lilbelle Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Okay, so when we finalized the divorce neither one of us could say what we wanted to do with the dogs (3 of them). There was a couple of reasons. My living arrangements at the time did not allow for pets. I had just been fired from my job and couldn't just readily move until I got a game plan in order. Anyway, fast forward. I am currently living where I can have a pet and would like the youngest husky to live with me. I miss her terribly. I was the soul provider of the huskies while married, I paid for their training, food, vet bills, grooming, I ran them daily even in the middle of winter. He is insistent that taking her from the pack and her acre yard to my apartment is cruel to her so I suggested a temp custody of one week here one week there and maybe even switching them out, in other words me taking one each week and the fourth week of each month they all are back at his house. He just says nothing, silence and looks at me like my brain is not there. Am I right? I mean I have raised those dogs, spent countless hours training them, thousands of dollars on them and I feel I should have a right to spend some time with them. There are other issues too. Last time I was there I ran my hands through the youngest girls coat and it's oily, shedding, I know he isn't having them groomed. Then his girlfriend, the one he slept with for the last 2 years of our marriage has basically set up shop in the house. She smacked lady v's nose because lady wouldn't sit for her right in front of me. These dogs were trained with a master trainer that trains police dogs, they are incredibly disciplined. I paid a fortune to have them trained that way. Then the gf tells me that lady v has been peeing in the kitchen... I was like no ****, maybe because you don't respect her and you have completely untrained her. I showed her how to ask her to sit since she is trained on hand signals and never has to be spoken to to get her to do something. The gf was like, that doesn't work... I feel like my youngest child is being abused. I know shes not happy as she cries out loud when ever I go over there, like please take me with you. This is breaking my heart and I need to know if any of you have dealt with this.
EcstasyX6 Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 That sucks Lil. I have a dog and a cat who I love dearly, and if my STBX demands to keep them, he'll have a fight on his hands because I am their primary caretaker. I know woulda, shoulda doesn't help now, but this really should have been addressed before your divorce was finalized. I'm not sure what kind of legal recourse you have at this point. I would think that since he has his new life with his gf, he probably doesn't like the idea of you popping in weekly to address the issue with the dogs. Maybe that explains the blank look. Do you have any friends or family nearby with a large property where you could keep them?
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