brownIDgirl Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 heLLo aLL. i'm curious as to how long NC is suppose to last. is there ever a point when i can answer his calls or respond to his texts? real quick: my guy and i have been apart for like 2 months now, technically.i broke up w/him btw. however, i have done NC twice. this time it's been 2 weeks since i have responded to anything from him. keeps calling and texting basically everyday to ask why i'm not picking up the phone and stuff like he wished he could come to keep me warm, blah blah. my reason for going NC is b/c he acts immature and i don't want to continue with someone who makes me feel like he's always plotting and planning to hurt me again if i don't give him what he wants, i.e. time, affection, attention, conversation, emotion, etc. i can't believe he's still calling after he only does dumb stuff whenever i don't do what he wants... should i respond with anything ...via text? e.g., " i don't want drama", "stop calling", "you're such a douche"...?
Hannah86 Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 It sounds like you have done everything correctly: you broke up with him, and now you are ignoring him, thus not leading him on. If it is bothering you, I would suggest you politely and kindly ask him to stop and do NOT give him any hints that would make him think you are still into him. He still has some hope that you will want him back and that is what you need to kill. Tell him, "Please stop contacting me. I don't want to get back together with you, and I don't ever want to get back together with you." Short and sweet. Any longer than that and he will read it over-and-over looking for hidden messages because he is persistent and optimistic. Hope that helps.
J dub Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 forever, yes - unless you change your number..in which case he may show up at your doorstep or send you emails. Eventually they get the hint. usually. For now, I would just continue to hit the delete button. If he is not meeting your needs, why would you go back?
Author brownIDgirl Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 For now, I would just continue to hit the delete button. If he is not meeting your needs, why would you go back? thanks for the responses. deleting the messages is exactly what i've been doing this last NC period... you made a great point with your last sentence...not sure why i would consider responding, much less going back. perhaps for the attention(on a bad day)...but who wants the drama that comes along with the attention? not me...
Author brownIDgirl Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 ...he is persistent and optimistic. Hope that helps. thanks hannah. it did help...more than you know. i need to be reminded of that from time to time.
J dub Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 persistent + delusional (ie optimistic) = impossible to shake. Hang in there girl, at the very least it will give you some sort of satisfaction shooting him down each and every time
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