j_cali_man Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 So my ex gf of 3 years landed into the arms of a dashing co-worker who lent an ear. Im 34 and she is 26. Anyhow, took 2-3 weeks for this to happen and I saw it with my own eyes 6 weeks after our split (this weekend) ouch. Question for the group...how long before your ex was into a new relationship and how long did it last (if it ended)? She's pretty head over heels which burns but also tells me that ours was not what i thought it was. Thanks. J
Denamarie Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Are you upset because you are alone and she has someone? It shouldn't matter if you guys are broken up. unless, she broke up with you and you still have feelings for her-then I guess it would make sense. Usually, a relationship right after a recent break up would be considered a "rebound," but a really good friend of mine went into a relationship about a week after breaking up with her long time bf and her and this guy are crazy in love and have been going strong for 5 years. So it's hard to say. I think you should go find someone you are head over heels with.
Beeotch Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 So my ex gf of 3 years landed into the arms of a dashing co-worker who lent an ear. Im 34 and she is 26. Anyhow, took 2-3 weeks for this to happen and I saw it with my own eyes 6 weeks after our split (this weekend) ouch. Question for the group...how long before your ex was into a new relationship and how long did it last (if it ended)? She's pretty head over heels which burns but also tells me that ours was not what i thought it was. Thanks. J Ahhh well he officially got into a relationship in Aug and we broke up in March. But we had still been hanging out and all this up until June. He claimed he was dating her since May, but I think it's a lie. I have my theory as to how that scenario got started, one reason being me going NC and leaving him to his own ridculous devises. They broke up in Nov. But since day one the relationship was a sham. If your ex is not completely over you and hasn't worked our their issues...then most likely the rebound scenario will fail because what they're doing is essentially using this other person to not deal with their hurt. Sometimes they themselves don't realize it.........then as time goes by they start seeing the rebound situation for what it really is.
Beeotch Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 (edited) Are you upset because you are alone and she has someone? It shouldn't matter if you guys are broken up. unless, she broke up with you and you still have feelings for her-then I guess it would make sense. Usually, a relationship right after a recent break up would be considered a "rebound," but a really good friend of mine went into a relationship about a week after breaking up with her long time bf and her and this guy are crazy in love and have been going strong for 5 years. So it's hard to say. I think you should go find someone you are head over heels with. Im sorry but this is like so unrealistic...no one would be on loveshack if you could choose to run out and find someone you're head over heels with. Actually that is kind of how rebounds work....you break up and instead of processing things you run and find someone else and then you direct your misplaced emotions towards them making you feel as if you're so head over heels. It's usually not a good look. But you are right about the time...the time period doesn't matter as much as the actual feelings. If the person was cheating or stopped loving/liking you a while before you broke up then it is easier for them to move on for real. Whereas if you never get over/got over your ex of 2 years ago...every other relationship in that 2 years can be a rebound. Edited December 9, 2009 by Beeotch
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