pandagirl Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I have three maybe FOUR dates set up in the next week. Ack. What am I doing? Damn you, OK Cupid. I haven't even met any of these guys and I already feel guilty.
doushenka Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Why? It's not as if one date makes you their girlfriend or anything. I thought the point of dating was to get to know a person before you have a relationship.
Author pandagirl Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Why? It's not as if one date makes you their girlfriend or anything. I thought the point of dating was to get to know a person before you have a relationship. You're right, I've just never done anything like this before. Usually, I just date one person at time, until it peters out. But, I decided I need to try something new, so here I am.
shadowplay Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 That's exciting actually! Tell us how it goes.
Author pandagirl Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 That's exciting actually! Tell us how it goes. Thanks, SP! They're all really different, so it'll be interesting: a musician who now works for at the MOMA, an architect, and an advertising guy. We'll see!
tami-chan Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 panda-chan, have fun and tell us all the juicy parts....!!!!
D-Lish Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Just enjoy it Panda! Nothing wrong with multi-dating- I've done it and it's liberating! You'll have to give us a play by play:cool:
Sam Spade Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 The drawback of multi-dating is that it can quickly become a chore (as you already discover), and also reduce the incentive to put substantial effort in any particular date (since there are always more lined up).
looking4 green grass Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Oh Pandagirl! I'm glad to see you're embarking on the same adventure I'm embarking on. Multi-dating is way out of my comfort zone because I have to do a lot of rejection after the first date. I'm used to dating one guy at a time, and I feel so BAD for dating so many people at once. Work it girl! And I'll do the same.
tigressA Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I have three maybe FOUR dates set up in the next week. Ack. What am I doing? Damn you, OK Cupid. I haven't even met any of these guys and I already feel guilty. I'm in a similar boat as you right now and, like looking4greengrass also said, it's way out of my comfort zone. It is hard to dismiss those feelings of guilt, but really there's no reason for them. You're not committed to anyone. Just have FUN!
Knittress Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I hear ya with the "dread" feelings. I look for stupid reasons to reject men so I won't have to feel bad for pushing them away later - so I applaud your courage, really.
looking4 green grass Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 We multi-daters should start our own "Dating Adventures" thread and post all the wild things that guys do/say. I could compile quite a list right here! Ha!
carhill Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I remember doing 3 in one day back when I was single. I thought that was what multi-dating was What you're describing is what my stbx was doing when she met me. I thought lots of women did that. Saves on groceries
looking4 green grass Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I remember doing 3 in one day back when I was single. I thought that was what multi-dating was What you're describing is what my stbx was doing when she met me. I thought lots of women did that. Saves on groceries As a woman it's hard to complain about free dinner for sure.
carhill Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Of course, there are those dates which make one wish they were home curled up with a bowl of canned soup
looking4 green grass Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Of course, there are those dates which make one wish they were home curled up with a bowl of canned soup Oh like the guy who told me he was molested as a child and then did the same things to other girls in his family....Oh YEAH. What a first date that was. Run away! Run away! Pandagirl....brace yourself! lol I can't wait to hear your stories.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Ya thanks Ok Cupid, I got 5 dates lined up... i get really dizzy when meeting them one after another. Towards the end, I mixed up their background stories. Fail on my part. This is not IDEAL.
tigressA Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 We multi-daters should start our own "Dating Adventures" thread and post all the wild things that guys do/say. I could compile quite a list right here! Ha! That sounds like a good idea...I have a dinner date Thursday and then a coffee/movie date on Saturday...aaahhhh this is my first time going out with anyone I've met online so it's going to be very interesting!
Pizzaman81 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 That sounds like a good idea...I have a dinner date Thursday and then a coffee/movie date on Saturday...aaahhhh this is my first time going out with anyone I've met online so it's going to be very interesting! Remember, people from online are normal people too, they deserved to be treated normally and not pointing finger at them and saying "HAHAA YOU LIVED ON THE INTERNET!" We're all on the internet, so are you.
tigressA Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Remember, people from online are normal people too, they deserved to be treated normally and not pointing finger at them and saying "HAHAA YOU LIVED ON THE INTERNET!" We're all on the internet, so are you. I know, just that it seems different, meeting someone online FIRST, and then meeting them in person. Never done that before. That was what I meant. It's late, my brain isn't functioning at its highest level right now...
czechmate09 Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 OK PG....only thing I have to offer as advice here, and maybe I am being to sensitive....Have the courtesy to tell these guys, if not on date one, at least on date two...that you are "multi-dating".... If one of them turns out to be special....it would hurt them to know that you were dating around when your "special time" together began....Yes, nothing wrong with dating around, but make it known up front. I can speak from experience, I called off the dogs so to speak, when I went on my first date with my SO. I stopped chatting with eveyone else....my SO did not. I found this out recently, and it hurts me....makes me feel almost like I was cheated on. Anyway...just my thought.
torranceshipman Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 I think it is quite funny how there are so many threads on here about people on internet dating sites being dodgy, when the person originating the discussion is also registered on the internet dating site, and our medium for discussing the potential dodginess of internet dating is conducted over the Internet! Lol :D:D
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