Payden Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Hi there, I hope to hear if anyone on this site has ever felt like I do or offer some advice and just some good chat. ********************* I know most of my recent annoyances is due to being quite lonely, not being at the top of where I should be at my age(33) and other things that seem to pile up and never get done(because I don't feel like it). My car is busted(currently trying to get it going again) and I have no other means of transportation(I have to get rides) My house is a mess and I need to get it clean, but having a broke down car annoys me to the point I don't feel like cleaning the house until the car is done. My emotions go a lot deeper than this. I have been lonely from having a less then great love life and dealing with family drama... Everything just seems so dark and blah. Just seems like everything annoys me... If I hurt my hand when the wrench slips I will cuss and put up a fit to the point where I threw my wrench at the car and dented it. I also explode on people...they try to help, but I get so annoyed that I feel like just degrading myself by making myself look like an ******* or something. I guess I feel like I am not getting any place.... When others my age are out having fun in the snow with their GF's or going to the movies, advancing in life, I feel as if I am just stuck in a mud puddle fixing my stupid car..... I should have the money to get it done, but I don't...just tired of doing all this worthless crap and not getting anywhere. I just want to stop being so annoyed at every little thing... I get so bent up that I lose friends and I never get anything done. I'm sick of hurting people, but I get so annoyed that I just want to pound my head in. I know I am a good guy, but I cannot shake this being annoyed thing.... It makes me look like am *******. If something goes right..then I finally feel good, but then it's to late...because I lost something in a fit. Just tired of it...it has to stop. Anyone know at all what I'm trying to say?... Thank you for any insight.
Lishy Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I have never acted like that but I know quite a few people who are like that and it is not nice to be around it ... You need to go and get help and quickly or your life will never progress and no girl would put up with witnessing that and no job will tolerate that behaviour I am not sure what causes it but with the right help you will be able to work out why you are like that and take steps to change it It is not attractive behaviour in any way, shape or form and you coming here to talk about it is a great sign you want to change! Good luck
New_Life08 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Oh My! you and my bf should hang out! lol. His car recently broke down and it is going to cost a kings ransom to fix it. He also has some family stresses, his hours were cut at work, and to top this all off he is ADD. So he gets really irritated at times and has bouts of irrational anger. I can understand to some degree since I have the ADD issues too. When I get in stressful situations that seem to have no end, I feel like a tick about to pop. But, what helped me with that pattern is having kids. I had to learn to deal with a lot of stress without taking it out on them. I also bought self-help books through Amazon that helped other issues in my life and actually helped control the anger. I would definitely recommend that you check out Amazon and search self-help books on stress, anger, etc. You can get used books really reasonable. I think it is normal to get mad when a wrench slips, you hurt yourself and cuss. But when it lingers into relationships it is something you should get a handle on because it makes others afraid to approach you, not to mention it can cause health problems. Sometimes it's really hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel, but when you do (and you will) you won't want to celebrate alone.
Author Payden Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 no girl would put up with witnessing that. I agree fully on that. One of the reasons I keep myself from falling in love or trying for relationships is the exact fact you stated. At least I know not to bring anyone else into my life until I can fully control my emotions. I'm also feeling lonely with no one here with me, but I'd rather be lonely than keep hurting someone Else's feelings when I have a tantrum. Don't get me wrong though.. I don't punch everything and say mean things to anyone's face, I generally keep it to myself, but it creeps out sometimes when I am near family or friends. It had escalated to the point a bag of chips being opened really annoyed me..people mumbling..ect ect.. anything could easily annoy me. What I want to try and do is stop myself then try to relax and come up with a solution to something that is annoying rather than go off on it. I believe that is the part I need help in trying to achieve and for once I am wanting to put forth the effort. Just tired of wasting my life over this. Thank you for the advice.
Author Payden Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 Oh My! you and my bf should hang out! lol. His car recently broke down and it is going to cost a kings ransom to fix it. He also has some family stresses, his hours were cut at work, and to top this all off he is ADD. So he gets really irritated at times and has bouts of irrational anger. I don't have ADD, but I know how it feels when everything piles up. My car also was busted for two weeks. Just two days ago I was able to save lots of money and fixed it myself. I did some complex repairs to the engine in my car that trained mechanics usually do . Al I had was what I found online and I bought a few specialty tules specific for that engine. I saved over 700 dollars doing this myself and I am pretty proud of myself that it actually runs now. That is one worry out of the way... I got annoyed big time last week over it, but this week I told myself to calm down, take it slow and get this car running again. It runs fine now. Good luck to your BF ...I know how it feels.
Template Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 You should go seek some counseling. <I'll wait until you calm down> . . . . . . . . . . One of the sign of depression is short-temper and irritibility, and I'm pretty sure the holiday season doesn't truly help. A lot of times, this time of the year is especially rough on the depressed. One of the first things you have to do, is be open to the thought that you might be suffering from clinical depression, and maybem, just maybe, you'll try to seek some help. I know how you feel as I personally don't have any sympathy for anything, and I know that's bad. However, I do a great job of keeping my annoyances, and irritation bottled up inside. This is NOT more healthy than you lashing out. If you do need to lash out, lash out to us here on the forum. Eventually things will get better.
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