doing, where she is at, why s she late, oh no there is a male that she is working with..
LovelyDaze Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 why would u want her back? she sounds like a mess. cest la vie... Perfect. Listen to McGrupp, What you just wrote looks pathetic doesn't it? Start NC IMMEDIATELY and don't look back. That girl is in the basement hiding in the house of immaturity.
LexiB Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 why would u want her back? she sounds like a mess. cest la vie... I second this ver batim
almostpassedit Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 (edited) You are blindly in love She doesn't love you She is taking you for granted. You have many months before you heal, maybe even years. I hope in that time, you manage to never see her in person or call her or write her or text her. Atleast she did call you to give you closure, she knows you love her but she doesn't want you or love you. Yes you should feel dumb & You don't respect yourself. Man UP. Grow a pair of balls. Edited December 8, 2009 by almostpassedit
DenverBachelor Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 It sounds like she is having some sort of major life dilemma or awakening and is trying to over-compensate for something. The fact that she moved in with someone so quickly and then cheated on him suggests that she is struggling with deep internal issues. It sounds like she may have been abandoned or abused as a kid and is having major issues forming deep bonds. It also sounds like she probably cheated on you more than you realize. I would walk away and start fresh and let her be. She has some issues she needs to work out in her life and she's having some type of cognitive dissonance or disillusionment with love, commitment and/or herself in general.
puppydog Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Get up. Slowly turn around and walk...no....RUN IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION. You deserve better. Seriously. Do you really think you could forget what she did to you? You guys were engaged! She broke up with you to be/sleep with 2 other guys?
Author LikeABirdWhoFlew Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 I was the one who ended our engagment because of her constant nagging and clinglyness. I also work with her, so never seeing her again is out of the question for now. However, I do feel like I am really starting to heal finally. I see her for the piece of trash she really is. I deserve better and I know it!
trueblue72ny Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 it sounds like to me you dodged a bullet. there is no way you would be happy with that. sorry. consider it a blessing in disguise. you only think you want to work it out with her. do yourself a favor, next time her world is falling apart and you are the only chump who will listen to it, just say thanks but no thanks.
Author LikeABirdWhoFlew Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 EVERYONE I know says exactly that, "I Dodged A Bullet" and "Thank God You Never Married Her". I feel as though I woke up after we had our last talk. I really don't miss her anymore. I could never be with someone so immature and needy again. It took time, but I am feeling so much better!
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