werty Posted December 17, 2003 Posted December 17, 2003 pls help.. this jst happnd today... my gf has decided to stop the relationship... som1 told her dat i have bin telling every1 about me & my GF's secrects that were supposed to be kept secrect between us only..., which i knw i didnt do it.. but she was convinced i share it with every1 & whatever i did,she just have to let go of me before i could get to say anything else.. i was some sort of a "kiss & tell" person whch i didnt understand.. pls help me, i never did it & i swear i never told anything... and she just cat trust me even if how much i try to convice her dat i rili didnt do it.... pls wat can i do? she returned to me the necklace i gave her on our first month-sarry, but i declined it.. was it even a good decicion? pls any help suggestions would do... i tried to talk to her before the day ended.. she still believes i did it coz there was no other way that person could know if no one told him.. i dont knw who this person is, nor she want me to know who it is. all she did was to believe in it and didnt even bother to ask me or get my opinion about it if it was true or not.. she said that she lost her respect for me coz i cant be trusted.. when in fact i should be the one mad coz she believe some1 else... i dont know if i should go and try to talk about it again.. i already told her i am only here to tell the truth, and that is i never said or told anything and thats the truth of wat i did.. this is very hard for me, coz i know i didnt do anything... btw, i think i would hve a hard time talking to her.her friends ere helping her to hide herself when i went there. i was only able to talk to her coz she tought i was gone but i was only waiting for her to come out... i didnt really do anything.. i dont knw wats the reason that person said it, but im sure i cant even tell our secrets to any1.. shes hurting me more this way.. i am her BF and didnt even bother askin me about it... she jst told me let this be the end,which was the hardest part for me coz i dont knw where i would stand.. *.. do i have to go ad try to talk to er again? or should i let the issue cool down before i try to talk to er again? any help or suggestion to try would do... all i could think of right now is to not bother her but im afraid i might lose her more this way or she might think i am guilty coz i didnt contacted her?... pls help me wat i should do... should i really try again & convice her? or is it that wat i told her is already enuf... i love her sooo much & i have only loved her most... i can never do that to her... pls wat should i do.. i dont wana lose her just also a question, why was she hiding? or trying to hide from me?
andreautick Posted December 18, 2003 Posted December 18, 2003 I hate to be rude, but it's really hard to understand what you're saying because of your shortened words and confusing grammer. I think if you cleaned it up you might get more responses.
Author werty Posted December 18, 2003 Author Posted December 18, 2003 ok,ill do that... i guess thats the reason why i didnt get responses... thanks... i would request the MODERATORS to pls delete/lock this thread.. ill make a new, more readable post... thanks...
dyermaker Posted December 18, 2003 Posted December 18, 2003 (Retyped for our benefit) Please Help me, this just happened today. My girlfriend has decided to end our relationship, because someone has told her I was telling her secrets. I did not do this, but she doesn't believe me. I'm bummed because she didn't give me a chance to explain to her that I didn't betray her trust. After our first month of dating, I gave her a necklace, which she has since returned to me, but being a gentleman, I refused. Was that the correct decision? I attempted conversation the day of the incident, and since these intimate secrets were known only to me, she believes that I told people them, and is steadfast in her belief. She also said she doesn't respect or trust me, much to my dismay. I'm also angered that she doesn't believe me, and instead believes her friends. This is hard for me, because I did no wrong, and I made this known to her. Additionally, I think I would have a hard time communicating with her. Her friends are "hiding" her, and she also expresses a desire to avoid me. Again, to reiterate, I didn't do anything. She's hurting me, I'm the victim. I'm her boyfriend, and she should talk to me about it. She's asked me to let it go, and realize that this is the end, but I don't know what to do. Should I continue pestering her? Any suggestions are appreciated. I'm thinking maybe I should leave her alone, but I don't want to bother her, or imply an admission of guilt. Please advise me, should I continue to convice her? Or, is my current barrage sufficeint? I really love her, and I have never loved another like her. Again, please advise me dammit, Because I don't want to lose her. Also, why was she hiding? Speaking from secondhand experience (is that an oxymoron?), this is a common way of handling adolescent relationships. Instead of her admitting to you that she doesn't want to go out with you, she's created drama, and used that to justify it. I could provide you with a myriad of evidence, but you'll probably excuse each one of them. But, here goes. 1. You didn't do anything. (She just wants people to think you did, it's about her feelings, not yours.) 2. She's hiding from you. (Stop chasing her, there's no better way to say "I don't want to communicate" than by hiding oneself) 3. Her friends are hiding her. (She's beseeched her friends to aid in your removal) 4. She asked you to drop it. (The more it goes on, the more she realizes she handled it wrong, but she still doesn't want to go out with you.) I'm totally aware this news could shock you, but I think it's evident to others as well. The relationship will likely not rekindle, as she's not interested in you anymore, and you don't seem like a person who can take that calmly enough to peak future interest. I think the only solace I can offer you is: 1. You don't really love her. You have a connection to her that's just been severed, but it's my personal opinion that you only love her now, and once you find someone to really love, and who loves you back, which you will, you'll realize how childish and self-dramatic this whole situation really was. You don't want to hear this though, so just write it down and remind me to say "Itoldjaso". 2. She'll look back one day, and feel reaallly bad about this. She'll likely mature, and learn how relationships work, and feel very ****ty about the way she handled this breakup. But don't feel like you need to explain this to her now, she just wants you to leave her alone. Edited to add: I spent like 20 minutes retyping it for him, I'd suggest that the discussion continued in here instead, please
Author werty Posted December 18, 2003 Author Posted December 18, 2003 @dreymaker : thanks for retyping it for me i made an edit myself but i guess the one you made is enough to get it to the point... so anywayz thats how the whole story went... she also told me that she has to end this relationship coz she cant trust me anymore,wether i did it or not. to her this was more than enough to provoke her to make such a harsh decision. she has to end it because she doesnt want any more than that to happen... she loved me, and i loved her but she just cant trust me no more and she has to pick up the pieces of trust she has left from the memories of us together. she told me only time will tell if she would ever regain this trust. she said it would have been much easier on her if i admitted it. but what will i admit when i didnt even do anything? she breaks the relationship we have. now,she wants me out.she doesnt wants me to contact her,txt her, or see her. at least this way it will be easier for her to think about things but she cant promise me that i would still be part of her future... i just hope that this decision she made will soon get her the answers shes been seeking for.... im wondering about what she said... she told me that our chapter was over, and that she will start another chapter of her life. but she would always turn back to the pages of our chapter over-and over again,remember me in her heart and maybe would miss me... but i guess these are jst words to easen up the pain we both feel... please if anyone wanna give his views i would really love to read them and get some ideas,views,encouragements of whats the whole situation is all about. so i willl also know how to deal with this.. pls feel free to ask anything, as long as its related and as long as it will help clarrify things... if anyone also has more or less related to this,pls feel free to contact me. this is a bit hard for me to overcome honestly because i really didnt do anything and i only wanted her to see it i would like to thanks the people who will help in advance and also to those who took time to read.... Thanks...
Author werty Posted December 18, 2003 Author Posted December 18, 2003 one thing also. im not trying to do this to save the relationship. i am more on getting the truth out and telling her the the truth which sadly she wouldnt believe she said she has to regain her trust her own way and not by the help from others... TO NOTE ALSO: this whole damn thing happened in just less than 2 days
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