foreverfadesx Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 So, I dated my ex for about 2 years. We were only serious for maybe the last year though. We met at work and still work together (in a very tight knit environment). In August I decided that something better was out there and we broke up. We barely spoke for a month, I was away on business and we only shared one text message. I started dating someone new and she started dating a good friend of hers. In October, I realized that I couldn't be without her, stopped dating and told her I still was in love with her. She was shocked because she "thought I was gone for good this time.". She told me she loved me and if she could she would be my girlfriend again but, things are complicated and if she breaks up with her new boyfriend she's going to loose her group of friends. We hang out a few times to talk about things then we just start hanging out to see movies or get coffee. About a month ago we kissed and every time we're together we hold hands, and do normal boyfriend/girlfriend things. 2 weeks ago she offered to drive me to the airport and since my flight was early she slept over with me in my single bed. The following week she slept over one night after watching tv at my house then for my birthday we went out to dinner then to a bar and had a blast. She slept over again that night. A few times in this we have talked about where we stand and she says "I know we'll be back together, I just don't know when". I've been talking to her everyday but, haven't been at work. I try to make her see that I'm better than her current boyfriend (which is true haha) by buying her flowers, and telling her how much she means to me. A few times I've said she can't care much about her new boyfriend because she's cheating but she says she's not really and she feels guilty. Now last night we had plans but she said she couldn't disappear because he would be too suspicious. She called me and I was out with friends and I could tell she was a bit jealous, I told her I couldn't always just sit around and wait for her. Now today she's supposed to come over. I text her and when I leave work she says, I can't talk right now because I'm at my boyfriend's house. I respond, well what time, I don't want to wait around. She then says that he thinks she's leaving his house to see me and he's getting mad and I'm getting her in trouble by texting her. I respond that I'm sorry and I want to see her so bad. He response is, I tell you to stop because now he's mad and you can't. I'm going to try to not text her or call her but what should I do? I am truly in love with her and I know she feels the same way or she wouldn't tell me "i love you" and wouldn't be sleeping in my bed. The only advice I have gotten is to not make an effort with her but, I have no willpower and feel like if I don't make an effort she'll get comfortable and forget what it was like to be with me. Sorry this is rambling but it's hard to explain in this format...
jerbear Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Sounds like both of you have unresolved feelings. Her current boyfriend is jealous and rightfully so that she is hanging out with an friend who was an ex. An recent ex of all things. You as a guy has to do what YOU have to do. She has to make her own decisions. If she is upset that a friend of hers is texting her, well tough luck dude.
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