looking4 green grass Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Right when I thought I had left Jr. High in the past where it belongs (oh about 15 years ago) I find that I have not. I met this girl about 3.5 years ago, and we instantly hit it off. We did all kinds of fun girlie things together, held each other up through breaks ups, deaths, and everything else. We celebrated the good times and understood each other more than almost any other friend I had ever made. In September, she got married, and I was in her wedding as a bridesmaid. She started talking to me a lot less about 6 weeks before the wedding, and when I confronted her on it, she said she was giving me "space" to be with this new guy I had met. I thought that was odd as I had been her main wedding support for the entire year of her engagement. The actual week of the wedding she was Bridezilla on steroids. She was SO RUDE all week (I went and spent the entire week before the wedding with her to help her with whatever she needed.) Any time she didn't get her way, she would start pitching a fit, saying SHE was the bride and "She got this moment!" I can't tell you how many times I heard that line. After the wedding she stopped talking to me completely. I called her and texted her all the time, like we normally did and she would never respond. Or when she did, it was short and curt. I asked her so many times if she was ok, etc. I finally went back to her hometown (about a 6 hour drive for me) and got her to make some plans with me the week before I got there. She ignored me for three solid days before I left for my trip and never set a time or a place for us to get together. The day we had tentatively planned to met, she sent a "I can't believe you stood me up" text message. So I let her have it. I told her how she had been acting and how rude she had been since the wedding. I saw her later that weekend at an event we were both invited to, and she totally snubbed me. Awesome. She later texts me a bunch of stuff telling me that of all her friends I'm the "only one" holding her current life situation against her (lost her job the same week she got married). I told her that her lack of job was no excuse to ignore me, and asked why she thought that since I had made all the effort to talk to her since she got married. She never responded to anything I said again (it's been a few weeks now) and then I noticed she deleted me from facebook. Apparently that was her way of dealing with me telling her she was being a B*%ch. She's pulled this kind of stuff before, and I know she thrives on drama. I decided this time to not fall into the game and I deleted her number from my phone so I wouldn't be tempted to say anything. She's just so selfish and I'm wondering how I've missed it. I drove 6 hours to see her every two months for two years, she NEVER drove to see me. Not once. When her little sister got pregnant several months before her wedding, she called me crying saying her sister got pregnant to steal "her spotlight" and was furious that her sister would receive attention for being pregnant at her showers and at the wedding. When her little sister-in-law announced she was pregnant as well, she told me that the SIL and her sister better have the same sex baby because she was the oldest and it she should get to be first at something. Who says that? Who gets upsets and cries b/c her little sister and little SIL are pregnant and that will "ruin" their wedding. How was I friends with this girl!!! And what's up with the facebook delete? Should I acknowledge it at all in any way, or literally keep ignoring it and go on?
jerbear Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Don't worry about the Facebook deletes. This is similar to deleting a person's phone number in their phones. Let her do whatever and this her idea of don't call me anymore talk.
J dub Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 How was I friends with this girl!!! And what's up with the facebook delete? Should I acknowledge it at all in any way, or literally keep ignoring it and go on? OMG NO! This is the narcissistic sp? type that, regardless of good/bad/neutral attention, it's at least attention and she will take it. She needs to be in the spotlight (is she a leo? lol) ALL the time, and god knows this type of hellion is a pain in the arse beyond words. Consider it a blessing in disguise - these type of individuals SUCK the life out of normal folks like yourself. And, seriously, the facebook delete was definitely a cry for attention on some level. Otherwise, why bother? ugh, let me tell you: been there, done that...NO THANKS. I hate those types of people - god, who acts like that? My little sister is one. s;ojfdljflkejr34 /frustration.
imani Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 (edited) Sounds like you've got yourself an emotional vampire. Just as J Dub said, she will suck the life out of you. Ignore her tantrums, ignore the facebook delete, ignore her narcissism (sp?). You shouldn't need people in your life who makes you feel bad from doing good. That "freindship" sounds too one sided. Based on what you described here, I can't see how your actions would warrant this type of outburst from her. And she totally sounds like the type of person who, once she does become pregnant, will pitch a fit if someone "takes" her baby's name. Good grief. She deleted you off of her facebook, you should just delete her out of your life. Edited December 8, 2009 by imani
freestyle Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Just think of how much happier you're going to be down the road, when you no longer have to spend your precious free time dealing with the "drama du jour" from this person. I jettisoned a "friend" like that myself a couple of years ago and I'm much happier now.Life's far too short to waste time on lopsided realtionships.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I also have managed to weed out the people in my life that are parasites! Life is just too short. No need to be ugly or cause a scene, just ween them. She's actually done you a favor!
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