eternal.denied84 Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Guys, I have been on NC from past 20 days..I would like to have a second chance from my gf because deep down somewhere i feel that its bcoz of me we brokeup..even though the things she said while breaking up was not sensible at all..and she said very mean words like she never really loved me and blah blah which made me lost my control and say some bad words to her..I am repenting it now and i seriously want to get back to her. here is my story,its long but it would give an insight in my situation. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2524887#post2524887 Please suggest what would be best steps to take in order to get her back for good. or do you really think I should get back to her?
Author eternal.denied84 Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 though she says she broke up with me coz i make her feel insulted..i always use to talk about other girls,never appreciated her for anything,made her feel like ****,use to praise my ex in front of her and blah blah.. i said sorry thousand times for all this and promised her that it would not happen in future but she didn't agree to change her decision..were my mistakes unforgivable? i committed those mistakes because i was having trust issues with her..pls read my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2524887#post2524887 i even went to her crossing distance of thousand miles to convince her..but she didnt listen to me.. she has cleared to me she want to live alone..she wants freedom..she wants me to get away from her life..and so to maintain my dignity i am on NC..but i would really wnat her back if i can do anything and if its all because of me.. I am totally confused..has she really broken up bcoz i was not treating her right or her attraction has faded and she is just trying to use my bad deeds as excuse.. what should i do?
lilbelle Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 You are only now hitting the wall. Keep banging your head against it until you put a hole through it. In other words, you need more time. Make it till friday at least, then reevaluate your feelings again. What is it that you miss? Why do you want her back? Make a list, I'm serious. If you can't fill a freaking page front and back with all the things you miss and love move on. If you want her back you have to be willing to sacrifice some things, number 1, your time, if you go back to the old ways this will repeat, believe me I know as that's where I am heading. I love my man but I am not someones convenience nor a doormat. Plenty of men out there that can provide time. When you contact her it better be in person, and you better have something meaningful to say. Rehearse it and prepare for either a full forgiveness or a serious lashing.
Author eternal.denied84 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 hey guys , Is NC a right step for me considering the fact that she broke up with me because i was indifferent to her..or was not there for her when she wanted and was not treating her as special person..,she felt i insulted her,i always compared her with other girls and rated them better than her atleast these are the reasons she claim for breakup..i have no idea if this is true or just an excuse..yes i did those things but to a very minor extent and that too there was reason why i could not shower her with love. for details here is my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t212099/ now the tables are turned ..i begged and pleaded her numerous times..assured those things would never happen from my side now..and i wud always keep her happy but she is not ready to come back. my question..am i taking right step by staying NC?? if i want her back.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Wanting her back is immaterial now. You can't affect what she does by the intensity of wanting her back. NC is going to be best for you, and you need to do it for one reason and one reason only: to detox and heal. This is your time to try to put your head and heart back together. It is not a trick to get someone back. If they don't want to come back, nothing and I mean nothing is going to change that. You have to move forward from here, and you will have to do it without her.
Author eternal.denied84 Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 You are only now hitting the wall. Keep banging your head against it until you put a hole through it. In other words, you need more time. Make it till friday at least, then reevaluate your feelings again. What is it that you miss? Why do you want her back? Make a list, I'm serious. If you can't fill a freaking page front and back with all the things you miss and love move on. If you want her back you have to be willing to sacrifice some things, number 1, your time, if you go back to the old ways this will repeat, believe me I know as that's where I am heading. I love my man but I am not someones convenience nor a doormat. Plenty of men out there that can provide time. When you contact her it better be in person, and you better have something meaningful to say. Rehearse it and prepare for either a full forgiveness or a serious lashing. As you asked i waited till friday..i miss her so much and i can be sure that i love her..but does this really matter if she doesnt love me anymore..is it really possible that a girl who use to live/die for me can say that she is not in love with me anymore and also she said that she never loved me..so what was all that..isn't it disgusting..i am feeling pathetic if she really broke up with me because i was not giving her that respect/time..but what if she is just trying to put blame on me bcoz she is not brave enough to tell me the truth..is it right on me to sit and mope and feel guilty of everything i did?
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