InspiredbyYou Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Not to thread jack, but I think we might be going out for a date. We'll see. Oh yeaaay! Secretly, I wish love upon all of you. Shhhh don't tell anyone...
dreamergrl Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 So OP took down the shirtless picture and lost the arrogant title? Now he just needs to work on correspondence.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Seriously, Lost n Confused endured quite the beating from us today and he took it like a man. You should change your name to Found & On A Mission. I hope all the changes get you closer to your goal. ;-)
dudet Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Thanks, ill use your edit. no prob. just wondering about something else i saw on your profile. you have that you are undecided about kids. believe it or not, you have to realize that it could turn a lot of women off. many women do not want to start a relationship with someone who doesn't know if they want kids. i mean it is your decision, but just saying
thegreatmoose Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 no prob. just wondering about something else i saw on your profile. you have that you are undecided about kids. believe it or not, you have to realize that it could turn a lot of women off. many women do not want to start a relationship with someone who doesn't know if they want kids. i mean it is your decision, but just saying That's an interesting question. There are people that say "no" to kids or "yes" to kids which have clear meanings, but the "maybe" can have many meanings. It could mean that no decision is made yet or it could mean that they are open to having kids if she really wants them or not if she doesn't want them. Putting "maybe" in could open up the profile to both women who have "no" and "yes" for kids, but it could also have the opposite effect. I'd be interested in how the "maybe" affects women's responses to profiles such as this one.
dreamergrl Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 At this point in my life, I don't want kids, so I put undecided, as I'm not sure if I'll want them in the future. I'm more apt to profiles that say no or undecided because that is where I am at at this point.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Actually the kids thing is an excellent point. It totally matters. A guy who says maybe seems like he may be more inclined to no than yes. Also a guy who says yes I would interpret that he is thinking long term. Again, different for the age group I suppose...don't know too many 20 yr olds that are thinking marriage and kids withing the next 5. But v good point nonetheless...
dudet Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 i'm not sure what options they offer on that site. usually I pick "someday" as in having kids someday
thegreatmoose Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 This could open up a whole new can of worms, but words like "maybe" or "someday" often don't tell the whole story. Some people clarify with a sentence in their profiles, but that could do more harm than good if not done carefully or clearly.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 yeah someday does sound better than undecided, undecided typically means no but I don't want to commit to a full no in case I change my mind LOL
Yukikazi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 *changes his POF occupation to "I make dishes out of recycled kitty litter"*
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Undecided is neutral. I don't know if I want kids.. If I meet the right girl and she wanted kids id be open to it." Right now all I want is happiness and success. Bringing someone into this world is huge. I guess ill change it thou.
dudet Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 i think its funny how this site ask if you have a car lol...i've never seen that on any site
Yukikazi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 i think its funny how this site ask if you have a car lol...i've never seen that on any site Agreed.. I believe that disqualifies me for alot of people as I no longer have one. I live in a city with useale public tranist.. haven't needed a car for 3+ years.. on the occasions I do I am part of a car sharing service.. But man it really does suck trying to date w/o a car...
dudet Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Undecided is neutral. I don't know if I want kids.. If I meet the right girl and she wanted kids id be open to it." Right now all I want is happiness and success. Bringing someone into this world is huge. I guess ill change it thou. ok i thought that you probably meant that, but what other options are there besides undecided? if you think you really want them when you meet the right girl, someday or yes might actually be a better choice
Yukikazi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Agreed.. I believe that disqualifies me for alot of people as I no longer have one. I live in a city with useale public tranist.. haven't needed a car for 3+ years.. on the occasions I do I am part of a car sharing service.. But man it really does suck trying to date w/o a car... Really hate that we cannot edit things once someone else posts.. I can't even fix my spelling mistakes
dudet Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Agreed.. I believe that disqualifies me for alot of people as I no longer have one. I live in a city with useale public tranist.. haven't needed a car for 3+ years.. on the occasions I do I am part of a car sharing service.. But man it really does suck trying to date w/o a car... yeah then you might feel the need to explain it in the essay or at least i would. kind of weird they ask that of all things
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 If she lives close I have no problem with her not having a car.
v g Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 My vote is for BobSacramento's suggestion of 'Let's make our dreams come true...Is that too gay?' It's funny, endearing, shows you're secure in your masculinity, and will no doubt stand out from other boring titles.
v g Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 (edited) Lost, throughout these versions of your profile, I have yet to read what you bring to the table, what you are offering. This is your opportunity to entice. Perhaps: If you are looking for an outgoing, laid-back individual, look no further. Do you enjoy anything from going out on the town to an exhilarating outdoor adventure? So do I! I bet you enjoy romantic, quiet evenings at home. Me too! My aspiration in life is to become a professional pilot, and I am currently working on my flight instructor rating. Perhaps a plane ride and picnic one day? I also dance salsa and ballroom. Care to dance? I am looking to have a great time and share adventures with a special woman, someone that enjoys going to the gym with me, someone that is up to trying new activities, a woman that speaks up and says what's on her mind. So if you are up for a fast-paced, adventurous lifestyle, please send me a message. I promise I won't bring my mom with me when we meet. Victor Couldn't help the mom comment. Anyone else have any suggestions for making this profile funny and light? And, um, no comment on the shirtless photo. I have no room to speak. Edited December 8, 2009 by v g
shadowplay Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Lost, throughout these versions of your profile, I have yet to read what you bring to the table, what you are offering. This is your opportunity to entice. Perhaps: If you are looking for an outgoing, laid-back individual, look no further. Do you enjoy anything from going out on the town to an exhilarating outdoor adventure? So do I! I bet you enjoy romantic, quiet evenings at home. Me too! My aspiration in life is to become a professional pilot, and I am currently working on my flight instructor rating. Perhaps a plane ride and picnic one day? I also dance salsa and ballroom. Care to dance? I am looking to have a great time and share adventures with a special woman, someone that enjoys going to the gym with me, someone that is up to trying new activities, a woman that speaks up and says what's on her mind. So if you are up for a fast-paced, adventurous lifestyle, please send me a message. I promise I won't bring my mom with me when we first meet. Victor I think the first paragraph of your edit sounds too much like an ad. I'd suggest something more natural, even if that means forgoing some of the "snap." Here's my EDIT: I would describe myself as outgoing and laid-back. Depending on my mood, I enjoy an exciting night on the town or a quiet evening at home. I am currently working toward my dream of becoming a professional pilot. When not hitting the skies, I like to dance (salsa and ballroom), work out and explore the outdoors. I would love to meet a vivacious woman who is willing to embark with me on mini adventures. If you feel this describes you, please message me!
Art_Critic Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 When I doing online dating I used to google the woman's profile/name and or certain key phrases in her about me area to see if they came up on any webpages or other sites .. etc.. etc.. hopefully his potential dates won't google his profile as LS will pop up and they will eliminate him based on this thread Too bad really..as his profile is really pretty good now...
Yukikazi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 This is why you never use the same login/usernames for all sites
v g Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Hopefully after reading this thread, his potential dates will have appreciated that OP is not a player, has really put himself out there, cares about his health and physique with a nice end result, and has a lot to offer. He's endured a beating on this thread amazingly well with a pretty good attitude. OP, no doubt you will do well if you listen to and implement the sage advice you have been given on LS.
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