jose resh Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 (edited) This is what I feel that I should send... The more that we are apart the more I understand why you did this. I'm sure that it wasn't easy for you and am SO sorry for all of the pain that I caused and for making you feel that this was the only option. In order to make this easier for both of us I will completely stop contacting you. I hope you understand and that you will be happier for it. Good luck with school and take care of yourself, you will make an amazing social worker, counselor or whatever else you chose. I will, and have definitely learned a lot from this and simply wish that I could show you, but I completely understand how difficult this would be for you to do and know that it is unfair for me to ask it of you. And so I release you, stay true to your heart as always. Jose Resh p.s. I can't thank you enough for being honest with yourself and honest with me about your feelings I also deeply regret making this situation any more difficult then it already had to be. Thank you for all 5 years 13 days, they were all amazing and I don't regret a single one for the whole story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t212429/ If you have any thoughts please let me know Edited December 7, 2009 by jose resh
jerbear Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I do not think you should send this after reading your other thread. I would suggest keeping the letter because this will help you.
Author jose resh Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 how do you mean that it will help me to keep the letter? You think based on the other thread that there is still a chance for us?
jerbear Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Keep the letter to yourself. The writing exercise is good for you, it is a step forward. I don't think there is an immediate chance for you two to get back together. Granted who knows what the future holds.
Author jose resh Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 thanks I just finished grad school... (marge was right) So now I am needing to move on with my life. I was really hoping that something would stay the same but it seems that I now have a whole world of possibilities. I am planning on traveling until the end of February so that may give us both enough time to clear our heads and re-member what is important to us. I don't know anymore. I really want to propose but most of me knows that this is a horrible time to do so and that the relationship has to be built on a stronger foundation.
jerbear Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 thanks I just finished grad school... (marge was right) So now I am needing to move on with my life. I was really hoping that something would stay the same but it seems that I now have a whole world of possibilities. I am planning on traveling until the end of February so that may give us both enough time to clear our heads and re-member what is important to us. I don't know anymore. I really want to propose but most of me knows that this is a horrible time to do so and that the relationship has to be built on a stronger foundation. I remember graduate school! I had something very similar. Have fun on your trip and congrats on the graduate degree.
Torn_apart Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 What is your intention for sending this letter? Do you truly believe what you wrote or are you harboring some hope that she will spring to her senses and come back to you after reading the letter? Either way, you are only causing yourself more agony if you send that. If she replies you, it will be something that will rend you apart. If she doesn't, you're gonna hate yourself for even writing that letter.
Author jose resh Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 I will try to learn from your experience then...where would I find it? Thank you. It all seems hollow right now but I am proud that I finished. Congratulations to you as well!!!
Author jose resh Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 (edited) Thanks Torn my intentions for sending the letter would be to start to get over her. It would be much easier if I was able to convince myself that it was over... maybe just writing it and never sending it is all that i needed. Also I would really like to tell her that I need to start NC but don't know how. I will look for advice on this in the forum. I would still be harboring a very little hope but would primarily start to move on. If she replied I believe it would be something along the same lines. I feel like if I could just make her feel better about the whole situation it would help. Maybe I'm just too nice? I don't know, I feel like I can and will continue to learn from this and I just want her to know that I don't harbor any ill will towards her, even though it hurts like hell. Its not her fault for falling out of love with me. The only thing that gets me is that she wouldn't try to work it out afterward. I would give anything for a second chance but also understand that it is not something that I can ask for, although I already have. Edited December 7, 2009 by jose resh
jerbear Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I will try to learn from your experience then...where would I find it? Thank you. It all seems hollow right now but I am proud that I finished. Congratulations to you as well!!! My experiences are pretty old, you'll have to search for them. They go back to 2006.
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