donnamaybe Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Fixed that for you. I can honestly say, having lived in Norway for two years, that women in general in the US are so completely delusional when it comes to dating that it's laughable. Let me explain. Most women over here love jerks. Is this a quality shared because of natural programming or social brainwashing? Think about it. Most women over here want nice guys, but reject nice guys. Social brainwashing, or natural programming? I see it constantly. Girl dates guy. Guy uses girl. Girl rejects nice guy to pander over guy who used her. It's ridiculous. I am not saying ALL women over in the US are worthless, but honestly, the majority are, and this is coming from a guy with alot of dating experience and success. Socially women in the US are programmed to pine for the alpha dominant male. Most guys who portray this attitude are users prime, and women don't understand the social inequality of the equation. IDK. Just my experience. In Norway, women were eager to talk to you, and would approach you if they were interested. Not that I mind making first moves, but it's nice to feel chased too every once in a while. It's a two way street. All the women I know use this line, but they never want to put the effort in on their side of the road. I'm 1/2 Norwegian and 1/4 Swedish. Think that's the difference? Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 I'm 1/2 Norwegian and 1/4 Swedish. Think that's the difference? Definately could be. I am 1/2 Norwegian 1/4 German and 1/4 Finnish. Us North Europeans just know what we're doing Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Yet these sames "people" who say that making nice comments to someone who doesn't deserve it, is actually lying or blowing smoke up someone's ass, refuse to subject themselves to the same type of "honesty" they profess is "helpful" for others. "It's ok to criticize the 300lb woman but don't put me under the same type of scrutiny" Ironic don't you think? You talk a lot for someone who hasnt put up a picture of her face yet. And was already asked to in another post from what I remember. Lead the way lil lady. Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 You talk a lot for someone who hasnt put up a picture of her face yet. And was already asked to in another post from what I remember. Lead the way lil lady. If I recall correctly, I posted my pic first. Actually, my entire OK cupid dating profile, for all to see. So don't steel my thunder! I was first, I led the way, you cowards didn't follow. Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 If I recall correctly, I posted my pic first. Actually, my entire OK cupid dating profile, for all to see. So don't steel my thunder! I was first, I led the way, you cowards didn't follow. I don't think you were the intended recipient of that comment Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Their behavior here is directly linked to their opinions of what is "helpful" to others. Yet these sames "people" who say that making nice comments to someone who doesn't deserve it, is actually lying or blowing smoke up someone's ass, refuse to subject themselves to the same type of "honesty" they profess is "helpful" for others. "It's ok to criticize the 300lb woman but don't put me under the same type of scrutiny" Ironic don't you think? Well considering my comments in this thread.. http://www.plentyoffish.com/member9355491.htm Fire away I am aware my text profile sucks.. but *shrug* never gotten around to wording it better. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Definately could be. I am 1/2 Norwegian 1/4 German and 1/4 Finnish. Us North Europeans just know what we're doing 1/8 German here, and the rest some concoction of Scottish, Irish, and Dutch. A regular Heinz 57! I just figure out what I need and go with that; that being someone who will love me and do their best by me and mine, and I will give the same in return. When my guy is down, I’ll carry him, and when I’m down, he’ll carry me. When things are great, we enjoy the good times together. When they’re not so great, we share the burden and wait it out until the good times are back. Whatever I’m best at, I will use those skills (cooking being one) to enrich the lives of me and my loved ones, and my partner should do the same. That sounds idealistic, but that’s just who I am. Some people value money or appearances over the other stuff. I personally feel they will never have a truly fulfilling relationship. That’s their problem. Those types will find each other and hopefully leave the rest of us alone. Of course I like a measure of “hotness” in my man, but it’s not the #1 priority, nor is money, though I do need a man who seeks to take care of himself AND his loved ones physically and fiscally while also expecting his partner to do their part. No doormats OR sugar daddies for me, thanks. But I don't need an Escalade or a 4,000 sq ft house. I just want to live a reasonably comfortable life, but with lots of love in it. Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 I don't think you were the intended recipient of that comment No, I know I wasn't. I am just saying that I led the way by showing mine first haha. Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 1/8 German here, and the rest some concoction of Scottish, Irish, and Dutch. A regular Heinz 57! I just figure out what I need and go with that; that being someone who will love me and do their best by me and mine, and I will give the same in return. When my guy is down, I’ll carry him, and when I’m down, he’ll carry me. When things are great, we enjoy the good times together. When they’re not so great, we share the burden and wait it out until the good times are back. Whatever I’m best at, I will use those skills (cooking being one) to enrich the lives of me and my loved ones, and my partner should do the same. That sounds idealistic, but that’s just who I am. Some people value money or appearances over the other stuff. I personally feel they will never have a truly fulfilling relationship. That’s their problem. Those types will find each other and hopefully leave the rest of us alone. Of course I like a measure of “hotness” in my man, but it’s not the #1 priority, nor is money, though I do need a man who seeks to take care of himself AND his loved ones physically and fiscally while also expecting his partner to do their part. No doormats OR sugar daddies for me, thanks. But I don't need an Escalade or a 4,000 sq ft house. I just want to live a reasonably comfortable life, but with lots of love in it. And that's a totally fair expectation. Sad to say it isn't shared by the majority of the residents of the US. I personally want someone to respect me and accept what I provide. I know what I offer - emotional stability, respect, communication, love and honesty - and I expect and will accept nothing short of the same. I don't want a super model. I don't want a mother teresa. I want a unique person who I can love completely in all aspects of their persona and life - and who I can share myself with. That's fair, is it not? I put zero expectations on my partner beyond the basics of my function only because I realise we are all human and humanity is inherently flawed. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 And that's a totally fair expectation. Sad to say it isn't shared by the majority of the residents of the US. I personally want someone to respect me and accept what I provide. I know what I offer - emotional stability, respect, communication, love and honesty - and I expect and will accept nothing short of the same. I don't want a super model. I don't want a mother teresa. I want a unique person who I can love completely in all aspects of their persona and life - and who I can share myself with. That's fair, is it not? I put zero expectations on my partner beyond the basics of my function only because I realise we are all human and humanity is inherently flawed. Most definitely fair. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 If I recall correctly, I posted my pic first. Actually, my entire OK cupid dating profile, for all to see. So don't steel my thunder! I was first, I led the way, you cowards didn't follow. OMG is that why you posted your pic earlier? I was wondering about that! Ok thanks! It was not intended for you it was intended for the other handful of jokers who say that telling someone painful truths is the best way to go rather than compliments. I would like to share some painful truths with them about their pictures then. You talk a lot for someone who hasnt put up a picture of her face yet. And was already asked to in another post from what I remember. Lead the way lil lady. My picture is up. I will never post my full picture on here, it's a privacy issue. I have no desire to have my picture ripped off and distributed online by some bored wankers. I only brought that up to make a point to those who feel that painful truths are good for people. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 1/8 German here, and the rest some concoction of Scottish, Irish, and Dutch. A regular Heinz 57! I just figure out what I need and go with that; that being someone who will love me and do their best by me and mine, and I will give the same in return. When my guy is down, I’ll carry him, and when I’m down, he’ll carry me. When things are great, we enjoy the good times together. When they’re not so great, we share the burden and wait it out until the good times are back. Whatever I’m best at, I will use those skills (cooking being one) to enrich the lives of me and my loved ones, and my partner should do the same. That sounds idealistic, but that’s just who I am. Some people value money or appearances over the other stuff. I personally feel they will never have a truly fulfilling relationship. That’s their problem. Those types will find each other and hopefully leave the rest of us alone. Of course I like a measure of “hotness” in my man, but it’s not the #1 priority, nor is money, though I do need a man who seeks to take care of himself AND his loved ones physically and fiscally while also expecting his partner to do their part. No doormats OR sugar daddies for me, thanks. But I don't need an Escalade or a 4,000 sq ft house. I just want to live a reasonably comfortable life, but with lots of love in it. Oh god this thread has gone REALLY OT now! :laugh: This thread has gone COMPLETELY OT! Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 OMG is that why you posted your pic earlier? I was wondering about that! Ok thanks! It was not intended for you it was intended for the other handful of jokers who say that telling someone painful truths is the best way to go rather than compliments. I would like to share some painful truths with them about their pictures then. Oh. Well I posted mine simply because I wanted an opinion in a clearly opinionated thread. That, and I already know I am a decent looking dude, so anything further just adds fuel to the fire of my ego Besides that, honestly, my self image won't be damaged by anything (if anything) people on this site have to say about the way I look. So whatever. But as long as you were honest I am kosher! o.O Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 silinContoad let me ask you something since you seem to have a healthy self esteem given what you have written so far: How do you know you don't come off as creepy when you approach women? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Oh god this thread has gone REALLY OT now! Oh, please! You're the one demanding to know how people should treat each other in relationships AND being over the top argumentive. It's not very becoming either. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Oh, please! You're the one demanding to know how people should treat each other in relationships Relax! I just found it ironic you were complaining a few pages back that we were offtopic when we totally weren't, and now you post something that actually is completely offtopic. Didn't like me pointing it out did you? Please quote me on where I asked anyone to talk about "how they treat each other in a relationship?" I don't recall doing that since it has nothing to with the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
thegreatmoose Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 You talk a lot for someone who hasnt put up a picture of her face yet. And was already asked to in another post from what I remember. Lead the way lil lady. You sure throw around insults quickly. :rolleyes: Why would anyone in their right mind show a full picture of themself when they are asked in an insulting way? You've put up nothing youself. Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Oh god this thread has gone REALLY OT now! :laugh: Hey! Us Norwegians are NEVER OT! lol Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 I will never post my full picture on here, it's a privacy issue. I have no desire to have my picture ripped off and distributed online by some bored wankers. I only brought that up to make a point to those who feel that painful truths are good for people. Ha! i'm sure...I'll piggy back on your excuse for not putting up my picture., in addition to, I know where I stand, dont need any opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Ha! i'm sure...I'll piggy back on your excuse for not putting up my picture., in addition to, I know where I stand, dont need any opinions. But a 300lb woman doesn't know where she stands she needs society's brutal honesty to give her a verbal reality check! :lmao::lmao: Like the creep that approaches women who clearly want nothing to with him knows where he stands too. Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 silinContoad let me ask you something since you seem to have a healthy self esteem given what you have written so far: How do you know you don't come off as creepy when you approach women? It's all about the response. I've never gotten anything beyond a polite response. And once is enough. If I approach a woman (I'll usually use something as a reason for approaching them... I'll post an example in a sec) Depending on their body language and response, I know wether or not I should back off. I don't think if you try once, and only once, it is creepy in any way. Example. I was out with a few friends for drinks and the bar got really crowded. I saw this girl I was interested in at the bar, so instead of walking up and trying to break the ice in a ridiculous manner, I said: "Hey, can you do me a favor? All the bartenders are guys, so they will obviously ask you if you want a drink long before I get a chance to order... Can you order my drink for me?" This girl in particular laughed and said yes. I scored a number that night. So it worked. Normally I think creepy attempts are something along the lines of: Hey Hottie What's good mami So are you single? Where's your bf? IDK I keep it simple and innocent. There's nothing creepy about my approach. Plus, I try to treat women as human beings, not objects to be desired. Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Excuses excuses.. Link to post Share on other sites
thegreatmoose Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 Ha! i'm sure...I'll piggy back on your excuse for not putting up my picture., in addition to, I know where I stand, dont need any opinions. It's kind of hard to use that excuse when she has put up something and you've put up nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 I know where I stand, dont need any opinions. And a 300lb woman on facebook does? Because this is what some of you men are saying builds women's fake confidence and entitlement issues. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 10, 2009 Share Posted December 10, 2009 It's kind of hard to use that excuse when she has put up something and you've put up nothing. I dont consider a faceless picture something. Link to post Share on other sites
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