seve8118 Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Alright last night my girl friend and I went over to best friends who ive known for 16 years house and we all ended up drinking quite a bit. Typically my buddy does flirt a lot with my girlfriend but it never really bothered me to much because I had complete trust in her and I didnt ever think that she would do anything with another guy especially my best friend. Well anyways my buddy ended up going up stairs to his room because he said he was feeling sick from drinking so much. So my girl got him a glass of water and took it up stairs so he wouldnt be hung over the next day. She was up there for probably like 15 minutes but I didnt really think anything of it. Then the next day she shows up at my house crying to tell me her and my bestfriend madeout when she went up there. Ive been dating this girl for just over two years and I really just dont know what to think about everything. As soon as she told me I told her to leave my house. But know I find my self wondering she was up there for 15 minutes what else could have happen in that time and what would have happen if I hadnt been there at all. I know they were both pretty drunk but even when im drunk I know who my girlfriend is and I would never do anything to hurt are relationship. I do love her a lot and we were already talking about marriage after we both finish college but I just dont know how I could ever trust her completely again. I think what makes it worse is that it was my best friend that she kissed. Any advice would be nice
stoneymirror Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 my advice, move on. She's obviously not that into you if she's willing to go down that road. Even if you stuck it out, you're always going to wonder if she's being faithful. Save yourself some trouble and move on. I wouldn't look back. And I'd seriously reconsider who your friends are. Seriously don't go back you're gonna get hurt in the end. You may love her but she's not loving you. This sort of behavior will never be tolerated in my life and I suggest you respect yourself and move on from this. It's hard but it's the best thing you can do I gurantee it.
samsungxoxo Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Yes you do have the rights to rethink the whole relationship. But something tells me she is probably only telling you part of the story. 15 long minutes for a kiss only?? ummm, something did went on. Even if it didn't and it was true what she said you would still be wondering the ''what if I had gone up there'' question in your mind... So I don't know. If you want to work this out then she has to be honest about the whole story, not just a version of it.
Author seve8118 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Your probably right I just didnt know if I was overreacting because we all were really drunk but in the end she had to of known what she was doing. If we were all sober when it happen then without a doubt I would have ended it right for sure. The biggest worry would be is this going to happen again in another few months or a year. I just dont understand because she still is telling me that she wants to be with only me forever and that it would never happen again.
lostandalone1980 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 i don't think i've ever advised this before, but in this case... i would break your 'best friend's' nose. punch him right in the face, send him to the hospital. make him have to wear one of those god-awful plastic guards on his face for the next 2 months. i'm actually quite serious. word will get out why this happened...you'll be respected...and your (hopefully ex) girlfriend will be mocked, almost akin to the scarlet letter type of public humiliation which she deserves. so sorry you had to go through this man.
McGrupp Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 this sorta thing happened to me last year. the gf went out to the bar with these guys from work. i wasnt allowed to go. i allowed her. it was her bday. meanwhile im sending her flowers to her work and shopping for a card. anyway i get a call in the AM. she wants to tell me something. she made out with one of the guys. sweet. i tell her its over. 2 weeks of her hassling me and i take her back (btw the kissing was a eruption of 3 months of bull****) so...lets fast forward. this year she gets distant again. goes out with work friends. im pretty sure she wasnt doing anything but...i never got my trust back. ever. and it eventually destroyed the relationship. god what a bitch.
Zeegagge Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Yah, move on, you may love her but this is a sign that she's confused. My girl did the basically the same thing and after much pleading I decided to stay with her. Really bit me in the ass in the end. The writing's on the wall even if she can't read it.
Author seve8118 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Thank you to everyone that responded to this post. I just went out to the bar with one of my other good friends and had a good conversation about everything that has happen. He basically told me either forgive her 100% or not at all. She is still calling me but I have not answered in the end I feel like I could never 100% let everthing go evn if I was to get back with her could I really forgive and forget this is the question that I have been asking myself over and over. I truelly dont feel like I could ever let it go but at the same time ive never trusted a person more then I trusted her even now after this happen Im glad that she told me atleast she was honest and I didnt have to hear about it from someone else. But then again it was my best friend that she kissed the bottom line love ****ing blows.
Author seve8118 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 i don't think i've ever advised this before, but in this case... i would break your 'best friend's' nose. punch him right in the face, send him to the hospital. make him have to wear one of those god-awful plastic guards on his face for the next 2 months. i'm actually quite serious. word will get out why this happened...you'll be respected...and your (hopefully ex) girlfriend will be mocked, almost akin to the scarlet letter type of public humiliation which she deserves. so sorry you had to go through this man. The sad thing is we were bowling a few weeks ago and he got his nose broken for talking **** by some guy at the bowling ally and I jumped in and knocked the other guy out cold. He was truelly probably the only friend that I would have done this for
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