takenusername Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I met this girl months ago, playing WoW. She has shown a lot of interest and I am confident that it isn't just for the sake of being friendly. We do flirt quite a bit, and I find myself going through the days with her constantly on my mind. We talk on voice chat all day, and she sends me random texts quite often as well. There are some barriers here though... First off, she lives about 4500 miles away... on the opposite side of the country. We have not met in person yet, but she has mentioned a possible visit next month. The other problem is she is already in a relationship. This is the hardest part, because I have a lot of value in a strong relationship and the last thing I want to do is break people apart and feel selfish. However from some of the things she has told me, it's becoming quite clear that she isn't happy where she is. So here's me asking for an opinion. Should I say something? I am mainly afraid of saying something, having it backfire... and then losing her as a friend as well. But I get the feeling that she wants to tell me as well but is having those same thoughts of scaring me away. Is there an easy way to tell her how I feel without completely dropping a bomb on it? Adding to that, her response. If she is positive, how should we go about moving it to the next step? On the other hand, with a negative response how can I keep her as a friend when it's all out in the open? Sigh... it's never easy is it.
Unistudent Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 My advice is to let it be for now. If you guys are meant to be together and that attraction grows to the point when she is willing to break up with her boyfriend to be available for you... than it will happen. See if you tell her how you feel and she accepts it and you guys start seeing eachother... than you may feel guilty about breaking up a relationship. If you wait and stay her friend for now until she either realizes that she would rather be with you... or gets sick of the direction that her relationship is going in and op's for being single again... There will be no fault on your end and your conscious will be clear... right? That is the way I would handle it. From what your wrote you do seem to respect relationships... cheers to that... there are too many d*uches out there that don't Umm... as for moving it to the next step... I am not sure... I am new to LD relationships will most likely not be in one at all by... tomorrow I think... lol... so ... yeah. If she doesn't feel the same... all I can say is that it may be awkward for a bit... she may even be angry at you for making an advance when she has a bf. Who knows... well someone on here probably does but not me Good luck and hang in there... and no nothing with LD is ever easy... lol... except ignoring her if she is nagging... lol JOKING ladies!
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